July 14, 2012

Crying Easily.


When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.


I cry at any confrontation no matter how small. It is really coming between my husband and I as we cannot have a constructive conversation about anything without me crying. It is frustrating as I do not want to be crying, it takes away my ability to communicate and be articulate. I have even passed on management positions and cried at work many times. My 2 year old daughter is copying my actions. I have had enough but do not know how to change. I have a feeling it has to do with early experiences in childhood and I want to break the circle.


You will probably need some help from a counselor or a wise older friend in exploring what it is about conflict or disagreement that makes you feel so threatened and unsafe. If it turns out you are stuck in repeating a dysfunctional response to conflict that you learned as a child, you can work on healing that reaction by seeing it for what it is, and then learn more adaptive and appropriate responses that allow you to constructively engage with others over differences in a safe and non-threatening way. Rosenberg’s tools on non-violent communication might be useful to you in this.


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  1. julia

    Iodine deficiency? There could be this nutritional component as well...

  2. Querin

    "Viva la criers", Love it Lori! It is a lot about the relationship with crying vice the crying itself. Once you know the triggers, be kind and gentle with yourself about/during the process and it will be kinder and gentler with you!

  3. Marie

    I feel for you! I once broke down crying at work, at a big Corporate office, when they tried to take my Macintosh away and replace it with a PC. I ran to the bathroom, I was so embarrassed! When I came back, they had given me a switchbox so I could have both and transition slowly to the new platform. But still, I wish I had had the ability to articulate my feelings in a more professional manner. Do you ever get butterflies in your stomach when you have to make an awkward phone call? That used to happen to me a lot. What helped me was this: When my two-year-old son went for his nap, I would put on some uplifting music and meditate. Then I would write my thoughts in a journal. I still have these journals, and looking back, I almost don`t recognize myself. I feel deep empathy for myself back then. I also got some cheap paints from the craft store and painted visions of myself standing tall and strong, with great streams of golden energy coming out of my hands and rising up out of my head. You can overcome this with practice! By all means, seek a therapist if you feel the need to do so. I have had many wonderful (and some not so wonderful) therapists in the past. A kind and neutral person can do wonders for helping you explore your feelings and give you lots of tools to work with. Some people are more sensitive than others, and once you accept yourself as this way and tell yourself that it`s okay to be who you are, and learn some deep breathing methods, you will gradually come to realize that it is just your body`s normal response to a situation, and you can retrain it and channel it into something more positive. Later, I invented a lot of humorous products, as a result of the meditation practice, and wrote many poems and stories. My best therapist told me to pick up a hobby, any hobby, and to walk for 30 minutes each day. That was it! I did it and after 3 weeks, a psychiatrist said I was doing so well that in his opinion, I didn`t need any medication, just continue to follow my therapist`s advice and I would be okay. If you can`t afford a therapist, look into your local programs, as mine was only $10 per visit based on my income at the time. You must be a wonderful mother to care so deeply about your child and want to break this pattern. I will light a candle for you and send you lots of positive energy! Good luck!!! :-D

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