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July 03 2013

Crying in Meditation

Category:  Ask Deepak

Question:

Hi Deepak, I am your huge fan. I recently bought your happiness and attracting love cds and started meditating. After a week of meditation whenever I meditate I cry. Tears start coming out of my eyes and don't stop. And it feels in my heart. Can you tell me why that happens? Also I liked a guy and we broke up so I bought the cd to attract love. One of my friends said if I keep trying to attract him and he doesn't come back to me it will be hard to forget him after all these love attraction meditations. Is that true?

Response:

The tears are meditation releasing the pent up sorrow and grief from the ended relationship. Rather than trying to attract him back right away, let the healing of your heart come to a place of peace first. You cannot expect to move forward in a loving relationship if you haven’t yet healed and assimilated the breakup.

Love,
Deepak

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  • Mr. Deepak, I was married for 21 years to a man with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder, I am now divorced and have no purpose in life and a self esteem that is rock bottom. What can I do to start life all over. I am 54 years old and all my dreams have been shattered. Please help Is there help?

    DT // 2013-07-03 13:40:14 // //
  • heyy. i feel what you mean i have been there as well, more than once lol, everyone has break ups and that is normal. deepak is right, the heart does need to heal before you move on. trying to get him to come back, may or may not be the right thing to do. you have to answer that yourself, if hes just going to yank you around, or use you, it is going to end up worse. what kind of person is he, truly? emotions are very strong, but if a relationship is toxic, and you know it, you will save yourself a lot of grief than in you keep going back the thing i have come to realise on my path over the past 2 or 3 years, is that it is really important that you love and accept yourself, all of yourself for who you are, what you feel, everything. everything. unconditional love, unconditional acceptance unconditional love for yourself will help you love through this, move through a lot of stuff. i honesty will say, before i started my own evolution and work, i didnt love myself unconditionally. i only liked or loved myself when i was doing good, or what i judged as good, fun etc. as a quote i love, its not "i love myself if, there is no if, there is no justification, there is no explanation, it is just to love". a really really good one is Don Miguel Ruiz`s Mastery Of Love. that one opened my eyes a lot. check it out, this isn;t a sales pitch, just speaking from experience, it helped me realize quite a bit. feel free to send me an email if you like and i can perhaps lead you in the direction of some of the teachings that have helped me a long the way, some of deepaks, some of others. darkeyes14@hotmail.com

    jug // 2013-07-04 12:49:30 // //

 

 

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  • Such good advice! Take heart. I was in a similar place. After a year of pain I was drawn to mediation and I made it my goal to only focus on myself and my healing. Very quickly I felt joy again and was miraculously reunited with my boyfriend not so long afterwards! Focus on healing; this must come first and always listen to YOUR own inner voice to guide you.

    pozzgelz // 2013-08-05 13:54:38 // //
  • why would you want to get him back girl when the very nature caused the break up. It's hard. Very very hard to let go such things! But all you really need to do is accept the truth first. You needn't attract anybody,not just him. When you're here, there's a reason! Nature's lessons are learnt the hard way girl. Nature doesn't INVEST in a junk :). You are far more worth than you think of yourself i bet! You got to attain a mental status of minimum peace, where you have started to love yourself. The tiniest things around u. When the belief sprouts back. In trivial matters m talking of. Most importantly,when you realise you can never own a thing in this nature. Be it anything. With this as the background,start meditating. Meditating soon after a breakup!? That's not the way :). Not being rude, but to meditate is when you already are at peace with your innerself n when you wanto become selfless and wanto transcend the limit.

    Mexi Harry // 2013-07-07 14:14:47 // //
  • heyy. i feel what you mean i have been there as well, more than once lol, everyone has break ups and that is normal. deepak is right, the heart does need to heal before you move on. trying to get him to come back, may or may not be the right thing to do. you have to answer that yourself, if hes just going to yank you around, or use you, it is going to end up worse. what kind of person is he, truly? emotions are very strong, but if a relationship is toxic, and you know it, you will save yourself a lot of grief than in you keep going back the thing i have come to realise on my path over the past 2 or 3 years, is that it is really important that you love and accept yourself, all of yourself for who you are, what you feel, everything. everything. unconditional love, unconditional acceptance unconditional love for yourself will help you love through this, move through a lot of stuff. i honesty will say, before i started my own evolution and work, i didnt love myself unconditionally. i only liked or loved myself when i was doing good, or what i judged as good, fun etc. as a quote i love, its not "i love myself if, there is no if, there is no justification, there is no explanation, it is just to love". a really really good one is Don Miguel Ruiz`s Mastery Of Love. that one opened my eyes a lot. check it out, this isn;t a sales pitch, just speaking from experience, it helped me realize quite a bit. feel free to send me an email if you like and i can perhaps lead you in the direction of some of the teachings that have helped me a long the way, some of deepaks, some of others. darkeyes14@hotmail.com

    jug // 2013-07-04 12:49:30 // //
  • Healing must take place first before moving forward.

    Noel Cajayon // 2013-07-04 09:32:25 // //
  • when we sincerely love someone we must give freedom and pray for his/her welfare.Dr.Chopra is really great.

    Joseph John Kennedy // 2013-07-04 07:55:16 // //
  • Millionaire yet?

    Beheading Buddha // 2013-07-04 07:17:23 // //
  • This is so true. :-)

    Lela Brown // 2013-07-04 01:50:18 // //
  • hey doc, how do you hang on when you know it's done and everything is heading south foremost the health. so why bother. give me something to ponder.PLEASE!

    Mary Dalka // 2013-07-04 00:47:32 // //
  • In other (and much less eloquent words) you need to detach that U-haul full of old baggage before so Love will have room to fill. Best Wishes. Namaste. ;-)

    Ann Mahoney Leslie // 2013-07-04 00:43:36 // //
  • Ok

    Rakesh Pandey // 2013-07-04 00:21:10 // //
  • meney kiya hai thanx fr helping me

    Sonia Chandak // 2013-07-04 00:20:40 // //
  • Meditation center governed by gonka its free for everyone

    Rakesh Pandey // 2013-07-04 00:19:41 // //
  • no i want to know who is taking meditation class

    Sonia Chandak // 2013-07-04 00:15:13 // //
  • In lko address bakshi ka talab and also search in Google

    Rakesh Pandey // 2013-07-04 00:14:00 // //
  • where

    Sonia Chandak // 2013-07-04 00:08:07 // //
  • Sonia Chandak if u want to meditation better pl join 10 days shivir in vipassana'

    Rakesh Pandey // 2013-07-03 23:19:55 // //
  • Las lagrimas son la meditación dejando ir tristeza y dolor acumulados de relaciones terminadas. En vez de tratar de atraer a esa persona rápidamente, deja que la sanción de tu corazón llegue a un punto de paz primero. No puedes esperar avanzar en una nueva relación cuando no has asimilado y sanado tu relación pasada.

    Cristina Gonzalez Marro // 2013-07-03 21:28:50 // //
  • All of the people who commented here also helped me too. I am going through the same thing. So happy I read everyones words, thank you :)

    Beatriz Alas Cardona // 2013-07-03 21:10:41 // //
  • Know and understand your true worth and value. Don't beg anyone to love you. All that you need you are able to give to yourself. It lives in you. Stay strong. I send you light and love.

    Love Laudé // 2013-07-03 21:03:08 // //
  • Healing the self is of great value. Good read, thank you to the question submitter and also to Deepak.

    Shaunta McConnell Eason // 2013-07-03 20:07:37 // //
  • Interesting.

    Jose Angel Rivera // 2013-07-03 19:53:35 // //
  • I have had such intense emotional uprisings from meditation that I haven't done an unguided meditation in over seven years. Powerful things happen. Things manifest. Not good things. I've tried grounding. I am not an angry person. But something gets angry in there.

    Jennifer Hulford // 2013-07-03 17:57:57 // //
  • Buen consejo :-)

    Yolanda Cáceres // 2013-07-03 17:21:26 // //
  • Right On!!!

    Pauline Leroux // 2013-07-03 16:45:30 // //
  • Even if in the future you come together again, it should be a ReNew thing, a ReNew relationship and for that it's needed to asimilate this break up, heal those wounds, understand and forgive. Now it's time to be focused on conquering a great self-esteem and learn Amazing Things about your "being", make it count on your personal "Book of Life". Then, anything Healthy and joyful will be posible between you two. Warmly, Maria

    Maria Ibars // 2013-07-03 14:08:08 // //
  • Thanks a lot

    Prateek Sharma // 2013-07-03 13:43:02 // //
  • Mr. Deepak, I was married for 21 years to a man with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder, I am now divorced and have no purpose in life and a self esteem that is rock bottom. What can I do to start life all over. I am 54 years old and all my dreams have been shattered. Please help Is there help?

    DT // 2013-07-03 13:40:14 // //
  • HOLA YO TAMPOCO PUEDO TRADUCIRLO AL ESPAÑOL

    Graciela Kries // 2013-07-03 13:23:32 // //
  • holaaa como hago para traducir esto al español por favor alguien me ayude

    Yenitza Barrero // 2013-07-03 13:14:41 // //
  • Accept the break-up. Attracting Love doesn't mean attracting a specific person. There may be someone out there who is MUCH better for you and focusing on getting the failed relationship back just keeps new love from flowing into your life.

    Michael Croteau // 2013-07-03 13:11:35 // //
  • For me, when my heart is at peace. Even darker days have light. Amazing response Deepak. -Cherokee kid

    Michael Aguilar // 2013-07-03 12:50:51 // //
  • Wow the same thing happens to me every time I meditate I cry and cry and can't stop. I glad this was posted.

    Doreena Stice // 2013-07-03 12:42:22 // //
  • Meditation is the refinery of the mind. You are in a quiet space of stillness therefore the body clears all the blockage and unwanted emotions. Your heart is letting go of heavy emotions that were weighing you down so after meditation you feel lighter and whole:) Your heart more open! This is a cumulative process!

    Ibelle Sebastian // 2013-07-03 12:21:20 // //
  • how can i do your meditation classes sir pls help

    Sonia Chandak // 2013-07-03 12:20:38 // //
  • Thank you so much. You speak to me too.

    Giovanna K. Farnum // 2013-07-03 12:07:26 // //
  • Oh Thanks

    Geetanjali Dadhwal // 2013-07-03 12:06:30 // //
  • This question is very interesting for me because i remeber myself many years ago on betwen a yoga class and even doing meditation i had a similar experience, tears coming out like a river was like my heart was opening and cleaning some pain who was stuked inside tthis is what i though about,but i truly bealive meditation could help in our inner healing process and then when we are in some way more clean and detoxed of anxiety will be more easy to atract the good things we want for ourselves but not because the meditation is a magic spell is because once we meditate our energy become to be more receptive and positive and we become more proyective of that as well. ;)

    Sandra Ahmed // 2013-07-03 12:00:35 // //
  • @anita - many people don't feel complete without someone. This is reality. Why would you feel annoyed at reality? A deeper reality is that we all have all that we need within us. Coming to realize this is a process. Acceptance of reality can help us avoid a lot of suffering.

    Donald Cummins // 2013-07-03 11:58:33 // //
  • ( We Make Love ) starts within you. So true his advice. . . Be your own best friend. Find yourself and love yourself. Glo and shine inner self Love. Forgive all others , especialy yourself. Its part of being human. And then like the raido, playing a type of music, you will attract what music you play. (gota Love Deepak) much Love and peace

    Don Barthel // 2013-07-03 11:57:03 // //
  • Deepak chopra the love guru keep doin the gud wrk in spiritual way love from india.

    Nik Sharma // 2013-07-03 11:53:05 // //
  • We all travel in our own paths and manifest seasons according to our state of being. When another meditates for what appears stupid or irrational we need to first of all respect them even when it appears inevitable a disaster looms. Time and patience are the greatest teachers of humility and love.

    Mahlangu Mxolisi // 2013-07-03 11:52:47 // //
  • Come into a true space of love for all parts of you. You must achieve love for your own being before you can love anybody else. Be love. What you focus on expands! <3

    Kristen O'Toole // 2013-07-03 11:48:20 // //
  • Once you have healed yourself, which maybe he is going through healing for himself, you either will get him back or someone much better will come along:)

    Lauren Sinofsky Turrell // 2013-07-03 11:48:19 // //
  • Because in the end when you are in Silence and be One with the Universe ... you will find Your Way in Life by listen carefuly to what your InnerVoice will try to tell you. As long that Door .. your Heart .. is open. Don't close it because of pain. Namaste

    Chiquira Toisuta // 2013-07-03 11:48:03 // //
  • very true deepak sir

    Poonam Kaushik // 2013-07-03 11:47:43 // //
  • True answer, Mr. Deepak! You can not move forward in Life if you still live in the Past. The Universe knows exactly what you need & not need. You need to heal your Heart. Go into Nature..the Ocean, Mountain, Woods & heal your Soul that has been broken .

    Chiquira Toisuta // 2013-07-03 11:44:47 // //
  • As long as you cry for the pain that others suffer _ your tears are blessed. francis n kissy UD 2007

    Frank Novello // 2013-07-03 11:44:11 // //
  • I dont wanna meditate to attract anyone...perhaps money if anything.....I like to meditate to relax my mind & body.... .

    Sheki Williams // 2013-07-03 11:40:56 // //
  • Why are majority of women so stupid? Why do they feel so worthless without any men instead of the right man? Why are women so insecure? This really annoys me.

    Anita Weglewska // 2013-07-03 11:37:25 // //
  • Thanks.. :*

    Annalisa Saumya Faccin // 2013-07-03 11:37:20 // //
  • Wonderful response, as always...!

    Maria Paula Barros Silva // 2013-07-03 11:35:06 // //
  • Listen.

    Hunter Green // 2013-07-03 11:31:13 // //
  • Listen to your Heart.

    Hunter Green // 2013-07-03 11:31:05 // //
  • I dnt kno who u r? Bt keep on meditate one day u will see ur luv is following u, honestly....

    Sonia Kaur // 2013-07-03 11:30:59 // //
  • So true. Recommend writing letters to yourself, listening to the heart.

    Hunter Green // 2013-07-03 11:30:56 // //
  • भैया कर्त्तव्य मार्ग के अनुगामी अनुदान नहीं माँगा करते निष्काम कर्म के आराधक प्रतिदान नहीं माँगा करते ओर सम्मान उन्हें मिलता है जो सम्मान नहीं माँगा करते आपका दुर्गेश नागी

    Durgesh Nagi // 2013-07-03 11:30:39 // //
  • <3 Wonderful advice.

    Yougenia Ahern // 2013-07-03 11:30:27 // //
  • I love you, I bless you, I forgive you and release you to your highest Good is an excellent affirmation for that kind of situation <3

    Susanne Johansson // 2013-07-03 11:30:26 // //