Ese fue el libro q lei, Seven Laws of Success. The Book of Awakening, es otro q lei de Mark Nepo.

Ese fue el libro q lei, Seven Laws of Success. The Book of Awakening, es otro q lei de Mark Nepo.

Ese fue el libro q lei, Seven Laws of Success. The Book of Awakening, es otro q lei de Mark Nepo.

I have a vision to create a judgment-free world. It`s been SUCH a challenge teaching this message, but has been the most transformational for all my relationships where a freedom now exists to be authentic, and love at a soul level beyond `conditions` of good/bad, right/wrong. We will never agree on everything, but for me judging someone is an energy you choose to hold against someone or yourself (with contempt, hatred, blame, unworthiness, jealousy, defensiveness, stone-walling) where you make a PERSON "wrong or bad". Judgment is the "I am superior, you are inferior" energy -- criticism is the "I am right, you are wrong, these are your faults you need to change". Whenever you hear yourself saying `you should…` STOP, and ask `who says?` Is this my higher self talking from a loving place - if so, it would sound more like "I would like, or I need.." as opposed to imposing, projecting from a fear place onto someone. Is it someone else`s voice like your ego or your parents expectations? Judgment is DIFFERENT from discernment where you are attempting to evaluate a truth for yourself that works or does not work for your own well-being. The problem is we use these words interchangeably creating massive confusion. Judge not, lest you be judged means `do not hold the energy of contempt, blame, hatred, unworthiness` AGAINST anyone because in your condemning of someone you will be condemning yourself. You cannot forgive if you are condemning. You cannot see clearly that each of us is doing our best from our own state of awareness/consciousness. You cannot feel what it is to be in another`s shoes when you`ve never worn them. You may be able to sympathize (offer comfort), empathize (offer comfort and emotional understanding), but compassion is where you let go of your judgment completely to see the light beyond the dark of someone`s choice that may be destructive. It does NOT make the choice of words/actions OK -it means we see beyond to the soul of someone - that each of us are human, making our own mistakes to grow, and learn. It is not for me to decide what others are here to learn by imposing my `right way` onto them. I can share, teach, guide, communicate without judgment or criticism, but only if someone is willing to hear will they pay attention. It`s ok if they choose not to - that`s their spiritual path to follow, not mine. Sometimes I have to walk away because someone`s energy is destructive to my well-being. In the end -- `unconditional love` for me has become love without the condition of having to be "right or good" according to me, but I will choose to follow a path that is loving, compassionate, and understanding. I end up attracting others who allow this for me as well. This is where love flows - giving and receiving - where you can live without the masks, be who you are, and most of all GROW into all you were meant to become while sharing that experience of blissful love with others.

Thank you Vimal, that makes perfect sense. I do appreciate what you say and I understand the wisdom in the article you reference. I have found it very hard at time to stick strictly to moral principles in relationships particularly when a recent partner when out of her way to continually prod and test boundaries and fuel my insecurities (which she shamelessly admitted). There was no reason or rhyme to this behaviour and when I let my guard slip and reacted emotionally (never raising my voice, or calling names or making threats) I was subject to escalating emotional abuse and ruthless vindictive behaviour. All while this person was speaking the spiritual language but did not walk the walk (I do not say I am perfect either, far from it). Of course I am still upset and ask the great equation for the reason why this happened when all I wanted to give was love? But it did and I have accepted it and have long ago forgiven this person. But it is still painful to hear that they run me down to people and friends saying I am a horrible person but on the other hand hear her speak the language of spirituality. I try to focus on principles of light and truth but the pain does not subside. What duty do I have to my self and others? I would welcome any sincere guidance?

Spiritual stages are based on the Consciousness. When we gradually go through upper levels we start getting all those great qualities mentioned by the Spiritual Persons. It is actually a feel of bliss that brings us such beautiful qualities. But in the beginning we `must` have discrimination and judgement to direct us correctly through various distractions. Thanks, Vimal. Reference: http://dharmawisdom.org/teachings/articles/setting-personal-boundaries