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March 05 2012

Detachment

Category:  Ask Deepak


Question:

I have learned to practice detachment/ surrender and to trust the outcome of
my desires to God. I have experienced some amazing synchronicities and manifestations. However sometimes when I am close to reaching a goal I begin to have a harder time keeping negative thought out and trusting in my higher power. When something is only a concept in my mind it is easier to detach from it and let things work out however it will, trusting in God that the results will be the best for me. But when that concept becomes a real physical thing , ( for example, when I actually meet and start dating my "perfect" mate, or am about to actually make a lot of money) I have trouble letting it go. "What if she begins dating someone else..." " What if..." I know these thoughts may block stuff from happening. How do you let stuff go when it's at the point where it seemingly means so much to you
Answer:

When you can be detached from the outcome of the important issues in your life, then you know you are truly detached. Detachment and trust in God grows over time through clarity of self-awareness. The negative thoughts and doubts that come up are old conditioning that want to keep the old ego self in place. Don’t struggle against the thoughts or feelings; just recognize them for what they are. The more you are aware of your self as independent from these thoughts, the less power they have to derail your desires. Over time and they eventually lose their grip, and you are free from your old conditioning.

Love,
Deepak

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  • Everyone creates his own prison, but that which creates can also destroy.

    Edwin // 2012-03-05 19:21:18 // //
  • Hi, Please I`m trusting God and feel you can help me in this tough and horrible time. I really need help and advice.My husband has MS & Bipolar, he got fired in 2010. SInce then he is not working, and he coming up with his "big ideas" which doesn`t make sense at all, we are bankrupt, he more then year he is been in and out. Not taking any responsibility in terms of financial, emotional. He is been out for three months " to change the world".Now he is coming back financially broken in debt and want that I should take him back with his conditions. He is not willing to make any compromise for our marriage. I really want to give him a chance but he said he is not going to do a job and will still pursue with his "big ideas" which will shake the world. I am all alone by myself trying to cope up this thing , but it`s a huge trauma plus it`s effecting my job too. Please please help me I really need help. Would really appreciate it.

    Kiran // 2012-03-05 18:07:46 // //

 

 

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  • Letting go does not means we don t care. We are actually not letting go our Love, we let die our Ego. If the love is based in possessiveness and the need, it is Ego, not Love. As you wrote, true Love is unconditional...Great writing Soni.

    Free Hug Yoga - Misa Derhy // 2012-03-06 08:24:14 // //
  • Hi my name it Michelle. I have BP -Disorder That does not give me an excuse to abuse another person verbaly, physicaly, or emotionaly. What it does require; is that I take my meds EVERY DAY, eat healty, sleep healthy, take vitamins, and go about the rest of my shit life. But I smile (as best I can) because this is my life and my responcibility. You are not even involved in that equation. He is LUCKY, LUCKY you tolerate his abuse and he refuses to work on it. He has a "biological illness". He need medical care to get stable... Then get on a system.... He foesnt want to work on what he is now. LEAVE HIM. He can not be fixed. And he doesnt even want the generocity of your help. This is the one life God gave you. Your reaching iut for help. ? I`m giving you permission to leave him and persue your own life. He`ll be ok. He`s not ready to let go of his HIGH`s yet. It`s better than any drug. Go out and meet someone with any type of personality!!! ...but who wants to grow, always. That`s the fountain of youth. Dont look back ...i can feel where your at! Praying for you that what ever best outcome be healthy and clear. xo

    mngrey // 2012-03-06 07:42:36 // //
  • Letting it go doesnt mean forgetting all about it. It means to detach from it, giving you a clearer more accurate view of the problem.

    Gary Appleton // 2012-03-06 02:44:53 // //
  • That a very hard question and letting go is only a mental process of life, but if you don`t let go it will mental break you down, you just have to face the situation and ask a higher power and relax

    Brenda Asiedu // 2012-03-05 22:55:32 // //
  • Who says you have to let it go?

    Paul Inberea // 2012-03-05 22:51:52 // //
  • I have been thinking a little more since I had commented a few hours ago. In my case, I think in the inside sometimes I don`t really feel like letting some stuff go, its just that I feel it has to be refixed somehow to avoid little inconsistencies to make certain thoght or emotion better. Not everything must be let go I believe, some things just might need to be understood well enough to be able to forget the bad ( I mean by this something like not letting disturb you ), forgive and leave better. When it comes to love, it is really important to undertand what kind of love either one is willing to give in the friendship, to keep it as a friendship or go beyond, then, I believe you can let go and accept reality.

    Jose E. Ortega // 2012-03-05 21:24:45 // //
  • Well said

    Varinder Singh Gill // 2012-03-05 20:59:27 // //
  • Recognize that these obcessive thoughts are an attempt to control either the person or the situation. Faith and trust are what you need. . They will come with continued awareness of your own part in things. Sounds like you are doing well. This is a process and you are well on your way.

    Hoo Hoo // 2012-03-05 20:44:45 // //
  • Tuck most of it away in boxes, like I did, leaving only your favorite things out, and you will detach from it. Then later, you can go back and donate, or give to friends and family, or sell it to buy the things that you need.

    Cheryl Bousquet // 2012-03-05 20:36:17 // //
  • my father died. my sister reacted by taking all my mother`s things (she`s very much alive but has dementia) my brother took my father`s things, these were things he wanted his grandsons (my kids) to have. my brother also scooped up the financials (insurance policies, credit cards, wallet, money, identity and the whole life policy that paid my father monthly) these are all just things and things are not important. i can`t get passed my father`s grandkids not getting his handed down memories nor can i accept my sister stealing my mother`s valuables. my mother needs the money my brother took to pay for her dementia care, without it, my father`s one steadfast hope to keep his little plot of land for the generations will be gone. how to detach?

    annidiot // 2012-03-05 20:22:42 // //
  • leave it all behind you......means nothing without happiness

    Christine Wilson Feeley // 2012-03-05 19:42:47 // //
  • How do you separate detachment from taking action? Passion and interest motivate us to act, to make choices. Can you describe please how you can be detached and not be passive? I`m wondering that maybe what you describe is quite specific, a detachment about the emotional investment in an action perhaps? Thank you for any thoughts you are able to share.

    ledzeppelina // 2012-03-05 19:27:29 // //
  • Everyone creates his own prison, but that which creates can also destroy.

    Edwin // 2012-03-05 19:21:18 // //
  • I don`t know, I have been making myself that question already many times before.

    Jose E. Ortega // 2012-03-05 19:20:20 // //
  • Acceptation of the good that is in process, and in manifestation now for us to express what is already unfold in the realm of Heaven on Earth.

    Valery // 2012-03-05 19:04:06 // //
  • Hi, Please I`m trusting God and feel you can help me in this tough and horrible time. I really need help and advice.My husband has MS & Bipolar, he got fired in 2010. SInce then he is not working, and he coming up with his "big ideas" which doesn`t make sense at all, we are bankrupt, he more then year he is been in and out. Not taking any responsibility in terms of financial, emotional. He is been out for three months " to change the world".Now he is coming back financially broken in debt and want that I should take him back with his conditions. He is not willing to make any compromise for our marriage. I really want to give him a chance but he said he is not going to do a job and will still pursue with his "big ideas" which will shake the world. I am all alone by myself trying to cope up this thing , but it`s a huge trauma plus it`s effecting my job too. Please please help me I really need help. Would really appreciate it.

    Kiran // 2012-03-05 18:07:46 // //
  • I am in a divorce process, this has been so hard to me, because I feel I cant detached this feeling for him, and actually its been 2 months since he left, and still feel his presence near me, every space in out appartment, every single song, thing reminds me of him. He told me he wont be back to me again,so I dont know how to deal it. What can help me feeling so much better?

    ximena // 2012-03-05 17:39:24 // //