Being Ignored.
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Question:
My future sister in-law refuses to talk to me or acknowledge my presence at any family function. I've tried to talk to her and she either gives one word answers or just flat out ignores me. Her family, including my fiancé, allows her to act this way because "that's just the way she is" so I've let her attitude slide for almost 3 years now but I'm reaching my breaking point and I'm afraid I'm going to say something to her out of frustration and hurt my relationship with the family. I've tried showing love but it just turns into anger that she behaves this way for no reason. This situation now causes my fiancé and I to fight because I want him to stand up to her or try to talk to her. I don't think she will ever be willing to have a relationship with me. What can I do to at least keep my relationship with my fiancé healthy?
Answer:
If the family of your future sister-in-law says that is just the way she is, then her treatment of you is not personal and you need to see it that way. If she didn’t speak to you because of a physical speech impediment, you wouldn’t be angry with her. Think of her rude behavior as a product of a kind of emotional injury that keeps her from being civil in social situations. Her unhappiness and pain is not about you, it is about her past and problems that you do not understand. Let her be and focus your attention on your relationship with your fiancé and things that you can change in yourself.
Love,
Deepak
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You see this trait among most individuals that have a selfish persona. Frankly the only thing you can do to survive this type of person is to either kill them with kindness or sink just above their level and immatate them to serve as a lesson. Option number two can and will eventually blow up on you so really the smart action is to kill with kindness. Eventually the offending party gives up due to fustration or they get pulled aside for the old " why are you being a flippin jerk" from a peer or respected elder. This usually results in an apology that is long over due but lacking a real "I am sorry" moment, because it is a forced apology. So really your options are... You can pour gasoline on a fire then run naked though the inferno or stay bent over to while you were picking up the soap until they get board and quit...
You see this trait among most individuals that have a selfish persona. Frankly the only thing you can do to survive this type of person is to either kill them with kindness or sink just above their level and immatate them to serve as a lesson. Option number two can and will eventually blow up on you so really the smart action is to kill with kindness. Eventually the offending party gives up due to fustration or they get pulled aside for the old " why are you being a flippin jerk" from a peer or respected elder. This usually results in an apology that is long over due but lacking a real "I am sorry" moment, because it is a forced apology. So really your options are... You can pour gasoline on a fire then run naked though the inferno or stay bent over to while you were picking up the soap until they get board and quit...