Relationship Insecurity.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
You say that relationships are what make us happy and I completely agree. But what if a relationship does not go the way we want to despite of putting all our heart and good intention on it? The problem is with this guy I got to know recently. It was an immediate connection and jokingly we called each other’s soul mates. There was a lot of similarity in the way of thinking and he also had a very positive outlook on life, just like me. However he started to have less attention on me somehow and more on his works and different projects. It got so intense that he decided to just stop the contact. He says that it is because of work only, and that he is still interested on me. He hopes that we can be together some day but not now. Thinking of your lessons of wisdom, I try to let go, and leave up to the Universe to decide the best. But it is not easy. Time by time there is the urge to write and be in contact, but I have promised not to do that. I experience true joy every time I think of him, but I feel that is not enough. Do you have any advice on how to handle this in the right way? I am usually a very happy and active person and always try to see opportunities instead of problems….but I would still appreciate some of your wisdom on how to see the opportunity on this specific issue.
Response:
The benefit of relationships is not about how well they go the way we want them too, it’s about the mutual interaction of feelings, values, support and growth. Having things go the way you want them means how your ego wants them to go, and ego expectations are quite frequently not in our best spiritual interests or even our long-term happiness.
It seems to me you are deeply in love with him, but feel insecure that he is not reciprocating with the same level of emotion that you have. But he doesn’t have to for the relationship to grow and have a long-term future. If he needs more time at work, but still says he wants to be with you, then accept that for what it is and don’t let your insecurity convince you that something is wrong. On the time you are apart, focus on becoming the kind of partner you would like to be.
Love,
Deepak
