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October 05 2012

Karma and Other`s Pain

Category:  Ask Deepak

Question:

Deepak please shed some light on this.. I was reading about karma and it says. The principle of Karma is that for the good actions one performs one receives good reactions, and if one inflicts pain or violence on others, one will suffer equal violence either in this life or the next. If I choose to be in a same sex relationship and my family is unhappy with this it says if I inflict pain onto others I will suffer. Does this fall under this category? I'm conflicted.

Response:

Your choice of love in partnership is not an act of violence to others. It is a loving action that others may interpret in various ways according to their capacity of seeing you for who you are. Karma for your actions does not imply that you are responsible for all possible misinterpretations of your actions. Quite the opposite. In the Bhagavad Gita, Lord Krishna tells Arjuna, “You have control over your actions alone, never over the fruits of your action, or their subsequent consequences.”

You have to follow your heart and do what is right for your life. Even if you tried to live your life trying to make your family happy, they might still interpret your actions as hurtful anyway. Make your choices from a loving place inside and don’t worry about how other’s judge you. Your karma is derived from your your actions. Their karma stems from their actions.

Love,
Deepak

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  • Thanks Deepak :) To the one who posed the question: Don`t let others hold you hostage :)

    Paul // 2012-10-05 16:36:41 // //
  • Dear Deepak, I am so thankful for you wisdom and enlightenment. My choices, at times, have been muddied by the expectations of my parents, who intentionally mean well, but do not live life from my perspective. Your encouragement to make choices for ourselves from a loving place, despite other people`s expectations was reassuring. Thank you for your continued kindness, and sharing your knowledge with the world. It is well received

    @artlived // 2012-10-05 20:46:32 // //

 

 

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  • I am a transgender woman. I was born with a male body but a female spirit. I’ve spent most of my life trying to run away from this but a few years ago I decided I could no longer run and embraced it. I now live with a feeling of authenticity. I wanted to give you that back ground so you would understand the basis of my question. I am exploring abundance and I find I am particularly lacking in two areas. It is possible I am lacking in others as much because I don’t understand the concept well but, to me, it seems I lack in financial wellbeing and relational connection to a life partner. It seems to me that the concept of abundance teaches me that my abundance is dependent on me; that I attract to myself the abundance I have. My experience seems to be that others often interfere with my abundance in the two areas mentioned before. I find that because of discrimination I have been denied jobs let go from jobs I’ve had and that my finances have suffered accordingly. In relations I am attracted to men who want to be with a woman but most seem repulsed by me. I am 55 years old and it seems to me that the men of my generation were conditioned to be repulsed by me. It seems to me that I am destined by the influence of others to remain on the fringes of society never able to achieve financial abundance and without the companionship of a man who would love me as a woman. My question is: Given my situation as a discriminated against person am I unable to achieve abundance because of the influences of others? If I am wrong please about this tell me how I overcome the influence others have on my life.

    tallgal // 2012-11-04 10:56:40 // //
  • Dear Whitebird What sadness you are having to face. I have no answer for you and can only imagine your grief and confusion but wanted to let you know I have sent some healing energy. As we can only be responsible for ourselves and our own feelings and reactions, maybe try to reflect on the happiness you had for that short period of time. Karma, too, is individual and personal.

    Anne Main // 2012-10-21 05:00:05 // //
  • To Confused - asking about karmic implications of cheating... Fear of karmic repercussions should NOT be the reason for NOT wanting to cheat on your partner. You should want to NOT cheat on them because you love them and WANT to be with them and no-one else. If that is not the case, you should not be partnered with them. Simple. I`m sure if you live in the kind of culture where you can get away with cheating on your partner, it is also the kind of culture where you can easily split up / divorce etc.

    Mahina // 2012-10-09 07:32:44 // //
  • This kind of fits with a philosophical debate I have been having with myself for years. Where does the responsibility lie to minimise offence? With the offender? Or the offended? There are 2 ways that offence can be minimised - either the offender does not take an action that causes offence, or the offended person stops taking offence. For instance, a black man (Person A) is walking down a public street in a white neighbourhood. Person B is an ignorant racist and is offended by the very presence of Person A. Here, the responsibility is with the person who is offended to get over it and not be offended - their attitude is at fault. Person A is doing nothing wrong! Now let`s imagine that Person B goes up to Person A and starts calling them names and saying cruel and nasty things to them. Here, Person B is clearly in the wrong and Person A has every right to be offended. Having a same-sex partner does not harm anybody. If anyone is offended in this situation, the responsibility lies with the people who are being offended - it is their attitude that is at fault, therefore they are the only ones who will get any kind of karmic backlash (and they probably would whether the same-sex relationship happened or not, because their underlying attitude is the same no matter what). Going back to my philosophical debate, there is a grey area that I still haven`t figured out. What if a person is very over-sensitive and manages / chooses to take offence at the slightest thing, whether intended or not? What if this person claims they are suffering from depression, therefore everyone should respect that and be more sensitive around them? How much effort should we make to not cause offence to such individuals? A more contravertial debate is the Mohammed cartoons - where do you draw the line between free speech and blatant insult, and who has the responsibility to not cause the offence in the first place? Should the cartoons have never been drawn? Or should religious communities not take so much offence?

    Mahina // 2012-10-09 07:29:18 // //
  • "In the Bhagavad Gita, Lord Krishna tells Arjuna, “You have control over your actions alone, never over the fruits of your action, or their subsequent consequences.” You have to follow your heart and do what is right for your life. Even if you tried to live your life trying to make your family happy, they might still interpret your actions as hurtful anyway. Make your choices from a loving place inside and don’t worry about how other’s judge you. Your karma is derived from your your actions. Their karma stems from their actions." So if a person cheats on their spouse with another and their spouse(s) don`t know (and would never find out), then is the above true? The person who cheats is only with 1 other person, nothing is being done to hurt the spouse and actions are based from a loving place inside for the 3rd person. The above is something I`ve struggled with for years - I haven`t cheated on my current partner for fear of karmic repercussions (among other things) and I don`t plan on doing so but I`ve always wondered about this. Can someone please enlighten me on the above?

    Confused // 2012-10-08 09:47:58 // //
  • In my early 20`s I was guided and came to embrace the 12 step program of recovery and did so for so long it has become a part of my spiritual tool box, so to speak.Shaping much of how I view life and those in the world around us. This is my foundation for spirituality. We are all equal, we are serve purpose, situations may differ and we are all were we are "at" or doing our best at any given moment. This is my current issue: Being single while raising my children and helping with my family I did not seek or involve myself in relationships of a coupling nature, for many years. Then in my early 40`s I entered into a relationship with a man who I felt very compatible with on many levels, My family needs became greater and we ended our pairing after 4 years. As painful as it was to let go...We went our separate ways and were apart for just over a 1000 days. We began communicating again, we had both experienced life in different ways and came back together from a different place than before. Things between us were even better than before and far healthier and solid. After 3 amazing months together, he died unexpectedly. I was with him when the stroke occurred, and by his side in the Emergency Room holding his head when the monitors stopped beeping. I am nearing 50 now, and this has been the hardest situation I have ever had to face. What can you offer in the way of advice? Thoughts on what happens to the energy we are, that changes form once the body dies? I know I am learning as I feel and walk through pain yet I feel so stagnate and lost. Hibernating from the world outside of my mind, avoiding, not eating well and escaping through reading. Thanks for your input or thoughts in advance.

    whitebird // 2012-10-08 03:15:15 // //
  • Intention is what count...responsible for karma....in one case one can be in same sex relationship and he can`t help it its just a honest expression...he sees his family is unhappy and this equally hurts to him but he can`t help it....here he has no intention to hurt, make unhappy anyone....his karma will follow his intention... Opposite can happens too....one who is in such same or opposite sex relationship and he enjoy if any one is unhappy or hurt...actually some time such person is in such relationship for hurting someone...then the karma will act accordingly

    Zenindia // 2012-10-08 01:17:55 // //
  • Your words as always are beautiful and insightful. amazing work.

    sinceretarot // 2012-10-07 22:04:43 // //
  • Dear Deepak, I am so thankful for you wisdom and enlightenment. My choices, at times, have been muddied by the expectations of my parents, who intentionally mean well, but do not live life from my perspective. Your encouragement to make choices for ourselves from a loving place, despite other people`s expectations was reassuring. Thank you for your continued kindness, and sharing your knowledge with the world. It is well received

    @artlived // 2012-10-05 20:46:32 // //
  • Thanks Deepak :) To the one who posed the question: Don`t let others hold you hostage :)

    Paul // 2012-10-05 16:36:41 // //