Angry at Family.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
I do meditation 3 to 4 times in a week. I do it for Minimum 20 minutes and maximum 30 minutes due to job constraint. But my experience is that whenever I do meditation, on that day I get angry with my family members in some instances.
Can you help me with that?
Response:
You haven’t given me much information about you and your family to work with. For instance, when you say family , are you talking about your children, your parents, or your siblings. Regardless, this is about your subconscious attitude toward your family, it’s not about the meditation practice itself. There might be some issue where you resent the imposition of the time your family needs that limits your meditation time. Or it might be the judgment of your family towards your meditation practice that makes you feel irritated and resentful. Whatever it is, look at your beliefs and emotional reactions to this family dynamic and realize that getting angry is not helping you resolve this issue. Make a conscious choice to not blame anyone for how you are feeling and to allow them the freedom to be who they are and think what they want. You can be happy and at peace with them once you have released your own resentment and irritation within.
Love,
Deepak
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Angry at Family.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
I do meditation 3 to 4 times in a week. I do it for Minimum 20 minutes and maximum 30 minutes due to job constraint. But my experience is that whenever I do meditation, on that day I get angry with my family members in some instances. Can you help me with that?
Answer:
You haven’t given me much information about you and your family to work with. For instance, when you say family , are you talking about your children, your parents, or your siblings. Regardless, this is about your subconscious attitude toward your family, it’s not about the meditation practice itself. There might be some issue where you resent the imposition of the time your family needs that limits your meditation time. Or it might be the judgment of your family towards your meditation practice that makes you feel irritated and resentful. Whatever it is, look at your beliefs and emotional reactions to this family dynamic and realize that getting angry is not helping you resolve this issue. Make a conscious choice to not blame anyone for how you are feeling and to allow them the freedom to be who they are and think what they want. You can be happy and at peace with them once you have released your own resentment and irritation within.
Love,
Deepak
Could it be that the meditations are bringing enlightenment to repressed memory of a forgotten experience, and if so are you becoming upset with a particular family member every time? I would recommend a continuance of meditation so that when the repressed memory is brought in to the conscious mind healing may begin. IF this is the case... I would also recommend a meditation journal so that you may in fact discover a pattern... may the light shine your way
I truly have compassion for your feelings that are arising in your meditation. It can be confusing but it also an opportunity for healing and growth. Anger is often a symptom or signpost of something under the surface that needs to be examined and it can be a journey to growth and further self awareness and enlightenment as well as improving our relationship with Self (soul) and others. It can be very helpful to journal the feelings and thoughts that are bubbling up from your unconscious mind. Approaching them with a state of acceptance and compassion can help you develop more compassion and acceptance of others. A therapist friend of mine who has written books about Mindful meditation told me that meditation can bring up lots of hidden buried feelings from our childhood and other unresolved issues from our lives. Sometimes a therapist who is into Mindfulness meditation and Compassionate Wisdom can be a helpful guide in our healing and growth journey through these buried feelings and thoughts coming up to the surface. Meditation with the skill of the Observer Self (look it up) can help us have increased mindfullness and awareness, learning and growth. There are many self help books that can guide you through this journey. I have found many that have helped me with my anger at my family. For me, that journey was my awareness of how alcoholism and abuse impacted me. Al-anon has been a wonderful and empowering journey of growth and awareness for me. There are many paths you can choose to help you with this journey. My best wishes on your journey.
We Irish have a saying: You can choose your friends, but you can`t choose your family.