After the Relationship Sizzle Has Died.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
A family friend and I ventured into a romantic relationship. The excitement has died out. My thoughts say that it’s because he’s financially insecure, he gradually moved into my apartment, and I feel stifled from saying things that are in my heart. We’ve been like this for 6 months and now the sizzle is out. We’re dealing with a lot of issues. I was molested as a child, so we’re working on the intimacy issues. Also, he’s an artist and has random income streams, and we’ve been addressing the financial issues. We’ve become less affectionate towards each other, and this bothers me too. As of this week, his mother was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer. Upon hearing this news, I felt angry, and upset for several reasons. One I wanted to get closer to his mother over the last year (since we’ve been together). The feeling came from deep within. Now I am mourning the loss of her health (and soon her death) without feeling like I fulfilled some roll in her life. Another is that I come from a culture where we make formal announcements about dating and introduce this to our parents. I feel denied of that opportunity. With all of these issues surfacing, I feel (at my core) that I’ve betrayed who I am. My initial reaction is to want out, and yet I feel that the timing is totally wrong to say this to him. However, I’ve already checked out emotionally.
What should I do?
Response:
I think first of all you need to look within and see if there is a love for this guy that goes deeper than the romance or the friendship, or the family issues or your past problems. If you sense there is a strong love there that has a future, then you should use that to work through these financial difficulties and family issues. That is how love grows into a powerful force of evolution and unity in our lives. If you don’t feel there is a real core of love there in your relationship, or that the love has a meaningful future, then you should be honest and talk about that with him. His mother’s battle with cancer certainly complicates the timing of this talk, but life rarely gives us perfect times and circumstances for such a discussion. You just have to accept the situation in its totality as it is and communicate honestly how you feel. And if part of your feelings is that you feel you have betrayed your cultural identity by not starting the relationship with formal announcements, that’s fine. But try not to let some of these secondary concerns distract you from the central issue: what is the real depth of the love between you two? If that is a strong force that you both value, then the other stuff can be dealt with.
Love,
Deepak
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After the Relationship Sizzle Has Died.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
A family friend and I ventured into a romantic relationship. The excitement has died out. My thoughts say that it's because he's financially insecure, he gradually moved into my apartment, and I feel stifled from saying things that are in my heart. We've been like this for 6 months and now the sizzle is out. We're dealing with a lot of issues. I was molested as a child, so we're working on the intimacy issues. Also, he's an artist and has random income streams, and we've been addressing the financial issues. We've become less affectionate towards each other, and this bothers me too. As of this week, his mother was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer. Upon hearing this news, I felt angry, and upset for several reasons. One I wanted to get closer to his mother over the last year (since we've been together). The feeling came from deep within. Now I am mourning the loss of her health (and soon her death) without feeling like I fulfilled some roll in her life. Another, is that I come from a culture where we make formal announcements about dating and introduce this to our parents. I feel denied of that opportunity. With all of these issues surfacing, I feel (at my core) that I've betrayed who I am. My initial reaction is to want out, and yet I feel that the timing is totally wrong to say this to him. However, I've already checked out emotionally. What should I do?
Answer:
I think first of all you need to look within and see if there is a love for this guy that goes deeper than the romance or the friendship, or the family issues or your past problems. If you sense there is a strong love there that has a future, then you should use that to work through these financial difficulties and family issues. That is how love grows into a powerful force of evolution and unity in our lives. If you don’t feel there is a real core of love there in your relationship, or that the love has a meaningful future, then you should be honest and talk about that with him. His mother’s battle with cancer certainly complicates the timing of this talk, but life rarely gives us perfect times and circumstances for such a discussion. You just have to accept the situation in its totality as it is and communicate honestly how you feel. And if part of your feelings is that you feel you have betrayed your cultural identity by not starting the relationship with formal announcements, that’s fine. But try not to let some of these secondary concerns distract you from the central issue: what is the real depth of the love between you two? If that is a strong force that you both value, then the other stuff can be dealt with.
Love,
Deepak
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