Dealing with fears.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
I have had a very pleasant life recently. I have 2 beautiful girls, nice job and a husband. We don’t have any money problems. We had a lot of friends. I have a lot of love and a lot of inner peace. Last year my husband lost his job, and he can’t find any at the moment. There is a lot of fear in me. Will we have money to pay the bills, will we become poor, will his bad mood affect our family? A lot of “friends” turned back on us and my husband has very low self-esteem. I became very sad, I lost the energy in me, I can’t see the light on the end of the tunnel. I had a very strong opinion that:
– material world is just temporary, the spirit in us is important,
– I am, who I am, and other people are another person.
But now there is something in me, that wants to get of this problem. I love my husband, but I want to protect my children and me of this agony, so I want to get away from him and his problems.
Please Deepak, give me some advice or another view on this situation. Everybody keeps saying it will get better, and I was saying that for a long time, but now I don’t believe it anymore.
Response:
You are letting your fear of what might happen in the future make your life miserable in the present when it doesn’t have to. You said that you have a nice job and that you don’t have any money problems. You are afraid that if he doesn’t find work, then you won’t be able to pay your bills, but unless I misread you, that hasn’t happened yet. You said he has low self-esteem from losing his job and you are afraid his mood might affect the family. Of course it will. You are a family and everyone’s mood influences everyone else. You yourself are feeling sad, hopeless and in low energy. That is affecting everyone too.
It doesn’t make sense to get away from your husband to protect your children from his mood when they will still be influenced by your fearful moods in addition to now having to deal with separation from their father. This is not how families deal with difficulties. Instead of separating and becoming weaker individually, draw closer together to each other for strength, support and love. Look for ways to solve the difficulties as a family.
Finally, take this challenging situation as an opportunity to deal with your own fears. What you want to do is find a way to establish the love, peace and strength inside you to the point where it can no longer be lost or forgotten when life difficulties come your way as they inevitably to do all of us.
Love,
Deepak
