Relating to family after an abusive childhood.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
When your family has been abusive physically, mentally, and emotionally in your youth, do you forgive and still allow them in your life? Do you keep them at a distance and feel guilty? I have struggled with this and meditated for years. Right now I let them in only a little cause I have my kids to think of. I just don’t know what the right thing is to do. I feel I need direction with resolving this completely and be at 100% percent in my own life. My past has affected my work and my ability to trust. I need good advice Deepak. I would just like to move forward completely. But how?
Response:
Your focus should be on healing yourself of the past abuses and traumas. As you start to feel more whole and stronger, you will naturally be in a position to start to extend forgiveness. You don’t need to rush forgiveness or let your ideal self-expectations get ahead of your actual state of healing. During this period you will need to determine what level of contact or interaction with family members you are comfortable with. There are no hard and fast rules. One week you may be ready to spend some time together, and the next week you may not be ready. Again, the reference point is where you are in your healing process, it is not in yours or others’ expectations of what you “should” be doing.
If you don’t feel like you are making much headway in your recovery, you may want to seek out counseling to support your healing process. You don’t want to continue letting the unhealed past define your present life.
Love,
Deepak
My question is answered. Thank you!
My question is answered. Thank you!