How to support others.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
I’m passing through a rough moment in my life, but I don’t see it that way I am learning a lot, but I think that I could do more about some things, I am Mexican, and I can’t work because I don’t have papers. I have a daughter 5 months old and we are living in my wife’s parent’s house. For me everything is ok with the waiting of the papers to work and give my best. Sometimes I wish I would have a teacher to advise me and that’s why I am asking you this.
In my wife’s family everybody seems to be unhappy and I know that everybody is a reflection of your own path. It’s to show you something about you and I know that I have some characteristics of those people, but I’m happy and in a good spiritual moment. I feel strong in all aspects of my life.
But I have a doubt, my father-in-law is an alcoholic and is one of the most unhappy persons I have met in my life, and I don’t know if I should do something to help him realize what is he doing to himself and the people around him. Whether I should talk to him about spirituality and God, or just let him be and he would realize it in the end?. I know that somebody that is on the spiritual path should be like a tree in summer time that gives shade and protection to everybody that is near him
Response:
I like you example of the tree in summer providing shade and protection. And I think that may answer your question as well. The tree doesn’t impose its influence on others, it merely offers it or makes it available to those who seek it. In the same way, rather than trying to tell your alcoholic father-in-law what he should or shouldn’t do, simply let him know that there are other options available to him and that you are there for him if he is interested in talking.
If your mother-in-law asked you to be a part of a group intervention, that would be a different matter. But right now your family is living in his house as a guest, and for you to tell him how you think he should change his life to be a happier person may come across as preachy and unwelcome. However, if you let your life be your message, namely that one can be happy and at peace even with hardship and uncertainty, then if he is receptive, he will notice. Oftentimes we can have a more powerful influence on those around us without saying a word. Like the big tree, our own quiet strength and presence may be the most effective help to others, because it supports them while respecting their own path.
Love,
Deepak
thank you for all you do... I love listening to you, hearing your voice calms me and soothes me when I do the meditations. I want to squeeze you and give you a big hug. Love Kelly
thank you for all you do... I love listening to you, hearing your voice calms me and soothes me when I do the meditations. I want to squeeze you and give you a big hug. Love Kelly