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January 08 2013

Overcoming Insecurity

Category:  Ask Deepak

Question:

Sir, I am a 28 year old male. I am very much affected by criticism and flattery. Even if I consciously choose not to, it still does. I have a fairly large inflated ego and honestly speaking am insecure as well. I am very compassionate towards destitute. I am a born introvert ( I am very happy about it) and during my childhood I had inferiority complex as well. I just fail to live securely and don't know how to rise above it. Please help!


Response:

When we let ourselves be unduly influenced by others comments and remarks, it means that our core self is still undefined. It effectively means we are letting others tell us who we are, instead of truly knowing our self. So use your natural introversion to meditate so you can experience and develop your real spiritual identity. That is the only long term solution to being affected by criticism and flattery. Being a sensitive type person you will always be somewhat affected by intense people and circumstances, but as you establish your core spiritual self, you will no longer be thrown off center by people’s remarks.

Love,
Deepak

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  • yes, i myself am an introvert. you are lucky because it will be easier for you to look inside than extroverts. the way i did overcome feeling inferior was as Deepak has said. I went inside myself and found my inner self and my inner power. Now, if someone tries to define me i just say "ill be the one defining myself to you. Who i am, what i believe etc." if they dont want to listen and get to know the real me, i just walk away.

    jessi kyann // 2013-01-08 20:58:02 // //
  • Thanks for the post. I needed to hear that again. Although I believe we can only be effected if I allow my ego to get in the way. I have people in my life that tell me I cant do certain things. I listen with no response.. Cause ther is power in my silence. I have nothing to prove to anyone else.... BUt me. That which serves me.. Thank you Deepak.

    Terry Purnell-Dennis // 2013-01-08 22:46:19 // //

 

 

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  • My seven year old child is very shy. He lacks confidence. How can I help him to boost his confidence.

    niharika // 2013-12-01 05:57:15 // //
  • Hi Deepak hope all is well. I`m currently reading the path to love. What a fantastic book I have to say. Thank you, it`s teaching me so much. It`s just I`m struggling putting it into practice. I`m very insecure, and have had problems in relationships since I started having them. I`m now in a relationship like no other. I don`t think I ever understood Love until now. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and I`m afraid I`m going to loose him cause I can`t seem to Love myself. I`m emotionally, mentally and spiritually unstable and I need your help desperately. My heart chakra is in so much pain it makes me feel physically sick and I`m worried about my well being and health, and I`m crying out for your help. If you need to know more about my situation please ask (my email address is above), I love him so much and I don`t want it to end, he`s teaching me so much. Please, if you can, take the time to deal with this cause I`m scared of myself and what I would do if he broke up with me. Looking forward to hearing from you soon. Love and Light

    AstroJen // 2013-01-15 08:40:49 // //
  • This is an amazing answer! Thank you Dr Chopra!

    Samz // 2013-01-14 14:10:10 // //
  • Sound advice from Deepak. Susan Cain`s book `Quiet` is also worth reading.

    elares // 2013-01-13 18:56:19 // //
  • Hi Marcus Miller can you tell us your country & city name

    Vijay Kumar Chouhan // 2013-01-12 00:17:28 // //
  • Nice and wise recomendation... definition, identity, knowing who we really are.. from the inside, and define ourselves.!

    Beatriz M. Frankquez // 2013-01-11 00:23:10 // //
  • I believe those who criticize are insecure themselves, unless it`s constructive and not egoic.

    Deelo // 2013-01-11 00:16:03 // //
  • How would I go about that?

    Marcus Miller // 2013-01-10 20:40:17 // //
  • I have to note that "the 'only' long term solution to being affected by criticism and flattery," is to develop our "real spiritual identity." That is a pretty strong statement. I agree.

    Susan Shepler // 2013-01-10 17:20:09 // //
  • Read Halee Hilton's facebook page. A girl who tragically just died in a fire in her home:-(

    Yvette Charbonneau // 2013-01-10 05:59:32 // //
  • Fabulous ;)

    Amber Pantano // 2013-01-10 05:09:23 // //
  • Yes Lisa Lisa it's a sign

    Melissa Wood // 2013-01-10 00:00:56 // //
  • thank you , thank you , thank you

    Sitting in silence // 2013-01-09 23:17:17 // //
  • Existe un poder más allá de nuesra piel, que cambia todo "el campo de todas las posibilidades", y son TODAS, no aferrarse, es honrar el ahora....me sé la teoría....

    Irene Mora // 2013-01-09 22:19:34 // //
  • befor responsive....screw off

    James Fish // 2013-01-09 22:02:14 // //
  • Super like!

    Coralann Francis // 2013-01-09 21:46:56 // //
  • True

    Crystle Meyer Miser // 2013-01-09 20:44:59 // //
  • Very well said

    Vellaiswamy Sivakumar // 2013-01-09 19:26:40 // //
  • Thank you

    Sheelagh Jackson // 2013-01-09 18:54:35 // //
  • Great response

    Ann M Fallon // 2013-01-09 18:27:09 // //
  • Awesome advice!! :)

    Cynthia Vazquez // 2013-01-09 17:07:07 // //
  • Wonderful, thank You.

    Mania Mavri // 2013-01-09 17:06:58 // //
  • Fantasy writing

    Orlando Jackson // 2013-01-09 17:05:53 // //
  • awesome explanation

    Wendie Borger Rawlins // 2013-01-09 17:03:15 // //
  • vagina

    Nicholas Lembo // 2013-01-09 16:53:46 // //
  • Your words are spoken like a TRUE MASTER...

    Gad Israel // 2013-01-09 16:50:44 // //
  • Sandy's comment below might work as well!

    Cynthia Gelineau // 2013-01-09 16:44:51 // //
  • Wow Deepak - wonderful answer. I bet we all know some people who could use THIS advise - ourselves included maybe. :)

    Karen Squires Karasz // 2013-01-09 16:43:51 // //
  • Use what you have and know as well as explore unchartered territory.

    Iain Henderson // 2013-01-09 16:37:35 // //
  • Deepak, thank you for your words. Such a comfort.

    Jan E. Lanfear // 2013-01-09 16:34:23 // //
  • great response deepak thats why we love yah

    Adrienne L // 2013-01-09 16:31:36 // //
  • I am not an introvert or. Want to act like I know it all because I dont. As I read these comments. And may I add. Some good ones, we all have a brain that god has given us to tell us right from wrong, also we have intuition. So why do we need to listen to other people when deep down we already know the answers we search for. Listen to yourself and trust your heart. It will never lead you astray. Good luck to all of you.

    Felipe Teano // 2013-01-09 16:20:37 // //
  • Thank you and Love you <3

    Laura Reneau // 2013-01-09 16:15:34 // //
  • Wonderful!

    Deidre Raven // 2013-01-09 16:14:30 // //
  • Beautiful response! Just love your teachings, Deepak!

    Kathleen E Freedman // 2013-01-09 16:04:32 // //
  • Nice observation. Very helpful. When we change who we are, reinventing ourself as life sometimes demands, this DOES make us more vulnerable to the comments and opinions of others. I have been in this boat for over 10 years now. This puts it so succinctly and helps me feel better about the unknown places ahead. Adventure, fortunately, is a stronger pull than the trite ideas of those on the sidelines...playing it safe. A brilliant day for you...<3

    Nancy Odle // 2013-01-09 16:01:04 // //
  • Love this !

    Corey Rogers // 2013-01-09 15:58:14 // //
  • awesome!!! gracias!!

    Debbie Feliciano // 2013-01-09 15:57:40 // //
  • dios lo bendiga Deepak

    Susana Margarita Salazar Sosa // 2013-01-09 15:49:53 // //
  • É sem dúvida um dos meus gurus espirituais, amei!!!Como sempre!!

    Myriam Feuerharmel // 2013-01-09 15:49:00 // //
  • Easy to say that doing it, Mr. Chopra. It is a proces...to know yourself you have to dig deeper in the past...way way back in the past. There you will find the answer to the "problem". When one is able to feel the pain, sorrow, frustrations...a new world will open...let things go...do not be in control....listen to your Heart and be aware of your emotions....deal with it...and finaly you will find your real "authentic" you...Good luck..

    Chiquira Toisuta // 2013-01-09 15:48:36 // //
  • I love this - and you!

    Rita Ballard-Baumgarten // 2013-01-09 15:45:00 // //
  • Love u!!!!!!!

    Jobana Lopez Negron // 2013-01-09 15:41:57 // //
  • Oh Deepack you are so nice looking!

    Zoe Arguello // 2013-01-09 15:38:47 // //
  • gracias que buen mensaje

    Olga Ines Henao Osorio // 2013-01-09 15:38:23 // //
  • LOVE this... :)

    Donna Marie Harmon // 2013-01-09 15:35:20 // //
  • I wish facebook had a 'love' button, not just a 'like' one.

    Lucy Francisco // 2013-01-09 14:54:03 // //
  • remind yourself about the thing you do have and be gratefull then spend time shining that into the world around you and be gratefull and redive and be gratefull lol

    Timothy Lester // 2013-01-09 14:15:32 // //
  • Awesome

    Sheila Morris Chumpitaz // 2013-01-09 14:09:07 // //
  • Great advice from Dr. Chopra: I'm an introvert by nature and Dr. Chopra has helped me establish and strengthen my self identity. For example, I say to myself each morning that "I am a strong, calm, confident man, a divine spirit, a child of God, with infinite energy and infinite potential and I chose to be happy, positive and stay in the moment". It works..

    Ronald Collins // 2013-01-09 13:45:33 // //
  • You are amazing Mr. Chopra...

    Priti Adukia // 2013-01-09 13:21:06 // //
  • :)

    Robyn Perna Palmaz // 2013-01-09 13:07:37 // //
  • My father told me never to listen to what someone says about me---unless I respect their opinion. (like I respect Deepak's)

    Patricia Quinn // 2013-01-09 12:16:37 // //
  • Agree

    Frankino Jaffer // 2013-01-09 11:41:31 // //
  • deepak tell me what physically should I do so that i m not thrown out of balance by intense people and their remarks.... I needs some steps on a physical level... meditate on what?

    Shashank Shukla // 2013-01-09 11:36:10 // //
  • Ray, what story did you give up??? How did you release your past so easily? Who beat you down and broke your spirit? What did you have beaten into your brain that you just snapped your fingers and cured? Only fools think you can just turn your back on abuse, especially without soul searching. Who are you to think you know more than Deepak Chopra. Sounds like you need to turn your back on your inflated ego.

    Brent Mcdonald // 2013-01-09 11:24:17 // //
  • .

    Rose Hassenstab // 2013-01-09 11:24:01 // //
  • meditate will do this guy, no good. What will do him good is, give up his story about himself. It is crap.

    Ray Peck // 2013-01-09 10:54:35 // //
  • I actually consider myself more of an introvert, but I like doing both. I prefer to be alone and study and meditate a lot, but I like groups and I'm pretty much the opposite of shy; I'll talk to anyone anywhere with confidence. I made a conscious choice to disassociate with several I used to have relationships and friendships with because that's not where I want to go.

    Steve Wein // 2013-01-09 10:45:29 // //
  • That´s very true... difficult to live by though...

    Lenita Quirino Feffe // 2013-01-09 10:32:58 // //
  • Deepak you are amazing. And everyday we can learn more about meditation.

    Soemintradebie Gajadin // 2013-01-09 09:24:10 // //
  • Well said-amazing man!

    Noo Fitz // 2013-01-09 09:11:52 // //
  • I can relate.

    Yvonne J. Boyd // 2013-01-09 09:03:55 // //
  • Criticism, admiration and core image...an excellent commentary!!

    Sue Spoden // 2013-01-09 08:49:22 // //
  • Thank you for your contribution for a better world......

    Frank Verdier // 2013-01-09 08:40:53 // //
  • Friends, most problems arise when we take a bigger ego for surre that it would not flop. Soon our tactics fail and we need to review and renew. There is plenty of everything in all and it is available to all, but it need a re-view and Re-newel.

    Amarnath Pandey // 2013-01-09 08:34:08 // //
  • :)

    Diane Tucker // 2013-01-09 08:01:22 // //
  • TQM

    Martha Sacoto-Navia // 2013-01-09 07:50:36 // //
  • I don't care that much about flattery either, come to think of it; it's a nice gesture on the part of the other and good intentions are appreciated, but it's still only an opinion from anothers perspective and not truly who I am.

    Steve Wein // 2013-01-09 07:46:34 // //
  • I don't relate to most of this. I've also been successful before both academically and financially at various places. I was one of the best brokers at one firm in parciular I was at until the day they were shut down. Another went bankrupts after a market crash.

    Steve Wein // 2013-01-09 07:28:37 // //
  • I love this mans books and music.. his way of words if you listen to any of his lectures are amazing. He really knows his stuff.. I was reading his books back in the 90's when I don't know if he was as well known as he is now. Oprah really brought him to be a very well known name. I like that he seems unaffected by society. He has his own views.. I appreciate the Dalai Lama's views as well.. He's amazing.

    Christina Novembrino-Doucette // 2013-01-09 07:24:17 // //
  • meditation is the ans for every ques.

    Pinky Kaul // 2013-01-09 07:23:19 // //
  • <3

    Sarah Nolt // 2013-01-09 07:15:41 // //
  • Este tío, es de un egocéntrico insufrible, ya que tan dictador de cátedre es, debería omitir SU IMAGEN...YA QUE SUPUESTAMENTE LO IMPORTANTE ES LO QUE DICE...T.D.

    Theowald D Arago // 2013-01-09 07:06:51 // //
  • I am a 35 year old male and I actually don't care what most people think, but MOST is the key word. I have great feelings of indignation, anger, and hurt, at the hypocisy of a certain woman who treated me poorly. I don't have much of an ego. I'm actually modest and humble usually, but I am also proud of my looks, intelligence, and special gifts once in a while. I don't consider myself insecure. I'm actually not an introvert or an extrovert. I'll talk to anyone anywhere, but I've disassociated intentionally with a lot of people I know because it's not who or where I want to he. I dsilike crwoded places and noise, so mabe I am an introvert in that way. During my childhood I scored really high on IQ and cognitive ability tests, so I actually thought I was better than most people. I'm obsessive compulsive and I have visual cahllenges as well as some physical pain and discomfort that I'm almost through.

    Steve Wein // 2013-01-09 07:00:40 // //
  • Great !1 Very helpful to me Thanks a lot Sir !!

    Thakur Shubra Sinha // 2013-01-09 06:56:12 // //
  • Keep up the good work Deepak! You're amazing!!!

    Sara Stier // 2013-01-09 06:40:37 // //
  • Wonderful words of wisdom. Thank you, Deepak! I 3> you!

    Kay Marie Logan // 2013-01-09 06:34:02 // //
  • It's easy to give solution to others but being into the situation and facing all this is not easy. It's something in person's blood. So how to overcome is not same for everybody. It takes ages to get rid all humiliation and suffering out of the mind. Spiritual, believe in yourself , keep busy doing interesting things and think more about others then yourself are some possible solutions. And the main thing is to make others happy you have to become joker, accept the truth, you will never have inferior complex and never hurt with people stupid jokes on you.... enjoy every moment of life

    Shubhakhar Bhattarai // 2013-01-09 04:42:32 // //
  • Interesting

    Marc Douvris // 2013-01-09 04:32:47 // //
  • This is so tue words of wisdom- love it!!!!!!

    Lazeezee Sierra // 2013-01-09 04:25:09 // //
  • ya good 1.i also some time think who i am.when others define me.some have got different image about me.

    Ashani Lawrence // 2013-01-09 04:19:12 // //
  • This is perfect for me. I have most of the same issues that this guy has, and I'm 24. Although my sense of identity is getting stronger, I still allow others to get to me. And often for the most benign things.

    Brandon Stanway // 2013-01-09 04:10:27 // //
  • Just what I needed to know today to help my clients! "Undefined" is the key word here. Thank you for the hint! P.s. Only yesterday I started to read your book "The spontaneous fulfillment of desire", and bang! I wanted a better explanation of insecurity and there it is right in front of my very eyes! You are a legend! THANK YOU! DZIEKUJE Z CALEGO SERCA:-)

    Marta Slupska // 2013-01-09 04:04:29 // //
  • Just what I needed to hear thank you !

    Maureen Randolph // 2013-01-09 03:48:37 // //
  • Thank You!

    Helena Mayer // 2013-01-09 03:38:36 // //
  • Good advice.

    Peter Kempf // 2013-01-09 03:33:01 // //
  • Jenn Alexander: that has been one of my biggest lessons. For me it has come down to, I must love myself even more and I must realize she is doing her best for her level of consciousness. Remember, you are loved.

    Jennifer Graham // 2013-01-09 03:02:37 // //
  • What if the critic is your own mother? It is difficult to A. Not believe it and B. to try and ignore it.

    Jenn Alexander // 2013-01-09 02:48:17 // //
  • LOVE THIS!

    Kimberly Bailey // 2013-01-09 02:25:26 // //
  • Amazing! Well said.

    Sandy Dye Poli // 2013-01-09 01:59:12 // //
  • Beautiful

    Jacquelyn Meyers // 2013-01-09 01:55:14 // //
  • True talk.....Mr.Deepak Chopra

    Suvajit Roy // 2013-01-09 01:54:30 // //
  • The dude asking the question wasn't me but might as well have. I must be a demographic that belongs to this question. I'm way too concerned with others and how I am viewed.

    Goony Bird // 2013-01-09 01:49:31 // //
  • To meditate, in an active-mode, like dancing freely, or just keeping silent mind, was for me the most effective way to overcome insecurity (and still wking on it!). When you meditate, sometimes you feel nothing happened. No answers, no particular inner message onto what to do... But, altought you think nothing happened, EVERYTHING HAPPENS. You can notice it with time... I remember saying to mom: i suddenly understood something; i suddenly 'know' something. "What" - she asked. "I dont know. But i know it with my being, with my whole body, not only with my head". I just knew, understood "something" that made me feel a certanety of dunno what. Two years after this beautiful road, intuition led me to understand we live with our minds. You have to come down to the body to really feel things, know things, to live. We THINK we live, we THINK we feel, but we are actually not, because we left our bodies. I also came to realize not living in the body, makes you feel insecure. I started doing things to feel my body: walk barefoot, dance, drawing, doing manual things like cuting news magazines and doing a collage. Something that kept me in the body, alert and not-thinking. Less reading for me, more gardening, with bare hands, to feel the dirt. Less FB, more hughing, playing with clay; less fantasize, more building stuff with legos (i dont mean to shut your imagination, just balance out until you feel secure). just yesterday i learnt that not feeling the body, its also meaning you dont feel the earth. First chakra might have a blockage. Practical simple things: come down to the body and earth. Some personalities like mine, live a lot in the world of ideas, dreams, info. You need to come down a little to balance out. Other people are too grounded: they need to stimulate imagination. Others, like I, should stimulate the body... Otherwise, you feel insecure, and in extreme cases anxious or with panic attack. So come down live in the body! <3

    Alicia Coppel // 2013-01-09 01:47:50 // //
  • your core spiritual self ? expand

    Victor Figueroa // 2013-01-09 01:45:22 // //
  • Chopra, love your wisdom but also some peoples' comments! Unity is present :)

    Sasa Bhairav Poldrugac // 2013-01-09 01:41:38 // //
  • One of the things I think if there is a specific goal or dream to achieve something that's left unattended this may make one insecure. Search deeper. Learn, understand it. After that, just be yourself, humans are a flawed species anyway reflecting themselves onto others and needing self assurance.

    Deejay Navs // 2013-01-09 01:40:26 // //
  • Yes.!!

    Rubi Pun // 2013-01-09 01:30:07 // //
  • I like your advise Dr. Chopra, but could this person also benefit from being less self centered (i.e., think less of and about himself), and having a bit of a sense of humor and not take himself so seriously?

    Eli Hernandez // 2013-01-09 01:28:22 // //
  • To the Author of the question.... stop thinking about yourself, do something for other people.

    Bil Zen // 2013-01-09 01:26:58 // //
  • When i look in the mirror i see me, and happy to be me, i wrote a song titled you, me, and us, we are one

    Phillip Kelley // 2013-01-09 01:26:12 // //
  • Thanks Deepak - resonating deeper still :)

    Matthew Deene Dauble // 2013-01-09 01:19:10 // //
  • Yeah! Nice New Year consideration_ yummmm! ;)

    Kerrie B. Wrye // 2013-01-09 01:17:02 // //
  • Deepak you da man homie

    Isiah Izzy Jones // 2013-01-09 01:11:30 // //
  • This does define who my husband is... I been trying to tell him that for eight years and still, he is a selfish person. Always doing what others tell him to do instead of depending on his own intuitions.

    Amy L. Herzog // 2013-01-09 01:07:48 // //
  • Thanking you Deepak for your shared strength and wisdom. Love u back

    Janelle Scott // 2013-01-09 01:05:56 // //
  • Danny Twopointo Sandoval could use a spiritual cleansing!!!!!!

    Yvette Ramirez // 2013-01-09 01:05:04 // //
  • right on Deepak - love that advice. I had a beer earlier, it was an IPA. Then I wrote some stuff that will hopefully make others less poor.

    Alex Huppenthal // 2013-01-09 01:01:19 // //
  • me gustaria saber bien el ingles para saber bien lo que dice deepak chopra

    Brownsviller H Rivero // 2013-01-09 00:57:17 // //
  • Great advice;)

    Chantelle Hoermann // 2013-01-09 00:56:49 // //
  • Deepak, your words speak truth. You are so inspiring. Thank you for sharing.

    Nicole Nadel Mixdorf // 2013-01-09 00:55:09 // //
  • I lived through it but have truly overcome that experience

    Martin Vernon // 2013-01-09 00:51:35 // //
  • Meditate how?

    Nolee Sebwenna // 2013-01-09 00:51:21 // //
  • Perfect, love it!!

    Shana Jara // 2013-01-09 00:49:01 // //
  • pray for Gods will be done unto you

    Chris Delaney // 2013-01-09 00:48:35 // //
  • <3

    The Love Chronicles // 2013-01-09 00:48:04 // //
  • Your only as big as the smallest thing that it takes to upset you, try to channel your energies in a more positive way :) ps nice answer to the question. May well be a suggestion to take up some exercise to get rid of the useless energy along with meditation #JustSaying

    David Henderson // 2013-01-09 00:47:07 // //
  • Yay Sherry!

    Stephen Seidel // 2013-01-09 00:46:44 // //
  • But why does Deepak react when he is called Guru who is after wealth, why he is hurry to call himself author not guru.

    Venkat Shetty // 2013-01-09 00:43:41 // //
  • This is so very true, Being a highly sensitive person brings such unique challenges to life

    Sharon Campbell // 2013-01-09 00:43:08 // //
  • Wow

    Victoria Jenkins // 2013-01-09 00:42:36 // //
  • <3

    Kristina Kelley // 2013-01-09 00:42:07 // //
  • He cindy add me as frs

    Akshaya Kumar // 2013-01-09 00:41:22 // //
  • Its true

    Akshaya Kumar // 2013-01-09 00:40:49 // //
  • If you are insecure, use it and dissolve yourself into the Qasar, there is nothing else.

    qasar // 2013-01-09 00:40:27 // //
  • Try 58 year old.

    Cindy Pouncey // 2013-01-09 00:39:18 // //
  • We are three things: first, what we think we are Second: What others think that we are Third: What we really are.

    Ιορδανης κανιογλου // 2013-01-09 00:34:42 // //
  • Oh how very true....and my friend years help as well. Now at 55 yrs of age I am finally coming to know who I truly am. You are wise to be on the search and to seek advise from Mr Chopra!!

    Carol Pickard // 2013-01-09 00:32:57 // //
  • Ok that was raw as...it gets. That's where it is for me! THANK YOU!!!

    Monica Rodriguez // 2013-01-09 00:30:19 // //
  • Thanks and this is so true!!!

    Michelle Henderson // 2013-01-09 00:29:11 // //
  • Jai guru dev, Deepak!

    George DeForest // 2013-01-09 00:26:43 // //
  • How can one be insecure yet have a big ego? Is that really two sides of ones inner battle with oneself? I see it different, the ego plays insecure in order to get the attention they crave.

    Joann Lombardo-Urena // 2013-01-09 00:23:58 // //
  • WOW Love Deepak Chopra his wisdom speaks soooo well and I do believe this, it is hard at times but you have to love yourself for who you ,and you will overcome that feeling of insecurity

    Catherine Thompson // 2013-01-09 00:15:58 // //
  • Sir, if you want to rise from any problem or tension,you move outside your house or office immediately and give a any small gift to any little child.Then you feel like a happiest person on earth. Sir,if you found any grammatical mistakes in above,I AM REALLY SORRY ....because my English is very poor. Sir, I am a unemployment boy,then i am very happy. SIR YOU ARE MY IDEAL......

    Kapil Gupta // 2013-01-09 00:15:37 // //
  • It's very difficult & exhausting to live up to someone else's expectations. Live for those you love including yourself! Be a positive person to anyone you are in contact with. Understand that when people make remarks a lot of the time it's their ego talking not their true self.

    Gaby Caruso // 2013-01-09 00:14:21 // //
  • When we acknowledge these traits in ourselves, we recognise what we no longer want to carry. The task now, is removing what we have known and replacing with new and positive parts. Find someone to work with and be prepared to work at it. As there will be good, ugly and different moments which we all must face in order to create what we want. :-)

    Batia Grinblat // 2013-01-09 00:13:38 // //
  • Thank you.

    Clara Iriarte // 2013-01-09 00:05:58 // //
  • It is instructive writings Shared

    Mariann Boda Toth // 2013-01-08 23:57:30 // //
  • Just be brave your self ........ just make your self that you can do it the task... Simply

    Jamal Nasir // 2013-01-08 23:56:29 // //
  • What a response, love it!!!

    Leslie Lopez // 2013-01-08 23:54:42 // //
  • Thank you ✨✨✨✨

    Dora Winters Ruijs // 2013-01-08 23:54:19 // //
  • love it

    Susan Nerdahl Page // 2013-01-08 23:54:13 // //
  • Nothing wrong with the question, nor the answer - but: How do i meditate? Sitting down crossing my legs saying aummm? I really need a much more specific techniques - plz!

    Allan Heitmann // 2013-01-08 23:51:25 // //
  • I agree!! I did not have a strong identity until much more recently in life, and was always very easily affected by others. I have grown so much as a person. Focus on finding yourself first.. And then things should fall into place. If people don't like you, you probably didn't have much affinity with them anyway (in this life, anyway.. Assuming you believe in reincarnation and all that..). Thanks for listening, and Love and Peace to you all.. :D Also, don't try to please everyone. It is impossible, and will also cause you endless grief.

    Katherine TJ Wei // 2013-01-08 23:46:21 // //
  • It's funny how you stumble across things that help you on your journey .. So happy to have read this !! I have a problem with self confidence sometimes . But I am surrounded by people that only want to se me succeed , for that I'm truly thankful !!

    Tracy Basner // 2013-01-08 23:45:59 // //
  • Thank you !

    Tina Hosseini // 2013-01-08 23:44:53 // //
  • Thank you.

    Krista Joy // 2013-01-08 23:43:38 // //
  • Thanks to share your wisom <3 , Namaste

    Vanessa Virginia Buccioni Lamas // 2013-01-08 23:43:34 // //
  • I never understood the difference between adulation and admiration. Well now it is clearer.

    Jhon N. Cabana C // 2013-01-08 23:40:03 // //
  • Thank you. I needed to read this too...<3.

    Denise Emmons-Krasnosky // 2013-01-08 23:40:00 // //
  • Wow I needed to hear that. Thanks !!

    Renee Hughes // 2013-01-08 23:39:22 // //
  • Yes!! Namaste

    Kelly Kissane // 2013-01-08 23:39:16 // //
  • I too could have written this question. I am glad to know there are others out there that have the same afflictions and think similarly. Thank you Mr. Deepak Chopra for writing such a beautiful response. It was as if you were speaking to me. Thank you and blessings to you.

    Michael Segura // 2013-01-08 23:39:10 // //
  • Namaste

    Patricia Metivier Vader // 2013-01-08 23:37:29 // //
  • sounds great deepak chopra has great wisdom, with 1 problem he doesnt really explain how to use our natural introversion to meditate, so that might not be exactly clear to some of us, it confuses me a little bit i must say.

    TryingtoFight TheSleep // 2013-01-08 23:36:10 // //
  • So true !

    Wanthana Tangweerakiet // 2013-01-08 23:35:47 // //
  • This is why I f@cks with deepak and not tupak...just saying....

    Harrison Burwell // 2013-01-08 23:34:51 // //
  • Israel 'Izzy' Castro Please read this!

    Nickolas Alphonzo Grigsby // 2013-01-08 23:33:47 // //
  • Yes

    Skye True-Hagenstein // 2013-01-08 23:30:38 // //
  • Peace rules of heaven eyes

    Jesus Alaminos // 2013-01-08 23:29:14 // //
  • Namaste !!

    Nina Marin // 2013-01-08 23:29:04 // //
  • WOW, That describes me at/or around that same age!! Now, in my 40's I can say that you definitely have to know who you are without a doubt!! There will always be remarks and comments from others, we have to handle in our own way!! This has helped me a lot: http://youtu.be/jQFPYNzBg7c

    Kev Bra // 2013-01-08 23:28:47 // //
  • social experiences, when we are young, like school or camp, can cause post traumatic stress syndrome in kids who receive little attention or love from their parents. this happened to me at 14 and i hated myself until i was 19. basically, don't care what people in your peer group think of you because it can eat away at your security.

    Miriam Abby Cohen // 2013-01-08 23:25:46 // //
  • namaste

    Joseph Hawley // 2013-01-08 23:25:39 // //
  • Great advice...for myself as well as this young man.

    Sherry King // 2013-01-08 23:25:17 // //
  • Huh? Stretches head. Riddles

    Carlos Rivera // 2013-01-08 23:24:20 // //
  • a beautiful question and answer...thanks to you both! <3

    Valerie Malla // 2013-01-08 23:23:14 // //
  • Bri Hughes

    Andrea Sue Murray // 2013-01-08 23:19:10 // //
  • Calú Yávar Larraguibel

    Andrea Sue Murray // 2013-01-08 23:19:03 // //
  • http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=456648207730696&set=a.456648194397364.106819.100001565611616&type=3&theater

    Tim Crosby // 2013-01-08 23:13:48 // //
  • So true and lots of work!

    Veronika Noble // 2013-01-08 23:11:49 // //
  • Truly love...

    Camila Casaccia // 2013-01-08 23:09:17 // //
  • I could have written this question as well... !!! There are no coincidences~

    Stacey Jolls-Casey // 2013-01-08 23:05:05 // //
  • I don't think that letter is real.

    Justine Moonvine // 2013-01-08 23:04:59 // //
  • thanks! i will share.

    Norman Fajardo // 2013-01-08 23:02:08 // //
  • Perfect timing. Synchronicity is real!

    Alipyo Voy // 2013-01-08 23:01:27 // //
  • anthony demello wrote a brilliant little book called The Way To Love, its all about this, how to love yourself, small but effective and it helped me.

    Chental Wilson // 2013-01-08 23:00:32 // //
  • off course boss... u r rite...! he isnt z body flesh n bones he is beyond that... he should know his real nature of self....

    Ree-Roshan Ros // 2013-01-08 23:00:05 // //
  • Beautiful response to fake question.

    Taletha M. Forté // 2013-01-08 22:59:59 // //
  • Beautiful response.

    Dave Dautel // 2013-01-08 22:59:04 // //
  • Thank you

    Noemi Round // 2013-01-08 22:58:52 // //
  • I am really going to start practice meditating. It seems to be the best way to self heal and know thy self.

    Elyce Journey // 2013-01-08 22:58:19 // //
  • look at each day as a new you and take it from tehre. change begins with u

    Sumintra Guy // 2013-01-08 22:57:59 // //
  • i appreciate the writers honesty almost (but not quite) as much as the answer; it took insight and honesty. already on the path to knowing one aspect of who you are. if someone labels you...even if you think there is a grain of truth to what they say...just remember...that may j be just a 'small' part of who you are right now ...and not the 'whole' of you or your potential for the future. right now, if you believe the 'whole' has good intentions...even if we make mistakes and sometimes resemble what they label us...it's easier to let it roll off your back. and if you don't let it roll off you back, then be conscious to change it.

    Shelley Perez // 2013-01-08 22:57:45 // //
  • I'll take some of that advice too Dr. Thank you

    Maria Mattei-Chaney // 2013-01-08 22:56:32 // //
  • Perfect timing to read this...was just asking god for direction on this very topic and here it is. <3

    Evan Underwood // 2013-01-08 22:56:12 // //
  • Working on this thank you for sharing

    Demetria Whigham // 2013-01-08 22:56:05 // //
  • Worth reading...♥

    Kimberly Shead // 2013-01-08 22:55:39 // //
  • Offer us:)

    Yo Soy Slh // 2013-01-08 22:55:18 // //
  • No inflated ego tho

    Valerie Jacobs-Smith // 2013-01-08 22:55:15 // //
  • Namaste:) you sir when o see you speak, wow is amazing calming, Thx for of ferina us your words and knowledge:)

    Yo Soy Slh // 2013-01-08 22:55:03 // //
  • Bless you!!

    Gretchen Snow // 2013-01-08 22:54:54 // //
  • ...I needed this:) this is so me

    Valerie Jacobs-Smith // 2013-01-08 22:54:46 // //
  • Great response.

    Jeanny Trimble // 2013-01-08 22:54:42 // //
  • Namaste Dr

    Jorge Pinazo // 2013-01-08 22:52:23 // //
  • LOVE! :)

    Alejandro Duque // 2013-01-08 22:52:12 // //
  • Thank you and bless your "Big Heart", Dr. Deepak :-)

    Angelika Murray // 2013-01-08 22:52:10 // //
  • Thank you for Speaking Truth:-)

    Debbie McIntyre // 2013-01-08 22:52:00 // //
  • No words to appreciate Dr. Deepak Chopra's words and explanations. It just comes from his heart and goes to someones heart again. My Deep regards to you Sir.

    Dipankar Gupta // 2013-01-08 22:51:24 // //
  • I love you big man!!!!!

    Silvia Berardi // 2013-01-08 22:50:50 // //
  • Thank you, Deepak. Your love and guidance are a beacon for us all!

    Catherine Armstrong // 2013-01-08 22:50:36 // //
  • my mom just asked me! what are you needing. i say what i always say. nothing.

    Arvin Robles // 2013-01-08 22:50:31 // //
  • We are now liberation,,,continuing the generation...the core of a person...

    Marcel Mejos // 2013-01-08 22:49:44 // //
  • I love your wisdom Deepak

    Stephen McKenzie // 2013-01-08 22:49:24 // //
  • Thank you. I beliebe it is the correct way to be owerselves.

    Zully Pereyra // 2013-01-08 22:49:17 // //
  • Timmy Trammell In some situations, this describes us both. New resolutions, let's be true to ourselves and flush away what others say.

    Cynthia Cadillo // 2013-01-08 22:49:12 // //
  • Got to love him...............

    Kitty Freund // 2013-01-08 22:48:37 // //
  • Much needed!! Mahalo

    Sarah Graff // 2013-01-08 22:48:37 // //
  • Love me some Deepak wisdom!

    Andrea MacFarland Sulak // 2013-01-08 22:47:39 // //
  • thank you! Deepak Chopra!! agree!!

    Arvin Robles // 2013-01-08 22:47:26 // //
  • Amen to that answer. When you know your true self you are too busy being you that you have cero time to worry what others think of you. I love you!! Thank you!! Jh

    Janneth Checa Hall // 2013-01-08 22:47:17 // //
  • love this!

    Susan Chatain // 2013-01-08 22:47:15 // //
  • Thanks for the post. I needed to hear that again. Although I believe we can only be effected if I allow my ego to get in the way. I have people in my life that tell me I cant do certain things. I listen with no response.. Cause ther is power in my silence. I have nothing to prove to anyone else.... BUt me. That which serves me.. Thank you Deepak.

    Terry Purnell-Dennis // 2013-01-08 22:46:19 // //
  • You can get good guided meditations...they might be helpful for those of you who want to stop thinking when trying to meditate. I know I have problems with the chattering mind...

    Jeannie Williams // 2013-01-08 22:45:56 // //
  • you have been a perfect messenger ... thank you so very much. <3

    Deb Dowell // 2013-01-08 22:45:32 // //
  • As an alcoholic, we sometimes refer to ourselves as ego maniacs with an inferiority complex. I relate. As I feel I was born with this "hole" inside of me, I tried to fill it with alcohol, relationships, attention, etc. For a time, those things worked, they filled it up, and made me feel okay, as my disease progressed alcohol no longer was the magic elixir it initially was, but by this time I was addicted. Although I am now sober, from time to time when I experience pain, or feelings that are overwhelming to me, I still search to "fill that space". The only thing that provides me relief is prayer, contact with my higher power/higher self, contact with other people who struggle from the same disease, and being of service to my fellow man. When I do these things, I get out of self, and my discomfort is eased greatly.

    Claire Rebuck // 2013-01-08 22:45:23 // //
  • That is awesome advice, and a very important question. Thank you on both sides of this! Meditation!!!

    Marlin Wilson // 2013-01-08 22:45:19 // //
  • I advise everyone to watch Gotham Choprak's documentary on being Deepak's son and how he views Dad. It's a real eye opener. Then try watching the documentary "Kumare." A doc about an Indian man who, although born/living in the States, pulls off an act of being a "Yogi" or spiritual leader in Arizona. It gives you allot to think about and how we Westerners are always looking to the East for answers.

    India Johnson Mitchell // 2013-01-08 22:45:03 // //
  • So well said Deepak so very well said!!!!!! Bless your heart.

    Linda Taylor // 2013-01-08 22:44:42 // //
  • In many situations - I do agree with ur statement. I think it holds true for situations where there is a critical boss/mother in law/father/etc etc...where the best approach would be what u suggest...However - I believe there is a fine line dance between deflecting criticism and reflecting on criticism. I have found that many people walk around bs'ing people to their face - and criticizing them behind it...but I can't blame them, because otherwise it would cause chaos. I wonder if people are "generally" incapable of either giving constructive criticism - or taking in criticism. We are works in progress - criticism can be a helpful tool to help u grow as a person...and letting the wrong kind in can be degenerative. So I'm left wondering - how do u find the line?

    Jude Vajda // 2013-01-08 22:44:40 // //
  • Needed to hear this and seriously need to work on this. Thank you Deepak!

    Nisha Gill // 2013-01-08 22:44:29 // //
  • exactement

    Elaine Morse // 2013-01-08 22:44:14 // //
  • Sounds like a potential alcoholic!

    Ian Caton // 2013-01-08 22:44:13 // //
  • Be sure is the rule!

    Barb Bernal // 2013-01-08 22:43:40 // //
  • because people have gone through more instense trauma in there lives like not growing up with both parents, can affect them later on in child hood through adolescents and to adult hood. to be entitled is a sign of acceptance. not in my castle lol, . how come there is no such thing as adult teenagers, is labeled as adult children?

    Arvin Robles // 2013-01-08 22:43:39 // //
  • Brilliant, Thank you Mr. Chopra! :)

    SportsFanatic Foreverz // 2013-01-08 22:43:35 // //
  • That s right.Thank you, Master!!!

    Usmanova Natalia // 2013-01-08 22:43:18 // //
  • Never forget WHO YOU ARE!!

    Dienna Duesler Converse // 2013-01-08 22:42:41 // //
  • That meant absolutely nothing.

    Sherrlyn Borkgren-Photographer // 2013-01-08 22:42:12 // //
  • i cant define myself. they wont let me

    Jennifer Renae Merrifield // 2013-01-08 22:41:34 // //
  • Thank you both, for this.

    Eduardo Gm // 2013-01-08 22:41:32 // //
  • Thank you!!!

    Seeta Durjan Begui // 2013-01-08 22:41:27 // //
  • THANK YOU, Deepak.

    Dionna Raedeke // 2013-01-08 22:41:13 // //
  • Thank you for showing us the path to inner peace

    Karen Neumann Puklin // 2013-01-08 22:40:52 // //
  • Love!!

    Joy Luck // 2013-01-08 22:40:43 // //
  • Aaaaaaaaaameeeeeeeen:-)

    Frank Maxim // 2013-01-08 22:40:11 // //
  • We all have beautiful strengths of all different kinds. :)

    Judy van Houten // 2013-01-08 22:39:11 // //
  • Perfect!

    Ginny Marshall Gasparre // 2013-01-08 22:39:04 // //
  • I love this!...So on time! Last year, I believe I finally 'got it' on this subject!

    Mary Parriman // 2013-01-08 22:39:00 // //
  • Duda Tanure // 2013-01-08 22:38:46 // //
  • Lmao is this a sign? Melissa Wood

    Lisa Pleasants // 2013-01-08 22:38:36 // //
  • True. Thanks Mr. Chopra <3

    Svjetlana Strižak // 2013-01-08 22:37:51 // //
  • Excellent!! :-)

    Sandy Gentry // 2013-01-08 22:37:23 // //
  • I really needed to hear that..thank you.

    Sheri Palmer // 2013-01-08 22:37:19 // //
  • nice responce

    Aadityaa Sarpotdar // 2013-01-08 22:37:14 // //
  • ;)

    Natasha Bleu // 2013-01-08 22:37:13 // //
  • Great answer...

    April Mckenzie-Griswold // 2013-01-08 22:37:02 // //
  • WOW !

    Frank Corona // 2013-01-08 22:36:59 // //
  • thank you Dr

    Rachid Zarrouk // 2013-01-08 22:36:38 // //
  • Smiling!

    Carlos Lego // 2013-01-08 22:36:26 // //
  • I like your response. Very true.

    Maria Teresa Aquino // 2013-01-08 22:36:21 // //
  • When v inclinded to a spiritual side u get to ignore lot of negatives wich help u to involve well within the environment. Sir very rightly said

    Karan Kakkar // 2013-01-08 22:36:15 // //
  • Here's to developing our true Spiritual Selves.

    Brian Williams // 2013-01-08 22:36:03 // //
  • MY GREAT RESPECT FOR MY GURU,DEEPAK CHOPRA JEE.

    Kanchan Gupta // 2013-01-08 22:36:01 // //
  • I relate to this. Thanks for a great answer

    Paragon-Music Webzine // 2013-01-08 22:35:30 // //
  • So timely! Thank you!

    Marie Densmore // 2013-01-08 22:34:37 // //
  • Straight up amazing topic and proper solution.

    Shawn Khan // 2013-01-08 22:34:14 // //
  • Love your answer.

    Annalisa Salustri // 2013-01-08 22:33:38 // //
  • yes, i myself am an introvert. you are lucky because it will be easier for you to look inside than extroverts. the way i did overcome feeling inferior was as Deepak has said. I went inside myself and found my inner self and my inner power. Now, if someone tries to define me i just say "ill be the one defining myself to you. Who i am, what i believe etc." if they dont want to listen and get to know the real me, i just walk away.

    jessi kyann // 2013-01-08 20:58:02 // //