Relationship Carryover.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
It would mean a lot to me if you could help me with my problem. I feel I am too emotional and I find it difficult to be detached in a relationship, for e.g., if I haven’t spoken to my fiancé, I get disturbed, but she appears to be fine. I have been through a difficult breakup. I loved a woman, and for 2 years, and everything seemed fine, but suddenly things started worsening, and it didn’t work out. Is meditation the only answer to my emotional instability?
Response:
I don’t think your predicament is an issue of detachment. It sounds like you are afraid you will be caught by surprise again, and then your new relationship will end the same way your last one ended. You get nervous if you haven’t spoken with your fiancé in a few days, because you are worried something might have happened since then to change her feelings about you.
Meditation is always a good foundation to address the big picture of improving your self-esteem, but I think most of this can probably be worked though directly with your fiancé by having some long, heart-to-heart conversations about what you went through before, and the kind of open communication you need to feel safe in the relationship. As you develop a feeling of safety and confidence from within, you will find that you will be more relaxed and comfortable in your relationship.
Love,
Deepak
