Calming Down.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
Hello Mr. Deepak, I was hoping you could help me figure out how to calm my mind down. I tend to overanalyze and overthink about certain things/situations in hopes of finding the reason that it happened in order to help prevent it from happening again in the future. I know that a lot of it has to do with wanting to always make the right choices in order to minimize failure, which is due to my abandonment issues (I try to be as perfect as I can be in order to prevent anyone from not “wanting” me). The logical side of me knows that nothing is permanent and everything changes, so no matter how much I try, I will not be able to control life. And I know that the past is the past, and it should not dictate my present/future, but I cannot seem to stop myself from overthinking! How do I keep myself from overthinking/overanalyzing every detail of my life? I now have a son, and would hate to pass all of my fears and insecurities to him. My anxiety has actually tripled since I’ve had him, and I feel like I’m literally going to end up driving myself crazy. My mind is constantly on overdrive…please help!
Response:
If fear of rejection is behind your worrying, controlling thoughts, then the ultimate solution must come through self-acceptance. That means loving yourself for who you are and what you are right now, instead of unfavorably comparing yourself to some impossible ideal as someone who is lovable because she makes “right” decisions. Such a person does not exist, and even she did, her worth or lovability isn’t based on other’s perception. You are inherently valuable and worthy of love, and you have to recognize that for yourself first. From there, you make the best decisions you can with the knowledge you have at the time. Once you internalize these two points, you will feel your mind calming down, and that will be a model to your son.
Love,
Deepak
