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October 17 2013

Working On One Side of a Relationship

Category:  Ask Deepak

Question:

Is it possible for a relationship to improve with only one person working at it and the other in extreme contracted awareness? And if it does not happen what do you do when the person unwilling to grow with you is your mother?


Response:

By working on your own side of a dysfunctional relationship you can only be sure of helping yourself, but that change in your end of the relationship does allow for a different reaction from the other side. If you are able to resolve your issues that have brought you into conflict with your mother, she might then respond to you differently and together you might find a way to open communication lines and move toward resolution and a healthier relationship. It’s also possible that she will not notice the change in your or respond differently anyway. In that case you can only take comfort in knowing you have changed the only thing that is in your power.

Love,
Deepak

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  • You are a generous soul Deepak and I love what you have shared. I breath it in.

    Patreace Athena Starr // 2013-10-18 16:58:56 // //
  • O homem que mais entende da energia cundaline no planeta.Este é fera.

    Marco Aurélio // 2013-10-18 17:32:38 // //

 

 

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  • thats what i needed...thank you

    Lu Consiente // 2013-10-21 19:28:58 // //
  • all my respect to you,Deepak

    Clara Sam // 2013-10-21 07:41:20 // //
  • And that would be saying to myself that the only person I can change is myself.....

    Kiki Marmol Guevara // 2013-10-20 13:52:10 // //
  • Made me smile when Alena Sokolova says "nearly all women have conflict with their mother"! On some level, I believe, we chose our parents. They make superb teachers. Not easy, but mine have definitely pointed me towards my life's work and what I am passionate about in life.

    Lisa Burnage // 2013-10-19 06:52:07 // //
  • In life, you're going to be left out, talked about, lied to and used. But you have to decide who's worth your tears and who's not. (chk my page for more quotes).

    Distance Counseling. // 2013-10-19 05:55:20 // //
  • The change in me caused the end of a marriage, and I am happier and more contented now.

    Lucretia Spirit // 2013-10-19 00:01:27 // //
  • ...resulta que soy de chile, (sud-america) y no hablo ingles, pero me harian feliz si publicaran a Mr. Chopra en castellano, gracias!!

    María Eugenia Reyes Zuñiga // 2013-10-18 23:38:44 // //
  • Thanks Deepak ....to get yr reply..... I just needed it. God bless.

    Rita Verma // 2013-10-18 20:34:14 // //
  • I needed to hear this. I am amazed at how Just when I need it - It appears ! ! thank you Deepak

    Donna Gastreich // 2013-10-18 19:54:37 // //
  • Drift with the wind...

    Frank Cassianna // 2013-10-18 19:30:52 // //
  • THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN CHANGE (OR JUDGE) IS YOURSELF. I have found this realization to be soooo liberating!!!

    Alice Whooley // 2013-10-18 19:05:40 // //
  • Não sei falar inglês, mas continuo curtindo cada vez mais!!!

    Simone Mendes // 2013-10-18 18:49:41 // //
  • Have to agree. You can only change yourself and it that makes others uncomfortable they will back away from you because of their discomfort. Many people can't handle authenticity - they prefer the lie.

    Kathy Maher // 2013-10-18 18:19:09 // //
  • Speaking personally, family is often more difficult to deal with than total strangers. One can forgive anything, but in order to protect oneself from more harm, inflicted by those unwilling to change...it is sometimes better to let go and pray from a distance.

    Deanne Hunter // 2013-10-18 17:53:50 // //
  • The perfect answer!

    Leslie Cardinell // 2013-10-18 17:36:03 // //
  • Leia os livros dêle. Há vários.

    Marco Aurélio // 2013-10-18 17:34:10 // //
  • O homem que mais entende da energia cundaline no planeta.Este é fera.

    Marco Aurélio // 2013-10-18 17:32:38 // //
  • You are a generous soul Deepak and I love what you have shared. I breath it in.

    Patreace Athena Starr // 2013-10-18 16:58:56 // //
  • As a mother of 3 adult women, this has been my private challenge this year. Therapy & meditation are helping me go to a place of understanding myself, where it is safe to talk and listen without creating a answer. I have learned that some of it is growing pains, Adult women finding there own wings, and i transforming to a new life & role in there lives. Its an emotional fragile balance. its been my life's work to raise my daughters with positive attitudes & spirituality. I think it takes a level of maturity to see that your parents are human then move on to have a unique & wonderful journey of your own. Namaste

    Angie Mendenhall // 2013-10-18 16:50:17 // //
  • It's all about Acceptance!

    Allen Hallada // 2013-10-18 16:49:10 // //
  • m e gustaria que lo traduscan.

    Silvia Vallejos // 2013-10-18 16:36:45 // //
  • Not sure what is "extreme contracted awareness" ????

    Suzanne Camejo // 2013-10-18 16:07:00 // //
  • I am facing same thing but with my spouse ! Sometimes I am letting it go and relying on my change reflection, but many other times I feel frustrated and sad that I am alone on this " joyful journey" , it's every day practice to accept him as he is ( esp. He's great one) , but it will be mast joyful if he joined me in this loveable journey ! Blessings M

    Joy Rays // 2013-10-18 15:50:52 // //
  • Very well said Deepak...I had the same problem and my mom who went to her grave unchanged, that is...not realizing her emotional problems even though I tried to talk to her on many occasions before cancer took her life. I did as you stated here "take comfort in knowing you have changed the only thing that is in your power"...myself! I am so grateful for your wisdom as I continue to do the work. Namaste*

    Rebecca Bledsoe // 2013-10-18 15:01:09 // //
  • Can you share something about the same situation, but regarding your partner (not the mother)? Apart from letting go of the ego and following your heart's inspiration and desire, which you shared previously ? Thank you Deepak!

    Vero Le Ray // 2013-10-18 14:57:04 // //
  • My experience of this is that we are connected spiritually and therefore people are in our lives for a reason and it is two-fold if what we each need to learn in order to grow! Further as we are genetically connected the tiger person may not speak to you for a year or more because genetically they can feel your anger etc., the moment you begin to work on this or any other behaviour that causes problems , then that other person can feel it and their perception and willingness to be in your space changes. We cannot force people to love; like or accept us..all we can do is accept them and change ourselves and in my experience it has changed others in my immediate family's approach to me.

    Dawn Duncan // 2013-10-18 13:36:30 // //
  • i love my mum.she has dementia now and it seems like she is a different person.i feel the loving bond has gone and it hurts deeply.im a grown man now but i still feel it.i know its not her fault .she says things that cut deep also will forget where she puts things then it will cause an argument cos she thinks iv moved it or even stolen off her,its those sort of things that really hurt.it effects just about every part of our lives as im her carer now,i feel its my duty to look after her now as she was the best mum in the world.she finds it hard as she still thinks she can look after her self.it must be really hard for her as she is a very very independent woman.but i still love her and always will.

    Stephen Eastwood // 2013-10-18 13:09:24 // //
  • I had mom problems too and just had to work on me...before she passed I had taught her to roll with the flow which she loved and made it better for us. I visualized healing colors for her from 100 miles away one night when she was so ill and the next morning she was so thrilled and said an Angel came to her. She described the exact colors I'd sent!! Thank you Deepak ! Love your posts and books! <3 <3 <3

    Beverly Hobday // 2013-10-18 12:51:33 // //
  • In my case, I am the mother part and I am the one working on enlightenment. My daughter is totally opposed to trying any spiritual work. I suppose she is content to just sit in her depression.

    Jerri Lynn Silver // 2013-10-18 12:23:20 // //
  • Everything is all about ourselves. There is no right or wrong; only a perspective. If your mother understands better; she would not be where she is. By growing yourself; you grow to learn to have empathy and in fact will grow to accept her for who is she. Through this love; she may evolves. Even if she is not; you will grown to a level where that you have the capacity to accept her. Keep filling your own emotional tank; when you are in tune with yourself; NOTHING can shake you. Keep growing and learning...

    Linah Tjung // 2013-10-18 11:51:43 // //
  • Praying for her to be guided....in silence!

    Cecily Durieux // 2013-10-18 11:49:32 // //
  • Realizing that we only have the power to change ourselves has made life easier for me. I don't always have it easy but I feel more in control.

    Diane Guarnieri // 2013-10-18 11:27:53 // //
  • Sometimes working on ourselves is the only thing we can do. And the rest is all upon divine laws.

    Hariom Pandey // 2013-10-18 10:08:49 // //
  • Nice ! Xx alison xx

    Alison Schuijer // 2013-10-18 09:32:51 // //
  • By changing ourselves we influence the whole universe. This is why I believe that the relationship may be improved even if one person is changing. On the other hand, if one person is growing and the other is not- what is the sense to stay in such relationship? It is good to split BUT without hate:)

    Law Of Attraction // 2013-10-18 09:27:14 // //
  • tks!!

    César Vargas Torres // 2013-10-18 09:06:42 // //
  • You gotta love yourself first! Everyone is dealing with their own worries and fears, they are experiencing their own wounds from their parents, some are not evolved, refuse to grow out of their own fears, but, one thing is for sure, if you come from your heart out of love, instead of the ego, fear brain, your whole life will suddenly change!

    Deb Maylath // 2013-10-18 09:05:10 // //
  • Can only change yourself, if others refuse, nothing u can do, if u change your attitude towards yourself and them, she will see you in a different way and she will respond! In a better way towards you. There's a way you are being, she doesn't like? Sometimes both people are closed down, it's a matter of opening up your unconditional heart of love!

    Deb Maylath // 2013-10-18 09:01:05 // //
  • Our mothers were raised in limiting social constructs. I love my mother, but I don't like her. I have long since ceased to have high expectations of that relationship. I can only listen to her and send love and healing, as I would with any old lady, who is full of resentment.

    Ros Greenfield // 2013-10-18 07:09:52 // //
  • hermoso! aplicable a cualquier relación Mariolga Aranda

    More Aranda // 2013-10-18 06:54:49 // //
  • <3

    Angelica Angie // 2013-10-18 06:42:44 // //
  • Some only see their selfisH controlling wrong as right. On top of that your righteousness that God sees and makes shine like the noon day goes unnoticed. Not to worry your Father has divine 20-20 Keep your focused fixed on the prize. Some people after you put down your dukes walked away subtlety will ease back in decades later totin some of the same mess yo walked away from. I resolved that I love them ,but kept going over and over the rules of love and I came across nothing saying hang in there and just get kicked around and abused by the mess in anothers mindset

    Ric TheZenmaster Solomon // 2013-10-18 06:26:10 // //
  • How interesting that almost everyone has a conflict with the mother. What's wrong with women?

    Alena Sokolova // 2013-10-18 06:13:40 // //
  • that happened to me...true that she didn't change herself but she changed her reaction to me a lot

    Mayca Fernandez Toscano // 2013-10-18 04:47:27 // //
  • Its happened to me ...I keep on growing and learning to better myself so I can deal with her

    Angie Catton // 2013-10-18 04:32:02 // //
  • I don't think is an obligation for a son/daughter to ''be able'' to work on that.. or 'be able' to resolve 'issues' by themselves for a relationship, and what happens if you are just not able?. I think it is healthier to live away then. Why making a lonely effort... in order to improve relationship with a ''mom, -specially in the cases were those issues were probably created by the Dear mommy- in the first place. Didn't she already had all of your firsts years of your life... to cultivate and construct a good communication?. When there is Love, a relationship is possible, it just IS. If not there is nothing. So, ...Just leave, and get a life, say hi to mom if you want to.. from time to time, and that is it. But mainly: let go and be happy. That is my opinion.

    Be Bmfbn // 2013-10-18 04:02:37 // //
  • Ooh love dat. Mkes me feel a little better nw.

    Farzanah Dhooma // 2013-10-18 03:55:08 // //
  • Yes, so true, well said :)

    Joelle Kenney Halonen // 2013-10-18 03:47:37 // //
  • ❤️

    Genny Gobus // 2013-10-18 03:40:39 // //
  • i have found that when people in our lives annoy or upset us, it is an exaggerated mirror of faults in ourselves. when you can honestly look at your self and say i am that. (neal donald walsh) then we accept that it's a lesson to look within not out

    Karen White // 2013-10-18 03:36:54 // //
  • No hun. find your soul mate and you dont have to be out of your skin to be in a decent relationship...

    Aviceena Mian // 2013-10-18 03:02:30 // //
  • Beautiful!

    Hilda Harris // 2013-10-18 02:51:41 // //
  • People are in our lives, in various roles and capacities, to teach us lessons on tolerance and unconditional love. There is also the karmic dance of meeting those souls with whom we have perhaps known in a past life, to achieve a place of freedom and neutrality, which is where we can truly love without any attachment... within this 3-d experience. I do not think we need to stay in energy that feels toxic, but we must offer love, tolerance and forgiveness, energetically, to all whom we meet on our journey as spirits on the human ride. (I refer to toxicity, generally, not specifically to this situation) Love is a choice and we are called, sometimes via disappointments, to love our own self via situations that move us to see via higher awareness and nonjudgmental observation. We often learn many heart lessons when we see/experience something different than who we feel we are or wish to be... as we observe the actions of someone else. I truly don't think anyone would intentionally hurt anyone. We do our best to navigate our journey...from where we are in our levels of consciousness. We all have an ego, which is and always will be a necessary part of our humanness... and we have all felt hurt when we feel we are not understood, most especially if it is someone with whom one has felt a close bond or intimate relationship. When we see, learn and understand--from the perspective of the conscious observer...we can practice responding with love, even when we are misunderstood. This, I feel, is the Universe's way of teaching us to live and love at, for and through our highest potential. The Universe loves us so much. It urges us to grow and evolve...and growing, although sometimes uncomfortable for a time, is always a good thing. Much love to you...♥

    Mawma Lorelei // 2013-10-18 02:49:47 // //
  • yes i have changed and my mum is slowing changing too, i open mu heart do i can give her my love freely and she is starting to respond to it naturally.

    Karine Delhomme // 2013-10-18 01:26:10 // //
  • Thank you Deepak! So a pro pos!

    Alessandra Mariano // 2013-10-18 01:10:51 // //
  • Can't ditto enough with what's been said above by the others......superb answer !!!

    Mark Zen // 2013-10-18 01:02:54 // //
  • nice one sir

    Samir Samdarshi // 2013-10-18 00:55:25 // //
  • Yesiree! Very true!

    Pamela Short Tinsley // 2013-10-18 00:37:57 // //
  • Well have you consider 1+1=§

    Jefe J. Cota // 2013-10-18 00:37:32 // //
  • Love you Deepak

    Cynthia Anne Neil // 2013-10-18 00:33:22 // //
  • Makes sense-Not my mum but certainly others.

    Charlie Tilstone // 2013-10-18 00:16:00 // //
  • Great answer!

    Margaret Cooper Moore V // 2013-10-17 23:57:12 // //
  • I just went through this recently !! :-) At least I know I tried.

    Maya Premlata Rao // 2013-10-17 23:46:22 // //
  • When a person meditates regularly, their consciousness expands which allows a very different "take" on a person or a relationship. It's been in my experience that a recognizing or understanding of the big picture and empathizing deeply with people in your life changes your attitude toward the person or relationship. Another benefit of regular meditation I noticed was that the old triggers or buttons for anger, resentment, or the same old reactions based in my self had lost power to dominate my behavior. When old triggers for conflict hold little or no power, the old patterns are interrupted in a relationship where the two people are stuck in an unconscious way of relating as in behavior patterns. If one person transcends the old karma then there is a strong possibility for the other person to shift out of old behaviors and reactions too. In my own life, it took about 3 years of meditation and some time away from the dysfunctional relationship (without malice or resentment) before I was open to a conscious connection again with boundaries that effortlessly came in and limited our exposure for old trappings. When you meditate you end up respecting yourself and others, the dysfunction heals eventually. It's just not always going to be over night. Be patient and enjoy your evolution and growth. It's yours!

    Stacia Colleen Dyess-Hammond // 2013-10-17 23:31:02 // //
  • Your last two sentences seems to me the reality most of the times. We, obviously, can only change and control our attitude.

    Nira Erlich // 2013-10-17 23:21:38 // //
  • This was a beautiful answer, Deepak.

    Terry Kenny // 2013-10-17 23:17:08 // //
  • Interesting.

    Jose Angel Rivera // 2013-10-17 22:44:45 // //
  • Send them both to therapy , could help a lot . the one with bigger issues will say not , Mr. Deepak tiene una pagina en espa~ol Deepak Chopra - Espanol !

    Tania Martinez // 2013-10-17 22:44:04 // //
  • What if this person is your mate?

    Jennifer Bridwell Dyer // 2013-10-17 22:43:18 // //
  • I needed to read this post at this very second (not regarding my mother)......Thank you Deepak......You inspire my inner rockstar everyday.....Namaste.....

    Mel Fell // 2013-10-17 22:40:01 // //
  • great answer Deepak. Conflict is hard with only one participant

    Laura Cooke // 2013-10-17 22:32:24 // //
  • Very few people understand what it is like to have a mother who has no maternal instinct, treats you very disrespectfully, makes you feel like your worthless and has no clue about their impact, justifies all of their wrongdoings, and has no social skills at all. What is in my power is to not respond in anger and to spend very little time with her because it feels awful. Can anyone else relate???

    Leah Marie Yeo // 2013-10-17 22:31:50 // //
  • mE ENCATA CHOPRA PERO TRADUCIDO NO CONOZCO EL IDIOMA QUE PENAESTA PUBLICACIÓN. PERO NO ESTAMOS EN ARGENTINA???? PLIS ESPAÑOL ESPAÑOL

    Marisa Rua // 2013-10-17 22:27:36 // //
  • I am in a similar predicament which needs solving.

    Murthy Spunia // 2013-10-17 22:03:02 // //
  • Love her anyway!

    Lisa Marano // 2013-10-17 21:51:59 // //
  • Alcoholic

    Don Zimmerman // 2013-10-17 21:44:07 // //
  • Absolutely agree!! the only person we can control is ourselves.

    SANRI - Connecting women in business & in life // 2013-10-17 21:43:12 // //
  • Have the wisdom to accept the things I cannot change.

    Parysima Dehghan // 2013-10-17 21:39:57 // //
  • Namaste!

    Maria Luisa Fabian de Castaneda // 2013-10-17 21:39:07 // //
  • Amen

    Shelly Blackman // 2013-10-17 21:36:47 // //
  • Divinity in motion....like Krishna said, divinity impulse.....i like it, Deepak..

    Anna Tetro // 2013-10-17 21:20:16 // //
  • ....and practice acceptance...?

    Rachael Scott // 2013-10-17 21:15:00 // //
  • I find that if we think people are being negative towards us they will give in. I noticed this in my dad. So I stopped my preconceived notions, no he won't mention my weight this time home and it began to change. If I looked in the mirror and put myself down then saw my dad, I would say, ugh, he is going to say something and he would. When I gave him a chance to not say anything or be positive, he changed to that. I thought, years of issues for no reason, daft and oh Geez..... Love....get it Deepak.

    Anna Tetro // 2013-10-17 21:12:38 // //
  • One can only open their heart and mind to a better way of thinking and being. It will attract people and relationships that you will enjoy being in and growth will happen. It is in your mother's journey that she will find the peace she seeks, or will she will leave this world not learning that very important lesson. Just thinking.

    Linda Totty // 2013-10-17 21:03:48 // //
  • Love you.Xxx

    Noura Marzouki // 2013-10-17 20:49:15 // //
  • My mom has always grown with me. So, this is not anything I could answer. Just give it time. Continue to live and motive with self and others that kind of on the same level. Moms will come around

    Dee Dee Haymon // 2013-10-17 20:46:12 // //
  • you are a LIVING GOD.....i love you.

    Indigo Child // 2013-10-17 20:32:03 // //
  • He always has such great answers.

    Angela D. Harris // 2013-10-17 20:24:01 // //
  • I don't believe so

    Deborah Lynn Marriott // 2013-10-17 20:21:57 // //
  • Deepak, a dear friend of mine once said "we don't get to choose the parents we are born too, and they don't get to choose who they create". We are fortunate most of the time it all works out. :)

    JR Rouse // 2013-10-17 20:15:29 // //
  • Try to be lvable ...all world is urs. Never think negative atleast about ur parent....parents cn keep 100 childrens but hundred childrens cnt keep one parents so no nd never comparison

    Poonam Rattan Bakshi // 2013-10-17 20:13:59 // //
  • I have to wait 70more years to get marry you Deepak :)

    Vasantha Atturu // 2013-10-17 20:13:27 // //
  • Rewound is natural ...giv faith nd get faith , giv lv nd get it, the thing u do the reflection of that will definitly cms.....so be positive . Thats ur thinking that other person is of such type but thats onl urs thought ...we see wat we want to see

    Poonam Rattan Bakshi // 2013-10-17 20:10:42 // //
  • Good one

    Dawn Persechino // 2013-10-17 20:10:15 // //
  • What also helps is to forgive yourself, forgive the other person and send them loving energy. It is amazing how quickly they respond.

    Alastair Gregor // 2013-10-17 20:09:13 // //
  • exactly ...the key is change ourselves! thanks...you help me with ..questions

    Lucia Liege // 2013-10-17 19:58:11 // //
  • I am painting my mother's bedroom for peace.. lol

    Rebecca Mae Evans // 2013-10-17 19:57:58 // //
  • UN GRANDE !!!!

    Ana Flores // 2013-10-17 19:56:15 // //
  • Excellent response.....You have always the correct words.

    Narda Alui // 2013-10-17 19:55:49 // //
  • The only person whoae reactions u can control; ia ur own.. change is growth.

    Suzi Houtz // 2013-10-17 19:51:26 // //
  • It's true! You CAN change a sour relationship by changing yourself! I have done it myself, thanks to inspiration from Deepak Chopra! Even if you are both at fault, the change in you can spur a different reaction from the other person, maybe even a change in them!

    Michelle Clements // 2013-10-17 19:47:35 // //
  • love her where she is and think of her having an epic awakening..

    Catherine Lethcoe // 2013-10-17 19:37:09 // //
  • That is so true. When I had conflict with my mother when she was frail and elderly I had to change my patterns in order for her to respond to me differently which did result in a more healthy, honest relationship between us.

    Anne Robertson // 2013-10-17 19:35:42 // //
  • You can only do what you can do personally. Then boundaries are needed if the other person is stuck and unwilling to change. In the end you have to let them go on their own journey and focus on your own peace and forgiveness and love.

    Leisa Goldsworthy // 2013-10-17 19:35:25 // //
  • Ruthellen Grishen, pity your mother, love your father, and shine......through it all

    Victoria Macintosh // 2013-10-17 19:34:33 // //
  • I love this answer, Deepak. And it is an important question for many of us on the path to enlightenment right now. For me, I was listening to Marianne Williamson the other day in Return to Love and it helped me when she said that by our own evolution, we touch and influence those around us without having to do anything outwardly, or that is to say physically, to change them. It is enough to know, to pray, and to bless them . . . to Love them, to lift up our own energy which will reach out to their spirit. There is a level where all people are aware. Reach out through your heart to this person without taking yourself out of your own center. Know that not only is this enough, this is the way of the true Miracle worker. The God in me recognizes and Loves the God in You. :-) My two cents.

    Cheri Pierce // 2013-10-17 19:34:01 // //
  • My mother told me that the day I was born, I ruined her life...she also told my dad that when he had his stroke

    Ruthellen Grishen // 2013-10-17 19:30:59 // //
  • Forgive them, move on. Honoring our parents is easy. Its how we conduct ourselves that Honors them. Even if there dead ass wrong. Its all good, the buck stops here, right?

    Carl Ubell // 2013-10-17 19:28:50 // //
  • Deepak your responses are so wise. Thank you for your good work.

    Tani Shaw // 2013-10-17 19:28:10 // //
  • True, But if u r open, u will see your mother is the only one to undetstan your change first. Only she may get scared thinking of your destruction. She just needs to get comfort from your assurance..... U can always find that way with mothers as no one knows u better, not even god or devil.

    Saptarshi Banerjee // 2013-10-17 19:27:52 // //
  • Yes!!!!

    Tamar Zion // 2013-10-17 19:26:08 // //
  • and that's the way it is!

    Gisela Tillman // 2013-10-17 19:21:45 // //
  • Love you Deepak:)

    Virginia Arias // 2013-10-17 19:16:08 // //
  • I had someone who attempted forcing change within me... Which in spite, responded with me blocking everything he had to say, even if they were the next winning powerball numbers! How I was able to translate my message to him was: the best way to for me to change, is by being the change you want to see in me... I will naturally pick up the good traits in you without any words said. Moral of the story, there is always something to learn from the student.. And it takes a change in both to see the change.

    Cory Van Valin // 2013-10-17 19:15:42 // //
  • as a gay man who came out in the very early 70's finding the willingness to grow and discover myself was hampered by my mother who saw homosexuality as a vice and sin. Only time and a willingness for the relationship to continue on my side carried us through the difficult years..and today my best friend is my mother who is 83.... Some things worth having are worth spending the time required to help with healing.

    Rick Rosio // 2013-10-17 19:15:23 // //
  • Have faith and continually set a great example to light up the world! Hurray for all of Mother's Natures!

    Kimberly Ann Fleenor // 2013-10-17 19:13:55 // //
  • Actually we cant control other's thought,decision and action but we can program our own thought which can helps to take wise decision and action. So be responsible and positive while dealing with relationship issues. The major factor which poisons our relationships are ego, negative attitude and winning over other despite of truth. Just water yourself with love, sound understanding, positive attitude and win over negative people with love and give your best to make them feel regarding the outcome of living happily being together. Never react with people who are having attitude issues, just respond them being positive then their negative energy can get demagnetized

    Dhiraj Kumar Raj // 2013-10-17 19:10:36 // //
  • Love your words... Your wisdom.

    Ivanna Duran Mejia // 2013-10-17 19:10:32 // //
  • Very true, it worked for me, have faith, it can happen x

    Jannine Hargreaves // 2013-10-17 19:09:14 // //
  • When you go to Portugal, please explain this to our Prime Minister. Thank you.

    João Poupinha // 2013-10-17 19:08:40 // //
  • Had my mom read this, and told her thanks!! She response was "it was either that or you'd go away! We both laughed! Glad she decided to go for the ride!

    Terry L. Christensen // 2013-10-17 19:07:57 // //
  • Perfect!

    Lidia Silvia Guetti // 2013-10-17 19:07:50 // //
  • I really, really needed to read this.. Thank you..

    David Chidester // 2013-10-17 19:07:24 // //
  • yes, it is all within. You choose the relationship you want to have and take the steps on your part to do that. It's all about perspective ;)

    Dawn Harju // 2013-10-17 19:06:00 // //
  • Thank you

    Olawale Daniel // 2013-10-17 19:05:39 // //
  • We cannot control another's words, deeds or actions. The only one we can control is ourself.

    Marion Drake-Calev // 2013-10-17 19:04:46 // //
  • thank you so much?

    Warren Barrett // 2013-10-17 19:04:11 // //
  • Can we get this message to the politicians and world leaders...please??

    Warren Barrett // 2013-10-17 19:04:04 // //
  • one way street walk away for sure lol bro

    Bronagh Fitzgerald // 2013-10-17 19:02:43 // //