Dealing with Negative Experiences.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
Dr. Chopra, I’m wondering what do you do if there are negative experiences in your life that are out of your control and continue? How can you change a negative occurrence or ongoing issue in your life? Thank you!
Response:
If the negative experiences are out of your control, as you said in your letter, then you need to focus on what you can change, which is your perception of the experience and how you can be with it and live with it in a way that doesn’t make you feel diminished or victimized.
This means starting from a perspective where you know your true self is not limited or defined by any physical, social, or emotional experience you may have, whether it is positive or negative. You are the ever-present, non-local awareness that is the background upon which any experience is possible. That limitless consciousness is your essential nature, and it was there before your present experience, and it will be there when that experience fades away and another takes its place.
When you feel and know that you true self in this way, your position and view of difficult and challenging situations changes. You realize that the circumstances you find yourself in can never diminish or threaten your core being. That doesn’t mean the situation doesn’t require thoughtful attention and action to improve what you can. However, when you approach difficult or negative situations from a place of self-awareness and self-knowledge, you know the real you can never be overwhelmed or hurt by the experience, and that allows you to navigate the challenge without so much emotional and psychological distress.
Love,
Deepak
