Living from the True Self.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
Dear Deepak,
I have completed a number of the 21-Day Meditations together with you and Oprah. This most recent, Manifesting Grace Through Gratitude included a surprising event for me. I have been sitting with the challenge of how to respond from my new sense of True Self since Day 4. I have yet to come to a full answer in how to approach this. Could you help? I think many people are friends with people who incrementally increase the drama in their lives. And soon drama overtakes their lives. It seems this is a sort of addiction, and my True Self, as I learn about her, has very little patience to listen to these drama tales week after week, year after year. After completing my mediation on Day 4, I was feeling very close to grasping the nature of gratitude and grace and its nourishment for my True Self. I still am not able to put this into adequate words, but to say, I resonate with this meditation! My friend of 23 years called with yet another tale of drama, the characters, their moves, her response, their moves to counter, her response, etc. Clearly her energy is wrapped up in this saga. And perhaps I care too much that I felt pain for her choice to remain in a place she clearly does not need to be. I was not able to hear her and told her as much, and that it was painful to me to hear, as it was hurting her so much. Her response? “I knew I shouldn’t have called you, I just needed to vent!” And she hung up. I think I am wanting to understand 2 things. One, is there ever a positive use of ‘venting?’ and Two, while I am grateful for this wake-up call – the next morning I met a stranger over coffee, and we had a deep conversation about spiritual things out of the blue! and when I told him about Gladdening The Heart, he smiled and said, “Surround yourself with people who know this as well!” – How might I best respond to my longtime friend to give her a glimpse of the power of Gratitude and the real nature of the energy of the True Self?
Response:
When people need to “vent” they generally mean they want to rid themselves of excessive negative feelings. That can certainly be useful to them, but that is best accomplished with self-awareness of the source of that negativity and done privately so as not to merely pass those negative feelings on to someone else. Meditation, exercise, yoga, sports, nature walks, singing, dancing, journaling can all be good ways to release accumulated stress. Talking with those who care for you is also great, but one should be careful not to simply unload on the other person. Talk about how you feel, not make generalized statements about others or yourself.
From your side, if you want to be a kind friend acting from your true self, you need to make an honest assessment of whether your friend is venting in a way that is considerate of your wellbeing or not. If not, and you still want to be there for her or him, you need to take mental precautions so that you don’t unconsciously and empathically take in their negativity. A simple silent declaration to yourself should be sufficient. If however, you don’t feel you are up for that, (perhaps you’re tired or preoccupied yourself) feel free to let them know you are interested and concerned about their situation, but that you don’t feel like you are in a position to be of any help right now. If they are open to suggestions, offer them ideas on how they can vent some of those feelings on their own.
Love,
Deepak
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