Family Anxiety.
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Question:
I am an ambitious, happy and mindful person. I am 27 years old and quite satisfied with life. Sometimes. My relationship with my family is my bigger issue in life. My mother and sister don’t get along, my mother has a fear of conflict and my sister is very accusing towards her. This affects me a lot. I get sad and upset when they argue, since it’s so little that upsets my sister and my mother can’t seem to find ways to defense herself or talk in a good way with my sister. I also have a brother who lives far away and when he visits the family will gather and often aggressive discussions will occur. I don’t feel comfortable with this at all and since I feel there’s a lack of respect, love and stability, I get disappointed and will not get involved in the discussion, so I often go home feeling sad and confused. I seem to keep a lot of my anger inside and I feel that my family is draining me with energy. I feel much empathy with them cause they’re my family and we have been through a lot together but on the other hand I feel hatred because they can’t take care of themselves or each other or me. I don’t know what do to not to feel this anxiety about my family.
Response:
It’s difficult as a child to be subject to the angry moods and conflict at home. Because at a young age we do not have a strong sense of a secure or self-sufficient self, and so we draw our sense of safety from the emotional atmosphere at home. But you are 27, an adult who describes himself as ambitious and happy. You need to allow your mother and your sister to go through whatever process they need to without being threatened or anxious. Right now your lack of emotional boundaries makes you interpret their interaction as something you should be able to fix so they don’t drain your energy. You don’t need to fix either of them, you only need to find your spiritual core and build your sense of security from there. This is an opportunity for you to mature and become master of your emotions from your spiritual center.
Love,
Deepak
