Living With Parents.
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Question:
I live in a joint family with my wife and my parents. Me and my wife have a good personal relationship however we have a highly strained relationship with each other's parents. Whenever we start discussing the topic we fight. Our parents (mine and hers) also have a strained relationship. She now wants that both of us should find a different place to live in the same city. Mine is a very close family and the thought is unbearable. Should I consider these thoughts? This might change my relationship with my parents forever.
Response:
If you can get your own home, that will make your wife happier and that should make you happier. You married her to start your own life together, so even though you have filial obligations to your parents, your greater obligation is now to your wife. You can still be close and affectionate with your parents, even if you are not living in the same house. Moving out doesn’t have to change your relationship with them, but it should improve your marriage.
Love,
Deepak
After our marriage I happened to suggest my husband the same thing. Just a suggestion not an imposition. Even, after five years, he is angry and aloof from me because I had that thought it my mind. God, how sentimental fools can these husbands be! Save wives like me.
how absurd does it sound...especially in Indian context..I guess Mr Deepak considers every parent to be spiritually liberated like him..which is not the case at all..In several cultures, parents bring up there child with complete dedication and they always expect them to live with there child...It can be heartbreaking for a parent to even bear that, especially in a joint family...When you keep this option of moving away from your parent..its like u keep suicide as an option to run away from miseries of life....and Suicide can never be the right option..ANYDAY..!!!
I completely agree with Deepak! I lived with my in-laws for 14 years, I was miserable I wanted my own space I wanted my own home I wanted to raise my own children in my own home with my own rules which did not happen. It build up resentment inside me towards my husband. I am Armenian so it was the right thing to do for a son and a daughter in law and so that is what we did. We are now divorced for 6 years and I can honestly say the 14 years of resentful f living with my inlaws have contributed to our separation.