The Best Ways to Cope When Stress Mounts.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
by Deepak Chopra M.D.
Dire events fill the news cycle, but realistically crises don’t usually dominate the work day. Instead, there’s a stream of minor challenges, demands, and duties that consumes our time. As a result, we’ve become a nation of highly productive people who bring work home and rarely have the luxury of a forty-hour week. This much is clear.
But the stream of daily challenges and demands also consumes something else: awareness. You want to be alert and focused at work, but to stay that way takes a set of coping skills. Most people haven’t paid attention to this need, and their range of coping skills is limited. Better coping skills will leave you more time to think and the mental space to think better.
A coping skill is anything that keeps you from being psychologically and mentally drained. Even without a crisis to deal with, the average work day can overwhelm your mental reserves. When someone is overwhelmed by daily pressures, here are the common reasons for it:
– Taking on too much responsibility.
– Trying to exert too much control.
– Micromanaging, treating the small stuff as if it’s big stuff.
– Performance anxiety, i.e., worrying about what can go wrong.
– Perfectionism.
– Demanding too much of your mental energy.
– Allocating time in inefficient ways.
You may not have looked at these as coping problems, but they are. Each one is a response to stress and pressure. To prove this to yourself, look at how you approach a hobby that you love. The pressure is off, and that means no micromanaging, exerting too much control, or making excessive demands on your mental energy. (For the moment, we’ll set aside the kind of people who bring stress home and behave as if everything is work.) If you can merge how you approach a hobby with how you approach work, you have made a step toward better coping.
In hobby mode, you’ll notice that you handle things in the following way:
– Being relaxed.
– Having fun.
– Enjoying yourself.
– Feeling no pressure.
– Appreciating the steps that get you to your goal.
– Immersing yourself in the process.
– Being focused and centered at the same time.
This mental framework comes naturally when you are gardening, sailing, or making a cabinet. Transferring it to work takes skill; you must consciously apply yourself to developing a better way of coping. The difference at work is the addition of stress, from other people, deadlines, and various kinds of personal interactions. Such stresses aren’t intentional on the whole. They pile up at the workplace little by little as the day goes on.
I realize that some hobbies, like playing softball on the weekend or entering a chess tournament, can be just as pressured and stressful as work. But the point is to recognize your ability to be in
two different states of awareness, work and play. Once you recognize them, you can choose which one to be in. The job doesn’t force you to be stressed. Staying unconscious does, because you can’t change what you aren’t aware of.
There are steps you can take to stay more conscious by adopting a different style of coping. We’ll investigate them in the next post, which should benefit anyone who has paid the price for reacting to stress in ways that are harmful to personal happiness as well as success at work.
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*I knew I was a bad wife and mother for invariably pushing my husband to the point of hating me or seeing me with the kids. But I never let my bad attitude towards him let me feel like I am the worst woman out there. So, I fought inside of me to change the bad attitude and win back my husband’s heart for over six years but could not until he threatened me with a divorce and a restraining order, not only to keep me away from him, but away from our kids. *Because I can’t stand losing them, I threw away my pride and went spiritual on myself with the aid of doctor wakina (dr.wakinalovetemple@gmail.com), I was brought to light and made to understand that “it is of a great significant to make my husband happy and I must start by making myself happy”. *I boldly acknowledge the spiritual power doctor wakina carries that cured me from myself for four days and overturned my husband’s decisions. For over four months I have been having an entertaining moment with myself and family, a lot of things has changed both physical and spiritual. I say thank you Dr. Wakina for saving me from myself and restoring my marriage. *Love… Paris Tyne
*I knew I was a bad wife and mother for invariably pushing my husband to the point of hating me or seeing me with the kids. But I never let my bad attitude towards him let me feel like I am the worst woman out there. So, I fought inside of me to change the bad attitude and win back my husband’s heart for over six years but could not until he threatened me with a divorce and a restraining order, not only to keep me away from him, but away from our kids. *Because I can’t stand losing them, I threw away my pride and went spiritual on myself with the aid of doctor wakina (dr.wakinalovetemple@gmail.com), I was brought to light and made to understand that “it is of a great significant to make my husband happy and I must start by making myself happy”. *I boldly acknowledge the spiritual power doctor wakina carries that cured me from myself for four days and overturned my husband’s decisions. For over four months I have been having an entertaining moment with myself and family, a lot of things has changed both physical and spiritual. I say thank you Dr. Wakina for saving me from myself and restoring my marriage. *Love… Paris Tyne