March 1, 2021
Ask Deepak

Unemployment and Self-Esteem.

Quote.

When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.

Question:

Almost three years ago me and my partner decided to marry and settle in another country taking advantage of a job opportunity she was offered in her work. At the moment it didn’t seem like a big obstacle for my development since I had great confidence in myself and my abilities and thought it wouldn’t be hard to find something. Nevertheless, since we moved I haven’t found a stable job in which I can use my capabilities and have been unemployed for long periods of time. We depend solely on my wife’s income and had a baby 7 months ago. Though I have all the support of my wife I don’t seem to move in any direction in my career and that has dented my self-esteem very much. This situation generates a feeling of depression that comes and goes; some days I feel hopeful and others I don’t even want to get out of bed. I feel I’m losing the best years of my productive life since I don’t have control of things around in my life and I’ve lost any hope of finding a fulfilling job. How can I change this vicious cycle of negative thoughts and doubts?

Response:

As men, we are conditioned by society to draw our self-esteem from how well we provide for our family. When we are faced with long periods of unemployment, there can be a heavy toll on our self-worth. The ensuing depression can make it even harder to land a job. What you need to keep in mind is that your self-worth is ultimately derived from your spiritual essence, not your job or actions. Your higher self can never fail or diminish in value. This job situation is forcing you to find a deeper level of identity beyond your social conditioning, and that is going to make you a better person, a more loving and responsible husband and father, and even a more attractive job applicant. Stick with your spiritual practice to foster and strengthen your true self, and then go out and look for work with the understanding that whether you get a job of not that day, that is not a reflection of your worth as a person, but only the external variables in your present circumstances.

Love,

Deepak

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