Family Ties and Forgiveness.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
In forgiveness, I ask the following; Once you have forgiven people (family) who have hurt you, caused trauma, never let your past go, and does not embrace the new you, is it wrong to not want these toxic people in your life? I have tried every which way to amend the damage that my family has caused me, but I see that it is a toxic cycle and they are the ones who are not willing to change.
They constantly remind me of my past and never have a word of praise. They live on negativity. I have made a drastic change for the better in my life and am very proud of who I am today, however, my family always finds a way to make me feel worthless causing me to regress to a dark place. Is it okay to cut all ties with them? It's been a year since I have spoken to my family and have no desire to reach out. Is this okay?
Answer:
If your family members are that unresponsive to your overtures of forgiveness and moving on, then certainly after some time it makes sense to seek some separation. I’m not sure you need to go on record and announce that you are cutting all ties with them, but if there is no growth or mutual recognition there, then it’s fine to take some time apart.
But if you had fully healed and forgiven the pain of that relationship, you wouldn’t feel the need to ask if it was okay. Clearly there is something inside you that is holding on to the hope that they will see the light and accept you for who you really are. Accepting yourself completely means that you can allow others to see you however they choose without it making you feel bad. So work on being okay with yourself just as you are, forgive yourself for not living up to impossible ideals. Once you have become completely comfortable with yourself from the inside out, then you will naturally take whatever steps you need with your family.
Love,
Deepak
My family is a lost cause. We are only family because I made the effort. I have a sister who cut me out of her life because she does not like my husband. I do not like hers but i would never let one relative destroy an entire family. It has been very painful being left out. My life is better with just my husband and daughter. I dont have any expectations from any family member. I have less pain by moving on. I think we should embrace those who embrace us and let the rest go.
My family is a lost cause. We are only family because I made the effort. I have a sister who cut me out of her life because she does not like my husband. I do not like hers but i would never let one relative destroy an entire family. It has been very painful being left out. My life is better with just my husband and daughter. I dont have any expectations from any family member. I have less pain by moving on. I think we should embrace those who embrace us and let the rest go.
I am the person that was in the opening letter. Not literally but we share a common story. I`m making the decision to live the last half of my life creating a family around me that I can handpick for the love without negativity.. Based on respect.. Loyalty.. It hurts yes! But I feel a growth of intelligence just dreaming about it. One day my new life will OF made it all worthwhile.