How can I get back the marriage we intended?.
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Question:
Dear Deepak, I recently married a wonderful person, who approached life the same way I do – with spiritual awareness and creativity. We both know the power of thought and ability to form our reality. Yet, the past few months have been a struggle. My spouse and I are losing our intimate relationship. We are having financial difficulties and disagree more and more. Despite everything we know, we have allowed our relationship to turn negative – to be a source of frustration and stress. I am becoming more depressed each day and feel ashamed for missing my old life before I married him. I was positive, happy, and independent. Our marriage has become unhealthy and I find myself doubting my decision. I would appreciate your advice on marriage. I love this person and anticipated the beautiful life we would have together, but that time seems so far away now. How can I get the back the marriage we intended? .. supportive, loving, positive, limitless?
Response:
Evaluating the intricacies of a marriage through a letter is nearly impossible, so instead of offering a “solution” I will suggest a new way of looking at this challenging time. First of all, don’t look back to your independent life as your model of what a happy marriage should be. The whole point of marriage is building a life together, growing in love, understanding and in spiritual awakening. It’s a different path than the single life, with different rewards and challenges. The challenges are usually in letting go of ego attachments to the old way of thinking and behaving we had before when we didn’t have to compromise. And the rewards are the growth of love, joy and wisdom that comes when we let go of our ego for the sake of the greater wholeness of the marriage that is bigger than our ego selves. As you two learn to work through the financial difficulties and decision making processes together, you will build a sense of togetherness that can become a source of happiness, support, and positivity that is more real and better than any ideal vision of marriage you had before.
Love,
Deepak
