Eroding Respect.
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Question:
Dear Deepak Me and my husband have been married for 7 years. It’s still young but I feel there is no more respect between us. It is mostly my fault, I started the way of speaking to him and he started to follow my lead. But how do I fix this I still love him but I can see we are drifting apart. Please can you help me? Please, I know they say without respect the marriage is over but i really want to fix it.
Response:
You need to sit with your husband and tell him what you said in this letter. Take responsibility for starting the disrespectful tone in your conversation. Explain that this doesn’t reflect your real feelings toward him and that you want to change this habit now. Say that with his help you know that you two can reverse this trend in your marriage. Begin by telling him three things that you respect and admire about him and tell him in a voice that conveys that love. Invite him to offer three things that he respects about you as well. Resolve from that point forward to treat each other with that love and respect even in the midst of differences that come up in your marriage.
Love,
Deepak
When I said that hat happened in the past is the and you cant do anything about it, I wasn`t being insensitive to others especially those you cause pain to. You cannot change what happened. I stand by my statement, anyone who has a time machine or such an ability I offer you to prove me wrong. What is done is done, and now only exists as a memory of the people involved. The closest you can come to changing the past is to remedy old conditioning by what you do now. Changing what you do now, differently from what you did in the past, is the only way to break old bad habits and conditioning. Going to someone you caused pain to and expressing your regret and trying to repair or remedy a relationship is not changing what happened in the past, it is accepting it and writing a new chapter now in life where we actually live it, in the present moment. The only people who cop out are those who think they can change the past and hold on to it for dear life instead of just accepting it happened whether it was okay or not and moving on and making a different choice. Enlightened people will always feel compassion, yes, and they will also tell you that living in the past will only bring about pain, regret and suffering. The message of forgiveness and surrender has never been more applicable. While the compassionate person will seek to try to right their wrongs and make amends with those they hurt, sometimes in life you just need to let it go and move. To have the need to go and make up and fix every mistake you`ve ever made and heal every person you`ve hurt is insane and will do nothing but turn your regret and shame into disillusionment when you realize you cannot fix everything and everyone. Hope this helps.
Don`t blame yourself if you put your head in an oven would your partner. there is no blame just stop doing it. just smile tell him you love him forgive him forgive yourself, try doing things you did when you first met,if you want to get the love back that you first felt treat him as if you have just met. don`t judge him don`t find fault. he will do the same back, learn of the law of attraction it sums it up. it is a critical time in the relationship bring life back to it, even if you are not getting anything back to start if you give with thought of receiving you will get so much back. your love was unconditional when you first met make it the same now you will see its perfect, dont let things get in the way
Love has nothing to do with attachment. In the state of love, you feel happy, and sharing who you are and what you feel. In the attachment state you want the other next to you because it makes you happy, fills a need, it complements what you think you do not have and do not take yourself enough. Most of the marriages are not sharing relationships, but emotional dependences that unfolds through psychological and emotional games, such as controle, manipulation, in which couples consecutively projecting their individual unmet needs relating to their inner child that demands for care, attention. With no feelings of guilt, put yourself in the observer position of yourself. Which reason I start to talk to him this way?