Leaving a Relationship.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
I am struggling with the decision to leave a relationship with someone who doesn’t want the same things I want in life…..I would like to have a long term relationship and eventually children……He already has children, and a life that is very busy, to say the least….He wants me in his life for enjoyment, but not another responsibility…………..This relationship has been off and on for 5 years….When I let go and have no expectations the love flows…when I begin to fear I will pass up my time in life to have children and a
more consistent relationship, I get all obsessive and attached, I don’t like this in me, so then I choose to end the relationship………..but then I feel like I’m giving up on the love that exist, if I just allow it………I struggle with my decision to leave, because this connection has been the deepest I’ve ever experienced, and to let it go doesn’t feel right…but then again neither does staying………Please be frank with me…I really need support in moving forward…………I’ve been reading the Path to Love…but I don’t think I fully get it……I don’t see how having no expectations and being unattached is the best place to be….since it seems to be keeping me hopeful in a relationship that is not in agreement with what I “want”……are my wants even valid?….should I be so concerned with children and someone who has more time for me, than in sharing and learning about love on a deep level?………….I appreciate any advice you have…….
Response:
What you want seems valid to me. If you want a solid relationship with children, then clearly you need to move on. Even if the relationship satisfies some of your needs and provides a deep connection, there is no reason to believe you won’t feel an even deeper love and connection with someone who has the time and interest to start a family with you.
The expectations that inhibit love in a relationship are the ego demands and fear that inhibit the free flow of love. I don’t think your issues are egoistic. I believe this is your soul pointing you to a larger, more satisfying love, and what is being asked of you is finding the courage to let go of what you have, trusting that something much grander is in store for you.
Love,
Deepak
Leaving a Relationship.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
How do you feel about someone leaving a relationship after many years (16 to be exact)? Is this a letdown to the universe to be a part of something for so long and then make the decision to leave? Both partners are monogamous and the breakup is not for another person; it is for me. In spite of my love for my partner, I feel that if I don't leave this relationship that I will never reach my potential. I have never felt spiritually supported by her and though she claims to be committed to her own spiritual growth, she makes no real effort and has many times chosen to behave/react with judgment, disdain, superiority, and the like. She also has many good qualities, but for much of the past 2 years, her fear-based behaviors have dominated and I feel she is someone else, someone I do not want to spend the rest of my life with, even after all this time, even knowing her potential. My own fears have prevented me from moving on, but that is a thing of the past. I am committed to continuing the path of my spiritual journey and much as I would like to witness my partner's spiritual development (I am hopeful that she will make it there eventually), I am afraid it may not happen in this lifetime. I don’t want to give up on her, but nor do I want to become stuck. I would like to add that she is content staying as we are, but that requires pretending to be happy.
Response:
Leaving a long term relationship doesn’t necessarily mean you are letting the universe down. It depends on the specific situation. If it is time for a new direction for your lives and greater love and happiness will come from each of you growing in different directions, then it is better for the universe and all involved to move on. The only thing I would add is that leaving a relationship because you don’t think you can spiritually grow because your partner is not as motivated or interested as you are is tricky. It could be that your spiritual growth is about learning to follow your path in these less-than-ideal circumstances. That is a call you need to make on your own.
Love,
Deepak
If I was to add anything on this then definitely it would have been in the line of religion and as it goes "A house that prays together stays together", Deepak has put it clear. Pray.
If I was to add anything on this then definitely it would have been in the line of religion and as it goes "A house that prays together stays together", Deepak has put it clear. Pray.
If I was to add anything on this then definitely it would have been in the line of religion and as it goes "A house that prays together stays together", Deepak has put it clear. Pray.