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February 05 2013

Gay Relationship

Category:  Ask Deepak

Question:

Mr. Chopra. I'm a 28 yr old man with what seems to be a major issue. A month ago i met a guy and we started seeing each other. We have dated several times and I feel really good with him. I have never had a homosexual relationship before, whereas he is openly gay. I have started questioning my values, and myself. Being with him has made me understand love very differently, more like a superior state of being, in spite of gender. It feels like a genuine emotion for me, but I’m afraid of what my family, friends and the people who have known me for so long might think or how they can react, due to our religion background, and their general opinion about gay couples. How can i go forward with this relationship without feeling like I’m disappointing everyone else? should i just keep it secret and enjoy the moment, in case it doesn't work out, or should I let the people i care about get involved and then feel guilty for their rejection? how can i deal with guilt if they do not support me in this stage of life?


Response:

It sounds as if this relationship is new territory for you and you are in the midst of discovering aspects of yourself that you have been unaware of previously. Given the newness and the uncertainty of your feelings it may make more sense to not burden and bias your exploration with the judgments of your family and friends. Their reactions toward you may cloud your real emotions and prevent you coming to a truer insight about your nature. So I recommend that you wait on telling them until you have a clearer sense of where your feelings lie. If it turns out this gay relationship is a short-lived episode in your otherwise straight life, then you can spare yourself the explanations by waiting. If on the other hand if this relationship is the start of something long term, then you will have plenty of time later on to let everyone know.

Love,
Deepak

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  • I agree with Deepak. As you experience this new relationship, check in with your guidance system frequently. Feel the way you want to feel and events will line up with those feelings. Should you make the decision to share your relationship, imagine the response you wish to receive. You are the creator of your experiences. http://amagicd.blogspot.com/

    amagicd // 2013-02-05 13:17:01 // //
  • Dear Questioner: Seeking an answer to your question on a FB page seems problematic at the outset. Do you not have anybody close to you, who KNOWS you personally, with whom you could explore your question? Seeking advice from a stranger, even though they are Rich and Famous, is never a good idea. Ever. So, as a stranger who is neither rich nor famous, let me offer you some advice... Sit down with someone whom you trust and explore your question with THEM. Listen to what they say, weigh it against your own judgement, and then do what YOU think is best. There are no wrong answers to your question - but it is up to you to decide how to live your life and with whom. The people in your life who truly love you for the person you are will still love you. And the rest really don't matter - you will live your own life better without them. You are 28, time to start thinking for yourself and stop looking for answers from well-meaning charalatans who pretend to give "advice".

    Robert Doode // 2013-02-06 17:19:15 // //

 

 

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  • Also, I have noticed that the homophobia of today's society creates distance between male individuals which prevents a loving bond of brotherhood. Because of homophobic reactions, many men fear being labeled homosexual for becoming too close or compassionate toward one another. When a man finds comfort in a homosexual man's company, he can often question whether he, too, may be homosexual, when he may actually be thriving in that loving brotherhood.

    Joshua Cantrell // 2013-02-09 02:45:53 // //
  • I agree with Mr. Chopra. There is a difference between being honest, and being open. One doesn't have to inform one's family and friends with every choice one makes every time one makes a choice. We have the ability of discernment in order to decide what information is necessary to share for beneficial development, and what is beneficial to remain confidential. Also, it seems as if the questioner isn't fully aware of his feelings on the matter in order to report them anyways unless he were to discuss the matter as he discussed it with Mr. Chopra.

    Joshua Cantrell // 2013-02-09 02:39:41 // //
  • i agree

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  • I have to disagree on this one. As a lesbian, I`ve experienced what your going through and living this on your own is a very heavy weight on your shoulder. I`m sure you have a good friend that knows you and loves you just the way you are. See this as an experience, if you were dating a girl you would be asking some advice to your friend, no? This is the same thing, your perception of it and the perception of how the majority of the society sees it is different, but at the end of the day it`s an experience... The thing is that society has labelled gay and bisexual, but hey love is love. Isn`t that what life is about, getting to know yourself through experience ?! Enjoy the ride! Namaste

    Dre // 2013-02-07 19:19:00 // //
  • So reasonable and wise words..! not only homosexuality, all other things shouldnot be biased and must be sincere in itself!!!!

    Ato Dive // 2013-02-07 00:35:03 // //
  • @Amanda J Nesheiwat if thats your belief then you dnt believe in God or the bible.

    Natalee Passelle // 2013-02-06 22:01:25 // //
  • am i to understand by this response that Deepak Chopra supports homosexuality?

    Natalee Passelle // 2013-02-06 21:59:26 // //
  • You don`t need to come `flying out of the closet` when you first start to learn about your true and personal self. Your sexuality. Many people deny it or don`t even realize they are LGBT until they meet their first encounter. It is an exciting time in your life and I know you want to share with those you love. But they will question everything. Wait until you have the answers for yourself before you are asked to give answers to others. Best to you on your new journey in your life. It is difficult still in 2013 to be LGBT, but it is getting better.

    1stBeStrong // 2013-02-06 19:26:28 // //
  • It means nothing that a man and woman have different reproductive organs. What is inside us all is a soul that is capable of loving another soul, not a body that is capable of loving another body. So, it doesnt matter if its man and man, woman and man, or woman and woman. What matters is soul and soul.

    Amanda J Nesheiwat // 2013-02-06 18:00:03 // //
  • Well Robert that was nice and sincere, but if it wasn't for fb, you wouldn't be giving this man advice either. And maybe he doesn't have someone to share his life question with. Do you consider yourself a "well meaning charalatens?

    Terry Shanahan // 2013-02-06 17:39:41 // //
  • Dear Questioner: Seeking an answer to your question on a FB page seems problematic at the outset. Do you not have anybody close to you, who KNOWS you personally, with whom you could explore your question? Seeking advice from a stranger, even though they are Rich and Famous, is never a good idea. Ever. So, as a stranger who is neither rich nor famous, let me offer you some advice... Sit down with someone whom you trust and explore your question with THEM. Listen to what they say, weigh it against your own judgement, and then do what YOU think is best. There are no wrong answers to your question - but it is up to you to decide how to live your life and with whom. The people in your life who truly love you for the person you are will still love you. And the rest really don't matter - you will live your own life better without them. You are 28, time to start thinking for yourself and stop looking for answers from well-meaning charalatans who pretend to give "advice".

    Robert Doode // 2013-02-06 17:19:15 // //
  • Andrew that response makes perfect sense to me..

    Caroline O Sullivan // 2013-02-06 16:45:14 // //
  • There is a lot of wisdom in your response, Dr Chopra!

    Robert Gentile // 2013-02-06 14:57:08 // //
  • He answers "don't tell them yet, maybe later" and people think that's some kind of inspirational advice that you never could have thought of yourself? Wow, low bar...

    Andrew Phillips // 2013-02-06 14:32:18 // //
  • You should ask somebody that knows something about something instead of someone that pretends to know something.

    Michael Kalembkiewicz // 2013-02-06 14:13:27 // //
  • " to understand love very differently" "in spite of gender" ... This is the statement of enlightenment! When you can apply this to yourself then you will truly understand. If you deny yourself this gift understanding, then you are the only one who will be disappointed.

    David Brewer // 2013-02-06 12:50:05 // //
  • Love the response ... take time to explore how you feel before sharing it with everyone else. Brings it back to Self.

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  • That's a good question. Why indeed?

    Carol Spraker // 2013-02-06 11:29:59 // //
  • porque le preguntô al sr Deepak?????

    Rene Bonifaz // 2013-02-06 11:24:24 // //
  • I thought this was a beautiful answer! It was compassionate and thoughtful of this man who is in a place of discovery in his life, so deepak led him inward to consider his own feelings and needs.

    Ronald Williams // 2013-02-06 11:00:29 // //
  • I thought this was a great answer, given that the person asking may be adversely affected by his family and peers responses. He doesn't need to hide anything, of course. But if he needs time to figure out who he is, he should give himself that time, without being hurt by others' ignorance and bias. I think that is what Deepak was saying here, and I applaud that. And...if I was this young man's friend or relative, I would love him just as he is. <3

    Kelly Pandolfi Bradway // 2013-02-06 09:51:33 // //
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    Tutan Khaman // 2013-02-06 09:26:25 // //
  • I disagree! Everyone is entitled to share feelings about otheres no matter what sex!!! This answer in my mind gives out judgement and other hidden meanings! Love to another human being is not something that anyone needs to hide!

    Kym Miller // 2013-02-06 09:26:08 // //
  • So Shirley, is there a you tube of God saying that? I'd love to see...

    Jp Oz // 2013-02-06 09:10:27 // //
  • Hey kid, Don't listen to Mr D/C When your A/C .

    Bay Morgan // 2013-02-06 09:09:38 // //
  • Can you tell the difference? http://www.wisdomofchopra.com/

    Mike Page // 2013-02-06 08:55:44 // //
  • Chopra is the master of woo word salad.

    Mike Page // 2013-02-06 08:35:04 // //
  • Your glasses are obsolete science, stop using it. Your cellphone, notebook, anything that uses eletricity are obsolete science, stop using it. Do use any drugs, don't go to any medic, these are obsolete science.

    Ben Hur Bahia Nascimento // 2013-02-06 08:28:41 // //
  • In his case, he is the guru of plain old commen sense! Which, unfortunately everybody is not blessed with. I'm reading his spiritual book and he is truly on another plane.

    Marie Lord // 2013-02-06 08:20:07 // //
  • Well said.

    Elizabeth Matchette // 2013-02-06 08:18:54 // //
  • Wholeheartedly agree. Thanks again Deepak, your words are enlightening!~

    Steven Kramer // 2013-02-06 08:16:32 // //
  • I had the same answer before I read the advice,love your self first & get used to the Idea if its true or not & then you can tell others. This way you will be strong enough to talk and may be help the others to understand you.

    Helen Pataki // 2013-02-06 08:03:47 // //
  • Agreed. Take on what feels comfortable.

    John Little // 2013-02-06 07:28:00 // //
  • Great advice

    JarrodTiffany McKever // 2013-02-06 07:10:31 // //
  • Homosexuality is bad unnatural & is all about perverted mind !!

    Thakur Shubra Sinha // 2013-02-06 06:56:58 // //
  • Just bought your book Super Brain! Love it and thank you!!! You've put into words feelings I've had and questioned as to the validity....Namaste!

    Judie Mitchell // 2013-02-06 06:51:08 // //
  • Who cares,let's start thinking about feeding the poor people and then focus on relationship...

    Savi Samaroo // 2013-02-06 06:16:58 // //
  • While reasonable advice within the context of a still majority homophobic society, I look forward to the day that all expressions of love and personal happiness can be appreciated by all, regardless of sexual orientation and without hesitation.

    Gary Blair // 2013-02-06 05:53:44 // //
  • Wise

    Jane Currie // 2013-02-06 05:35:14 // //
  • Deepak is Deepak, u are very great deepak!

    Aaniza Azri Azri // 2013-02-06 05:14:50 // //
  • Who cares. Live your life. Don't ask others for advice, they have their own road to travel. You make mistakes, you sort it. End of.

    Peter Smillie // 2013-02-06 04:57:23 // //
  • I read a great article on homosexuality (or at least a very spiritually gifted peron's perspective) @ www.jasonremfrey.com/teachings/other-teachings/ maybe this could help as well, but Deepak's guidance is very powerful indeed

    Lance O'Brien // 2013-02-06 03:59:54 // //
  • Enjoy! no worries!

    Tina Quartey // 2013-02-06 03:22:17 // //
  • Are you gay or straight?

    Remedy Hawke // 2013-02-06 03:03:48 // //
  • Are you married?

    Remedy Hawke // 2013-02-06 03:03:42 // //
  • Inspirational advice .

    Reeba George Thomas // 2013-02-06 02:50:27 // //
  • Wat a fantastic way of answering, just too awesome !

    Saravanan V // 2013-02-06 02:49:48 // //
  • Wisdom!

    Angie Braden // 2013-02-06 02:38:37 // //
  • Nice answer and advise were he could reflect on without guild or shame of his feelings. He is waking up to feel love in every shape, form and sexuality. What a great question from that guy and what a transformation he is making. You go guy explore and find your answers in life . You only find them to explore it. Great answer Deepak it realy will help him

    Mark Van de Leur // 2013-02-06 02:36:19 // //
  • Mr Deepak Chopra rocks!

    Vita Monroe // 2013-02-06 02:12:03 // //
  • Very good, Mr. Chopra! :-)

    Susanne Schmitt // 2013-02-06 01:55:09 // //
  • Well said since one never knows the messages people have for us to go higher and where they are coming from. Some folks have the balance of masculine and feminine at the the same time which is beauty. They dont have to get sexual at all...

    Iz Gee // 2013-02-06 01:34:35 // //
  • I don't think it matters if one is gay or straight. When I was in my late 20s and early 30 I dated a bit and several good interesting relationships. I told my mom about some, but not my father. Finally I met someone special, someone I presented as my future husband. My relationship was at the point where any criticism from my father would not have mattered. I'm not saying you should keep things a secret or be in the closet, but everyone doesn't need to know everything that's happening in your life :-)

    Cecily Guest // 2013-02-06 01:32:39 // //
  • Inspirational advice x

    Kerry Wright // 2013-02-06 01:23:28 // //
  • a deepak chopra deverian lnombrarlo el EMBAJADOR de la salud y la sviduria.

    Rafael Paredes Gómez // 2013-02-06 01:22:30 // //
  • My sentiments exactly! You're THE MAN! :)

    Be Deliberate // 2013-02-06 01:10:36 // //
  • Beautiful answer....

    Claire Rebuck // 2013-02-06 01:07:00 // //
  • Sella, I think this is a great answer.

    Christine Chang // 2013-02-06 01:03:26 // //
  • You continue to always inspire!

    Sherri Terando // 2013-02-06 00:56:04 // //
  • I am continually inspired by your great words. Thank you

    Deborah Kelly // 2013-02-06 00:47:47 // //
  • Perfect advice!

    Jeff Rey // 2013-02-06 00:47:40 // //
  • Great answer.

    Sarra Hajjaj // 2013-02-06 00:45:48 // //
  • Lovely words Depak and I wish I had been gentler with myself in the early days of coming out and my exploration of this aspect of myself.

    Georgina Yalias-Evans // 2013-02-06 00:45:40 // //
  • Love yourself and love others. The only abomination I know (@shirley) is hate and exclusion in the name of religion. Try to understand others, walk a mile in their shoes. Use ur faith for good, not the proliferation of deviseness.... The world will be better for it. @chopra...it's good advice for all kinds of couples. Better to let love grow without fear of judgement. Better to feel the strength which comes from making ones own decisions led by ones own feelings. Trust your instincts.

    Sookie Yama // 2013-02-06 00:42:18 // //
  • Wise words from a very gentle and beautiful soul. @Shirley Rogers - maybe you should rethink being a friend on this fb page? Nobody is here to judge one another but rather to live in love and harmony with our fellow beings. Please don't feel that this is the place to voice your opinions on how other people choose to live, there are plenty other sites on fb for people like you who share the same thoughts and beliefs. Rather befriend them and judge people amongst like minded folk ... just a thought.

    Cate Edgar // 2013-02-06 00:36:11 // //
  • You continue to inspire me, Mr. Chopra! Much has been said and done in the name of God, that I think still scars and blemishes humanity.... Intolerance is right up there on the top of the list. So to Shirley, I send you light and love. I hope the compassion of Jesus' message creates an opening for you to one day be in a space of non-judgment. Peace, love and happiness to you, Shirley. Namaste.

    Renee Saxon // 2013-02-06 00:35:02 // //
  • well presented Deepak Chopra

    Marion Thompson // 2013-02-06 00:30:55 // //
  • @Shirley Voss ... U can Judge. U just can't cast the 1st stone. Maybe the 2nd just not the 1st. We judge ppl everyday n this world. The greater point is not to put any person down yet give the Overall truth that they may make there choice on a solid base and not just a weak Emotion.

    Be Seven // 2013-02-06 00:27:13 // //
  • Btw, good advice, Mr. Chopra.

    Scott Fuller // 2013-02-06 00:26:23 // //
  • Shirley Rogers is ignorant.

    Scott Fuller // 2013-02-06 00:25:05 // //
  • @shirley Rogers: you have no idea who Jesus Christ. If you did, you wouldn't sound so mean spirited. You don't have to agree with homosexuality, but you sure have to be kind. I feel sorry for you. You sound like the Pharisees in the bible. This is why people are so turned off by religion. Ghandi said: I love Jesus, I just don't like his followers". Really sad :(

    Ruby Vasquez // 2013-02-06 00:24:10 // //
  • Good response,. i just think that the soul doesn't have gender

    Yolandiux Medicas // 2013-02-06 00:23:30 // //
  • We are just souls living a human journey! Don't judge yourself for living your life with happiness, after all that's the ultimate purpose right? Whatever you decide is not right or wrong, is just your choice....remember as nobody can die on your place, no body can tell you how to live. No periods, just love, just smile, just keep living this great adventure, just live. :D

    Luz Helena Rodriguez // 2013-02-06 00:19:38 // //
  • @Shirley Voss, God said "Homosexuality IS an abomination!"

    Shirley Rogers // 2013-02-06 00:18:23 // //
  • What is going on in my life? Whats in store? Tell me PLEASE!

    Amanda Waters Welch // 2013-02-06 00:13:36 // //
  • Loved your perfect gentle and loving answer Deepak....... As for the young man..... Let go and experience love and don't judge yourself. It will unfold soon enough and you will figure out who you are.....No matter what anyone else says or thinks is not important. God loves each and everyone of us- no matter what- we are loved!

    Terri L. Carr-Bates // 2013-02-06 00:12:57 // //
  • You have to love GOD

    Sandhya Devi Jhowry // 2013-02-06 00:07:40 // //
  • @Shirley Rogers: didn't Christ tell his followers not to judge others? Or am I thinking of someone else?

    Shirley Voss // 2013-02-06 00:07:02 // //
  • Hiding plants the seeds of shame in the relationship. Period. If it's a "experiment" or self discovery, discretion fine, but never hide love. This is way different than not bringing a new girlfriend around to let the relationship bloom. If this in doesn'twork out and your not totally honest with yourself and others about it, shame will follow, unlike a girl, nd accepted "right way" of being. The shame is from your lack of honesty, not being shamed by family. I wish you the best in finding your truth. and support you whatever. that is.

    Todd Powers // 2013-02-06 00:06:20 // //
  • @Monica, I'm a Christian and go by God's law.....period!

    Shirley Rogers // 2013-02-06 00:03:23 // //
  • Shirley perhaps you need to be more aware of what other people go through before you cast judgement. That would mean being empathetic

    Monica Foyer // 2013-02-06 00:00:23 // //
  • Great advice.

    Cheryl Ulrich // 2013-02-05 23:59:52 // //
  • It is a wise answer and only you know how those close to you may respond. You deserve to surround yourself with safety and tenderness while on the journey of self discovery. Once assured of your path just as Deepak says, "you will have plenty of time later. . ." Be honest and true with yourself first now.

    Mary Lynn Lindquist // 2013-02-05 23:59:40 // //
  • well said... the voice of reason...

    Hal Morris // 2013-02-05 23:57:03 // //
  • That's the point. If the guy is confused at 28. He might decide to skip back n forth putting woman who r sure of themselves at risk.

    Be Seven // 2013-02-05 23:54:19 // //
  • @ Be Seven - 'Always' have the courage to live in your 'Truth' (including being honest to women), for it is potentially dangerous, harmful and hurtful to yourself and others if your dishonest.

    Tracey von Ott // 2013-02-05 23:50:29 // //
  • Great advice, very wise words.

    Lori Menley Zappas // 2013-02-05 23:48:40 // //
  • Not mine Jackie!

    Shirley Rogers // 2013-02-05 23:48:40 // //
  • gentle answer.

    Jackie Sue Holt // 2013-02-05 23:48:03 // //
  • It's easy, "me Tarzan, you Jane!" God gave you a penis. Penis goes into vagina. If you have to question your gender, you need psychiatric counceling, not another psychiatric patient!

    Shirley Rogers // 2013-02-05 23:48:02 // //
  • Wise advice Deepak. This young man should keep in mind that it is possible to have an emotional friendship that is purely platonic and not sexual, if he is still uncertain about where the relationship is going. Some gay men love to entice and seduce heterosexual men that are not homosexual.

    Tracey von Ott // 2013-02-05 23:46:59 // //
  • Yeah don't tell anyone. Including the next woman u become attracted to.

    Be Seven // 2013-02-05 23:45:56 // //
  • Oh my god!

    Jesus Alaminos // 2013-02-05 23:44:26 // //
  • Pak is already married..right?.So lay off peeps.

    Sheki Williams // 2013-02-05 23:40:41 // //
  • Awesome !

    Eddie Ware Jr // 2013-02-05 23:39:03 // //
  • Very Good advice! My thoughts exactly! I love Deepak

    Linnda-Jo Mireider // 2013-02-05 23:38:23 // //
  • Absolutely!

    Randy Withers // 2013-02-05 23:38:10 // //
  • Great advice.

    L.A. Rankin // 2013-02-05 23:38:06 // //
  • karina !!! lol

    Naveen Singh // 2013-02-05 23:28:08 // //
  • Wonderful advice, Deepak. And like Judith Martin-Becker said, "Any new relationship needs to have time and patience to grow." Absolutely. I am a straight female and I have learned that its best to really get to know someone before bringing them around my close friends and family. But that's just me. We're all different.

    Lilah Abend // 2013-02-05 23:27:35 // //
  • Love through ambiguity. <3

    Marissa Mondragón // 2013-02-05 23:27:06 // //
  • The best word of advise I had was if they reject you then they are not worth keeping. And those that love you will stay by your side. The surprise was everyone was cool it was me learning to love ALL of me was the problem. Don't reject any part of you. Namaste : )

    Sarah Jordan // 2013-02-05 23:25:12 // //
  • Thank you!

    Bell A Dee // 2013-02-05 23:25:00 // //
  • 28!! and he still doesn't know!

    Karina Lombrozo // 2013-02-05 23:23:32 // //
  • Discovering that one can be attracted to or in love with the person...regardless of gender is a gift. It's not easy but forget the dogma and lose the fear and reject any "labels". Follow your heart.

    Kevin Brizendine // 2013-02-05 23:22:48 // //
  • I would think this would or could be true for most relationships. Better to see where it's going than to wreck it by talking about it too much.

    Kristie Henricksen // 2013-02-05 23:17:56 // //
  • deepak...come to arkansas ....good practice run for hell...

    Tom Barquist // 2013-02-05 23:13:49 // //
  • Nice.

    Annie Saint Blanchard Randall // 2013-02-05 23:13:46 // //
  • interesting observations, john parziale. and wonderful advice, deepak. waiting to discover the true lay of the land will be a good approach

    Philip Trask // 2013-02-05 23:13:30 // //
  • Procrastination can be good when used for the right reasons. Waiting to see you here in bahrain sir! Just a couple of weeks from now ; )

    Fairy-faye Salazar // 2013-02-05 23:10:39 // //
  • Wise and thoughtful!

    Marisol Bryan ヅ // 2013-02-05 23:10:38 // //
  • Very well said........as usual.

    Hollis McCartney // 2013-02-05 23:08:43 // //
  • very wise answer! put it in practice!

    Cristina Hoyos // 2013-02-05 23:08:38 // //
  • Deepak, have you found, as I have, that cognitive dissonance does more damage than wars? If you must hide something from those you love.. You can try and split the difference sometimes... Ask them if its ok that you have a private life? But... Unlikely in this case. Being honest is safer long term.. These are the small crimes which grow deeper within and between family members. It will more likely strengthen a relationship that is bad than ruin one that's good. No? Even sometimes building false strength if anything. (As with a common adversary). But of all the families I've met with a gay child or sibling. 90% had major issues with the deceit. And most had only minor issues with the orientation. ( cognitive dissonance is often why people despise and even sometimes kill each other. The belief that you have been lied to or made a fool. You will even remove the person than to entertain the idea that you are a fool.

    John Parziale // 2013-02-05 23:07:24 // //
  • Any new relationship needs to have time and patience to grow.

    Judith Martin-Becker // 2013-02-05 23:02:49 // //
  • 'A caring heart, a blessed person" touching..great advise.

    Ilse Olieman-Gietel // 2013-02-05 23:00:38 // //
  • Beautiful

    Blue Siytangco // 2013-02-05 23:00:31 // //
  • I've always considered my self straight, still do. However, I had a relationship with a girl for 3 years. I had never been attracted to girls, still don't, just her. I can def say from personal experience that Deepak's advice is perfect.

    Erika Rosales // 2013-02-05 23:00:13 // //
  • Mr brocher...read the question again..

    Kasim Hosany // 2013-02-05 22:59:16 // //
  • Wise teacher

    Julie Valles // 2013-02-05 22:58:18 // //
  • I concur. Great to share.

    Gretchen Cricket Berry // 2013-02-05 22:57:15 // //
  • respect…

    Sywal LoveLight // 2013-02-05 22:56:03 // //
  • Wow, like always your response is is right on!

    Diana Novitchenko // 2013-02-05 22:55:24 // //
  • very thoughtful advice sir. Thank you for sharing.

    Alicia Crews-Lakey // 2013-02-05 22:54:49 // //
  • Teacher¡¡

    Mariana Casillas Zuluaga // 2013-02-05 22:54:28 // //
  • I like the response... Wonder how this man would feel if someone close to him felt the same way... It helps to talk about real things with real friends... even if they do not like everything... The truth is his friends might learn something more about love....too

    Colleen Denise Cooney // 2013-02-05 22:53:14 // //
  • Yes, great answer

    Donnamarie Grabowskipapa // 2013-02-05 22:52:48 // //
  • Good stuff Deepak!

    Leah Grant Disney // 2013-02-05 22:52:30 // //
  • Very good advice....!!

    Sarojanie Ibrahim // 2013-02-05 22:50:48 // //
  • Dear Mr. Confused: Listen to your heart. Live in your truth; live in your now. <3

    Ernie M. Gines // 2013-02-05 22:50:39 // //
  • Like!

    Zoe Defoe // 2013-02-05 22:48:51 // //
  • Quisiera q tus publicaciones estuvieran en español además del inglés. Somos muchos los hispanos q leemos tus libros y nos gustaría disfrutar d tus mensajes y reflexiones inspiadoras :)

    Devi Mogui // 2013-02-05 22:48:48 // //
  • I love you!

    Dina J. A. Bridgeo // 2013-02-05 22:47:38 // //
  • Where do people submit questions? I'd like to get to ask a question.

    Amanda J Nesheiwat // 2013-02-05 22:47:21 // //
  • Great advice.

    Mike Haviland // 2013-02-05 22:45:46 // //
  • Good one

    Markat Mohapatra // 2013-02-05 22:45:27 // //
  • good answer!

    John Ezra Scheirman // 2013-02-05 22:45:11 // //
  • What a great answer!

    Joli Mercado // 2013-02-05 22:45:02 // //
  • Great answer............

    Anita Seebach Hameister // 2013-02-05 22:44:38 // //
  • It is a sad state of affairs, so to speak, that this poor guy cannot just live (while he is undoubtedly letting others live), and not fear rejection and judgement from those in his circle of "love", and must seek guidance from a stranger. NOT diminishing Mr. Chopra's input or spirit at ALL! That is not at all what I am saying. I am saying this gentleman should feel perfectly comfortable in experiencing love in any way to which he is drawn (no, not chooses, and so WHAT if he chooses!!!), without fear of repercussions. If people (in general) truly understood the heart (the more complex, energy-driven heart, not the blood pump), they would understand sexuality has not been as linear as they all like to think -- EVER. Nor has it been strictly among humans. Nor will it ever be. It seems, with all of our "advances" in education and technologies, we continue to digress in our comprehension and use those invaluable tools not for the good of all kind, but to simply self-promote and be UNkind. Good luck, young man. You have a good heart, I hope your beloved treats you well, and you do so in kind, to him. Just enjoy, don't stress (as much as possible), and love your happiness. Embrace it. The world needs MORE of that, not less. The only thing that is to be hated, is hate. I have intolerance, only for intolerance. ((( <3 )))

    Robin Borchers // 2013-02-05 22:44:15 // //
  • Be happy

    Selene Tapia Hernández // 2013-02-05 22:44:01 // //
  • Good advise, I agree

    Miguel Ugarte // 2013-02-05 22:43:30 // //
  • I'm straight, I also agree completely :) love your response, Dr. Chopra !

    Ann Ow // 2013-02-05 22:39:48 // //
  • Discretion

    Skya Campbel Denise // 2013-02-05 22:39:47 // //
  • like this answer :)

    Elizabeth Fogelbert // 2013-02-05 22:38:01 // //
  • For me you do have long troath,how did you come about it fool?

    Tiger Merclen Ngale Tiko // 2013-02-05 22:37:59 // //
  • Fantastic!!

    Sherri Scott // 2013-02-05 22:37:50 // //
  • Also this 28 year old Male is in his Saturn Return , I have. Known people that have experienced the exact same . Situation at this Age . The Saturn returns last approximate 3 years . Have fun . Blessed Be

    Lynn Ann Wilson-McNulty // 2013-02-05 22:37:02 // //
  • again, fantastic advice, i would of suggested the same

    Jodie Smiley // 2013-02-05 22:37:02 // //
  • Shelly you obviously haven't seen his beautiful wife! ;-)

    Sheila Bowen Butler // 2013-02-05 22:36:49 // //
  • Dr. Chopra, Amen and God Bless You!

    Angela Reynolds-Nasraoui // 2013-02-05 22:36:41 // //
  • Great advice!!!

    Lula Belle // 2013-02-05 22:36:23 // //
  • truth truth truth

    Charlton Happy Vegetarian McKinney // 2013-02-05 22:36:12 // //
  • As an out lesbian for 16yrs, I agree completely

    Heather Jo Young // 2013-02-05 22:36:01 // //
  • Amen!

    Sheila Bowen Butler // 2013-02-05 22:35:42 // //
  • You are fortunate to explore an area most people, through bias, never get to look at... Hope it leads you to a fulfilling life : ) x x

    Narelle Hetherington // 2013-02-05 22:35:26 // //
  • AWESOME response, Dr. Chopra!

    Marcia Emerson // 2013-02-05 22:34:36 // //
  • deepak, i really think you should consider marrying me....

    Shelley Peacock // 2013-02-05 22:34:35 // //
  • Amen.

    Kent Hurley // 2013-02-05 22:34:32 // //
  • I believe that everyone has to right to love whoever they choose. I am sorry that you feel you have to hide this part of yourself from your family. If it is something that you are truly unsure of right now, I do agree with what Deepak said. It might be best to understand yourself and what your true feelings are before you tell your family. But there might be a point where you realize the importance of including them. If this is truly who you are than they will just have to accept that about you. You mention that you don`t want to disappoint everyone else. I think the only person you will disappoint is you if you are not true to yourself. I wish you luck in your journey and I hope this can help you. And remember to always be true to yourself and not let others make you feel guilty.

    Laura // 2013-02-05 21:23:56 // //
  • , i agree. god created man and woman to be lovers. anything else is disgusting to me personally. go ahead and try . your life is your own. your parents have a right to their own opinions. if they dont support you, grow up, stand on your own two feet and dont pretend you are a victim. in other words get a backbone and stop playing the victim role.

    jessi // 2013-02-05 20:47:15 // //
  • I agree with Deepak. As you experience this new relationship, check in with your guidance system frequently. Feel the way you want to feel and events will line up with those feelings. Should you make the decision to share your relationship, imagine the response you wish to receive. You are the creator of your experiences. http://amagicd.blogspot.com/

    amagicd // 2013-02-05 13:17:01 // //
  • sooner or later u this relationship will be end and with to much dammage and the damage is done since u start this relationship but u can help ur self right now and stop this and start to ask god forgivness and u will have it just the moment u stop and u feel u did something wrong .but if u keep it belive this and be sure u will have to much dammage u will never get fixe again . and remember this words and without asking anybody else women is created for men and men created for women and all created by god and he makes rules for reproduction . and this kind of relationships arroud the world is never be right and seccesfull and always end with disaster and u can see and read and hear about this in many history and many event and many experiences .. help ur self man ..take care

    true man // 2013-02-05 09:25:43 // //