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January 05 2013

People Who Only Take Love

Category:  Ask Deepak

Question:

Deepak, thank you for this opportunity to ask a question. I have struggled to understand some of relationships (thankfully not the close ones) in my life wherein I have given a ton of love to some people and genuinely cared for them however they have not reciprocated with the same amount of love or caring back ,choosing to be ignorant and self-absorbed instead. What makes them act with lesser love after receiving so much since I thought all of us are essentially souls made of pure love and it is in our nature to love everyone and everything?


Response:

Essentially our souls are love, intelligence and light. But when we behave selfishly, we are acting from our ego, fear-based self, not our loving self. What determines whether someone can overcome their ego self is not just a matter of how much love they have been love they have been given, but more importantly how much fear they are able to let go of in their hearts.

Love,
Deepak

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  • I have also wondered how people who come warm upbringings can only generate love for themselves. Now I know.It is fear that keeps them from loving others.Good question and great answer!

    sstarrynite // 2013-01-05 16:52:06 // //
  • Thanks for answering this question. It has helped me enormously today to understand a situation in my life. I did not realise what the question was I needed to get the answer to until I saw this today.

    sherbert blue // 2013-01-05 16:21:27 // //

 

 

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  • One of the reasons that we are here is give without expecting nothing

    Dogwalking Badbehavior // 2013-01-08 14:30:25 // //
  • Wow ! Light bulb experience. It sometimes seem that the more love u show some people (fear based people) they more they push you away. Finally, when you feel empty... Like you have no more live to give ... They aren't afraid to love you. But by this time you are so drained you can't feel the love. : (

    Meryle Wooster // 2013-01-08 14:12:58 // //
  • So true...you have hit the nail right on the head. You have answered such a complex question using so few words.

    Rajesh Daswani // 2013-01-08 07:01:10 // //
  • Thank you for this question. I just got out of a 4 year relationship. I loved my ex-boyfriend with all my heart. The love I gave him was never reciprocated. He does have a huge ego. He never opened his heart to me, I never expressed emotion. My heart hurts for him, but I know that walking away from him was the best thing for me. I will not settle, I deserve a deep, genuine loving relationship.

    TS // 2013-01-07 23:09:30 // //
  • How do we help others to let go of fear

    liveforlove // 2013-01-07 22:28:01 // //
  • I genuinely love people but don`t expect what I give to be reciprocated. I walk with Thee in the understanding that Thee is guiding me. I don`t look back and my heart is good and pure. I walk this Earth with the knowledge that Thee has put upon me. I have no animosity toward my fellow man and I shall not shame his name. The Lord has blessed me and those I have touched along the way and I am going to continue to help and love even if I am not loved or ever helped by that person.

    LovesAlive // 2013-01-07 22:13:36 // //
  • The joy of Loving comes from within whether it is received or not does not effect the power from within. He has shared a truth that helps us understand others and ourselves. Judgement is another word for fear.

    Mary Ellen Graham // 2013-01-07 08:25:49 // //
  • so true :-) love this wisdom and way of seeing things esp in relation to love - opposite of love is fear x

    Lifetime Nutrition - Weight Loss that Works // 2013-01-07 06:24:31 // //
  • totalmente de acuerdo te amo Deepak

    Laura Campos Cardenas // 2013-01-07 00:19:19 // //
  • Absolute truth!

    Pamela Saunders // 2013-01-06 22:47:13 // //
  • I don't know , I wonder that myself!

    Sharon Creger // 2013-01-06 21:21:48 // //
  • How true - my kids need to learn that lesson!! I had the privelidge of meeting Deepak Chopra many years ago....

    Helen Williams // 2013-01-06 21:10:44 // //
  • A truth some people experience more than others, but if we continue to love from the light within, which is God, then we inspire those we love, to imitate our actions and teach them to love selflessly...

    Tracey Frazer // 2013-01-06 19:31:59 // //
  • Wow. Excellent post thanks!

    Sarah Jane // 2013-01-06 16:05:55 // //
  • Powerful Tiffany, Thanks for Sharing!!!!

    Jerome Daniels // 2013-01-06 15:46:46 // //
  • If you don't give, how much can you truly receive?

    James Bohlman // 2013-01-06 14:34:28 // //
  • Beautiful question, some people can receive anything, but can give nothing, perhaps they feel they have nothing to give, not worthy to give,which makes me think, how much are they receiving?

    James Bohlman // 2013-01-06 14:33:35 // //
  • I think people act with lesser love after receiving it because they've never really learned any different. I think some people love the best way they know how, & often that's not very much to the receiver of their love. Go figure!

    Carmen Stine // 2013-01-06 12:09:53 // //
  • Just think, what would John Lennon say and do.

    Terry Shanahan // 2013-01-06 11:32:11 // //
  • Thank you so much for all your comments .. Much love to you and your family D!! ✌

    Tony McQuay // 2013-01-06 10:28:18 // //
  • Thank you! This is exactly what I needed at this moment.

    Becki Lenhart Garcia // 2013-01-06 10:27:07 // //
  • Eloquently stated truth.

    Mintrani Seeram Maharaj // 2013-01-06 10:21:06 // //
  • Subconciously we all act with a bit of fear, and ego does take its own call....until someone tell us...thanks:):)

    Nazneen Mistry // 2013-01-06 10:17:21 // //
  • I love this! I recently am going thru some things and this helps! Thanks!

    Carolyn Herman // 2013-01-06 08:47:41 // //
  • I think Deepak has the best answer. Fear stops us doing and receiving.

    Jackie Levy Pruskin // 2013-01-06 08:42:08 // //
  • Dear Deepak, They love their material world more then they love themselves, society values are material rather then spiritual, majority of us are brain washed and do not appreciate or understand our real self, but the commercial EGO created around us. All the love and respect for your work . Teo Ruja

    Teo Ruja // 2013-01-06 08:42:06 // //
  • So true..thanks for a wonderfull reflection. <3

    Sandra Ahmed // 2013-01-06 08:21:03 // //
  • My take: true love never fails.

    Derrick R. Wright // 2013-01-06 07:00:56 // //
  • true..

    Bindu Rajalekshmi // 2013-01-06 06:46:45 // //
  • :)

    Pam Riano // 2013-01-06 06:42:46 // //
  • Good answer Deepak. Fear is the barrier.

    Jackie Levy Pruskin // 2013-01-06 06:19:16 // //
  • Love is love, some people are born loving and others are selfish. Those who are wise, know how to let go of those who are selfish so their influence does not affect a genuine person's soul. Ultimately we are in command of our own actions.

    Joanna Dorl // 2013-01-06 05:43:17 // //
  • That's a big one Deepak, it's also to do with how they are taught or shown love as a child, not all to do with the ego of self....

    Rhys Davies // 2013-01-06 05:31:43 // //
  • Très beau !!!

    Françoise Bianco // 2013-01-06 05:18:26 // //
  • Ning Ning the fact that you have shared your story and the fact that you have faith, shows me what a beautiful soul you have, after all you have had to deal with. For another person it would be easier to turn from faith than to find faith and strength after such ordeals. You are truelly an amazing person.

    Alicia Monis // 2013-01-06 03:55:30 // //
  • Deepak, Amazing Man, what a wonderful soul to have on our planet. xo

    Libby Ratten // 2013-01-06 03:39:21 // //
  • Gracias Chopra! Thank you For Being All YOU! For being There...

    Catalina Valdez // 2013-01-06 03:15:26 // //
  • I felt it's my words....

    Rashmi Pawar // 2013-01-06 02:07:54 // //
  • I find this utterly sad.Love is an act of kindness.When you are truly giving from you heart you need no reciprocation..

    vikingirl // 2013-01-06 02:00:49 // //
  • we should never expect recipation when giving love. some times its difficult to accept but those times are just another lession in life for our soul to experience. don't give up giving your love for it will in someway come back to you.

    Tom Nolan // 2013-01-06 01:16:00 // //
  • Deepak raised right point n Love this discusion to continue....

    Ggsastry Narumanchi // 2013-01-06 00:52:08 // //
  • Love is always alive

    Archana Parab // 2013-01-06 00:36:59 // //
  • Watching to much Fox news, that will do it !!

    Paul Jacobsen // 2013-01-06 00:24:34 // //
  • An exquisite answer, I have learned a great deal. I have seen both sides

    Felice DaCosta // 2013-01-06 00:22:36 // //
  • i say, just keep giving love, because that nourishes your soul. If a person displays negatively to you, I always wonder whats going on in thier life if I feel I have always treated them kindly. so don't take anything personal. Sending love

    Cyndi Sweet // 2013-01-06 00:17:59 // //
  • thank you, Elijah and Kim for your support, it gives me strenght and realized that there is good people out there.

    Ningning Guinto // 2013-01-06 00:14:17 // //
  • Love never fails

    Roxanne Murdoch // 2013-01-06 00:06:56 // //
  • Love will always be the Answer.

    Simone High // 2013-01-05 23:57:29 // //
  • NingNing, those bullies need to be firmly dealt with. Don't ever get close to them. Be firm, look them straight in the eye and be assertive, but don't be angry because it doesn't serve any purpose. They are just testing you like the idiots they are. If they bully you, tell them to get out of of your way or they will get kicked to the curb. If they touch you, threaten to slap an assault charge on them or sue them (make the litigious society work for you!). Anything to get them away. I used to be bullied but I won't put up with it anymore. Yes I dislike being an aggressive bitch with this approach but look at who we have to deal with... these people are not exactly pillars of society. You have a right to peace, calm and happiness in your life, and I support you. :-)

    Kim Swanson // 2013-01-05 23:42:30 // //
  • Ah, the good old ego, always getting in the way!

    Jessica Bouchard-Haines // 2013-01-05 23:11:06 // //
  • young souls?

    Louise Moore // 2013-01-05 22:45:45 // //
  • Well. This rules.

    Virginia Bravo // 2013-01-05 22:45:37 // //
  • @NingNing, I don't have an answer but I will pray for the Holy Spirit to move on you. Forgiveness is a Supernatural phenomenon. It's a miracle performed by God.

    Elijah McKinley // 2013-01-05 22:43:28 // //
  • I pray for them, Everyday to have all the stuff I want for me and my family and friend's. Even If I don't want or believe and after two weeks I felt better. I also seeked professional help I had to take responsibility to work to heal

    Troy Brazil // 2013-01-05 22:30:54 // //
  • That Is heavy! And so true.

    Troy Brazil // 2013-01-05 22:22:29 // //
  • wow.... I can relate.... Thanks Deepak.

    Todd M Koch // 2013-01-05 22:22:21 // //
  • ke guapo mi maestroooooooooooooooooo

    Monik Rani Velaskz M // 2013-01-05 22:12:19 // //
  • How can you give LOVE when fear is so strong. Ive'd experienced at early age of rejection from my mother, emtional,physical abuse. I was bullied by my brother and sister. Sexual abused at early age, sexual assaulted at eleven. After this I shut down. I create my own safe world, my own sanctuary so can cant feel the pain, suffering and fear.I stayed inside my shell, my comfort zone untill I reached the age of 36. I get married with different culture and nationality, have 1 child with autism. Now I experienced depression, anxiety,panic attack, social phobia, and racial discrimination and being bullied at work. I feel so disconnect with reality. What gives me hope with my lifes journey is my faith with god. I accepted that this is my cross to be carried, teach me to have emphathy, to be compassionate. My question is, how can you forgive somebody when they dont recognize what they have done? How can I give LOVE and FORGIVENESS when I am hurting? Do you think is my ego is controlling me? My wish is to have PEACE inside of me and PEACE to all HUMANITY.

    Ningning Guinto // 2013-01-05 22:12:01 // //
  • Deepak is a crock. Give love for the sake of loving, not for the sake of having it returned.

    Jeff Stafford // 2013-01-05 21:52:58 // //
  • Human nature is a violent one, peace and love are utopian terms, and security is relative to your own means, lets be real, the only lovely being is a baby and 'till he or she starts using video games.

    Omar Borjas Aguiriano // 2013-01-05 21:46:55 // //
  • TY :)

    Jilly Thomas // 2013-01-05 21:23:24 // //
  • better to recieve than to give....despite the opposite way we've all heard :p

    Jeff Rey // 2013-01-05 21:22:57 // //
  • Love is God !

    Aasha Lama // 2013-01-05 21:22:05 // //
  • EGO is satan !

    Aasha Lama // 2013-01-05 21:21:53 // //
  • That is amazing...makes perfect sense!!

    Lana Roger // 2013-01-05 21:18:53 // //
  • Awesome advice!!!!?

    Susan Israel // 2013-01-05 21:14:51 // //
  • Wow. So true!!! Thank u Deepak. :))

    Ania Fournioti // 2013-01-05 21:06:18 // //
  • Unconditional Love.. All is well..

    Anton Ferdi Hazairin // 2013-01-05 21:02:46 // //
  • Barf

    Jeff Larocque // 2013-01-05 21:01:46 // //
  • Deep, like my ass!

    Johannes Timmers // 2013-01-05 21:01:09 // //
  • I needed this today!!! Thank you. Spot on!

    Lupita Castrejon // 2013-01-05 20:52:28 // //
  • Amor es dar sin esperar nada a cambio. All my love from México deepakchopra !!!

    Cecilia Lopez // 2013-01-05 20:45:40 // //
  • Fear is actually necessary, keep you alive, and don't matter what you do, it always be there

    Omar Borjas Aguiriano // 2013-01-05 20:41:16 // //
  • It seems we walk the same path on that issue.

    Lama Naljorma Yeshe Khadro // 2013-01-05 20:40:40 // //
  • Thank you Deepak ..excelente answer. The truth .

    Karin Dominguez Lopez // 2013-01-05 20:38:35 // //
  • Made me cry...gold in every words...

    Hossein Sadjadi // 2013-01-05 20:36:30 // //
  • Not expecting anything in return is very freeing. People reciprocate in not so so obvious ways.

    Christine Bates // 2013-01-05 20:27:52 // //
  • Give unconditional love and you shall receive peace.

    Dale Mitchell // 2013-01-05 20:16:17 // //
  • Letting go of fear gives us the ability to love. I like that explanation! :~}

    Deenie Dare // 2013-01-05 19:52:07 // //
  • so true

    Sharon Nelson // 2013-01-05 19:45:17 // //
  • Always just the right answer at the needed moment.Thank you, Deepak.

    Judy Mills // 2013-01-05 19:40:19 // //
  • Thank you so much Deepak, you've answered the question that had been stirring me for days... I really get it now...

    Veronica Vera // 2013-01-05 19:34:11 // //
  • Love And Faith go together , they complete each other.!

    Fabiola Cárdenas // 2013-01-05 19:29:48 // //
  • La esencia del alma es amor puro... Sin egoísmo, sin miedo... ni limites...por eso cuando se quiere con el alma...nada es imposible..se vive con intensidad y la vida empieza a tener sentido...

    Carolina Martén Loría // 2013-01-05 19:27:29 // //
  • I agree that fear (along with pure selfishness) is a factor that keeps people from giving back love in the same measure they have been given by others but I also strongly believe that this happens if person's soul is not connected to a spiritual source (and by that I mean any religion or belief, faith, God, etc.)therefore that soul is empty, that soul will only be able to look at things and feel for things and persons only in a superficial manner, so finally that soul will not be able to develop a deeper sensibility, empathy, neither caring or loving but superficially. Unfortunately nowadays this is how people relate: superficially; instead of thinking how can I help this person? What can I do to make this person happy? People are only thinking what can I get from this person? What do I get out or how can I benefit from this relationship? These are all selfish and superficial thoughts. I invite you to nourish your spirits, when you do this your mind and your souls will be satisfied and at peace. Greetings from Chile!

    Natalia Paz Mayer // 2013-01-05 19:26:31 // //
  • capacity capacity..

    Alison Hawkins-Keogh // 2013-01-05 19:16:48 // //
  • Maybe these people respond positively to the care and love they receive from those who are "close" to them...

    Food4thought // 2013-01-05 19:12:06 // //
  • <3

    Anne Mosenthin // 2013-01-05 19:11:07 // //
  • Ummm

    Clermina Leconte // 2013-01-05 19:06:00 // //
  • I've Always asked this same question. I see it all the time . So sad. I often think these people lack feelings and loyalty. Wow!

    Evelyn Pacheco // 2013-01-05 19:04:20 // //
  • I have heard that a lot about fear....I truly believe it is true, when it has to do with jealousy, opening up to someone, expressing feeling, needs and wants so much of behavior is based on fear we have. What is it you are fearful of?

    Michele Cernese // 2013-01-05 18:59:57 // //
  • I pray all will learn to walk the Path of Lovingkindness.

    Charlene Dyes Vanderslice // 2013-01-05 18:57:41 // //
  • As I am without family,thought I was the only human being who tries so hard to love others with only rejection .....to answer your question....only ignorance, is your answer, for people not to know any better.....lonely, if you are all alone.....until then, if ever, one knows not the experience to be all alone...."ditto",...!!!

    Ruth Angel // 2013-01-05 18:50:24 // //
  • Wow.

    Samuel Johnson // 2013-01-05 18:48:14 // //
  • Some people just don't know how to express or receive love

    Soraya Sheppard // 2013-01-05 18:45:00 // //
  • Thank you Mr. Chopra! That certainly explains two people in my life.

    Sara Ward S // 2013-01-05 18:44:54 // //
  • or they just have a case of headupthereownassitis

    Karen Rose // 2013-01-05 18:43:31 // //
  • Somethings are just Karma from other lives, or they agreed to treat you that way as part of this lifes lessns, that YOU and I mean YOU CHOSE

    Karen Rose // 2013-01-05 18:42:33 // //
  • I LOVE because I know of no other way to be. Thank you Deepak Chopra for those beautiful words of wisdom. God Bless!!!

    Loi Monet // 2013-01-05 18:38:07 // //
  • Amazingly appropriate for me to hear ... Right now! Thank you for the wise council

    Lynda Stanton // 2013-01-05 18:36:44 // //
  • Love ya Bestie!!

    Mary Lou Kauffman // 2013-01-05 18:36:40 // //
  • Thanks to share your wisdom, Namaste

    Vanessa Virginia Buccioni Lamas // 2013-01-05 18:36:36 // //
  • wow awesome

    Heroina Figuera Lopez // 2013-01-05 18:34:53 // //
  • Love Is Not A Key Component Of Self, Rather It Is A State Of Feeling, In Addition We Can Call Ourselves As A Form Of Energy Or Light, Love Is Not Essential For Living, As Such They Did Not Reciprocate Because They Want Ta Be By Themselves, Man Gravitates Towards The Self As Well As Inner Self In Essence In Search Of A Peaceful State, He Does Not Require ExternalInfluences

    Mogan Sellappan // 2013-01-05 18:34:19 // //
  • Love is wanting to be free. John Lennon.

    Pete Chapman // 2013-01-05 18:27:53 // //
  • because some are blind to who they are and how they act, unconscious. The only way to show them is to compassionately bring awareness to them using your truths.

    Chental Wilson // 2013-01-05 18:27:07 // //
  • as in the garden, our implanted spiritual roots of our souls are limited by inner weed seeds of hatred. By learning how to weed this negativity out, we unlock the flow of spiritual sustinance towards our souls.

    Weed Out Hate: Sow the Seeds of Peace // 2013-01-05 18:25:36 // //
  • This has been something that I have tried to understand. I always give so much of myself, that I truly have trouble understanding how you can be trampled on and taken advantage of including family . I have tried to become tougher and more introverted , but it goes against my nature .

    Marilyn Clavelo Abreu // 2013-01-05 18:21:27 // //
  • well said,thanx Deepak

    Timbers Kwarteng Alex // 2013-01-05 18:18:52 // //
  • Wisdom words!!!

    Annybett Mercado // 2013-01-05 18:09:02 // //
  • Fear is the great enemy we need to overcome.

    Kristine Skancke // 2013-01-05 18:08:02 // //
  • Very well said.

    Kate Hughes Brown // 2013-01-05 18:05:28 // //
  • ego?omg.we love the love in our life.feel bed for the one the dont?yes.

    Dalia Danoch Krinsky // 2013-01-05 18:04:37 // //
  • Very true! It's sad how fear can rob you off of your potential!

    Jaspreet Kaur // 2013-01-05 18:02:25 // //
  • Thank you deepak

    Monica Lahey // 2013-01-05 18:01:29 // //
  • There are exact mechanics to cure this. First; one must be convinced that any life run on self will can not be successful. Second; we are in the world to play the role that God assigns. Third; we ask Him to remove our fear and direct our attention to what He would have us be.

    Jason Meyers // 2013-01-05 17:59:25 // //
  • So tru ! Thank You Deepak !

    Maryla Wall // 2013-01-05 17:58:27 // //
  • Yes raise a teenager for the ultimate lesson

    Marc Davis // 2013-01-05 17:54:35 // //
  • Spot on!

    April L. Jones // 2013-01-05 17:53:14 // //
  • This I so powerfully true !!!! Thank you ...

    Pamela R Freeman-Resch // 2013-01-05 17:49:00 // //
  • El miedo dirige nuestras vidas. No el amor, queremos dar y recibir en forma recíproca. Cuando dejas de tener miedo, tomas control de tu vida y hasta lo imperfecto te parece que esta bien por que solo es tu punto de vista y tu verdad. Amor lo recibimos de una planta por ejemplo del sol que nos calienta. Pero mi egoísmo no me permite verlo por que me concentró en el lado nagativo y ese miedo no me deja avanzar.

    Teresa Cuevas // 2013-01-05 17:48:15 // //
  • LOVE

    Rosa Rodriguez // 2013-01-05 17:41:44 // //
  • some people may not know how to share the depths of love that others do - ALL LOVE is grand and letting go of how it should look it our deal... love for loving sake - not our exceptions of how we should be loved by another!

    Global Motions Net // 2013-01-05 17:40:37 // //
  • Ego must be shed to become truly free. Our strengths lies in our weakness and our weaknesses lie in our strength

    Terry Rae Downey // 2013-01-05 17:37:19 // //
  • I love your response, Deepak. You are the wise one.

    Amity Riha // 2013-01-05 17:36:53 // //
  • ah!......tuching!....:D

    Magda Peereboom // 2013-01-05 17:35:43 // //
  • So true...

    Monika Kolodziej-Lewandowska // 2013-01-05 17:35:34 // //
  • I had to have children and struggle to learn to be aware of others.

    Barbara Kyzer Janes // 2013-01-05 17:33:21 // //
  • Its all abt the Karma factors, who, when, how, a human being comes in ur life, gives u happiness or pain, despite ur best efforts or least efforts, bt the best part is all those blocks get released, u don't lose anything, u gain back momentum of good luck!

    Ayan Kumar Banerjee // 2013-01-05 17:32:39 // //
  • I can certainly relate!

    Jules Celik // 2013-01-05 17:31:47 // //
  • You love not because you expect somebody to love you back. You love for the feeling itself. Love exists because it simple does, it is not a matter of give and take. Whoever thinks of it that way can never be free to experience the magic of love itself...

    Harroula Mathiopoulou // 2013-01-05 17:28:31 // //
  • great point wish I know the answer ... I know one thing this experience can cause one to put up walls ... get tired of giving and not getting much back sometimes

    Cheryl Dawn H // 2013-01-05 17:28:18 // //
  • people are selfish and say i love you unconditionally like and dont mean it only animals have unconditional love and talk is cheap

    Bronagh Fitzgerald // 2013-01-05 17:27:14 // //
  • Beautiful answer!

    Amber Lapshinoff // 2013-01-05 17:26:42 // //
  • One day, our advance photography teacher,Jon Joosten told us: Never,ever give a free photo session,or free photos of yours to anybody...They will take it as: If it is free,it is cheap! As a person,I am a giver and I realized, that if I give something away,it is not appreciated to its full value! So sad...But,I keep giving, because it gives me pleasure...So what!...maybe some day people will see the light!

    Huguette Clement // 2013-01-05 17:25:10 // //
  • The reason for lavishing love on someone needs to be examined here as well. When you give love freely, it typically comes right back to you. Some reasons why it doesn't: the other person senses that the love is not genuine; there is simply no chemistry between the two; the "loved" person simply gives back love in a different way ... maybe they pray for you or thank you simply by being your friend. Maybe that's the best they know how. What I would examine is why I would need for someone to give back love in the same way and to the same degree that I gave it. I would have to question that kind of "love," really. Is it love or is it need of recognition? And whose EGO is really involved?

    All Ways Inspired // 2013-01-05 17:22:22 // //
  • Perfeito!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Carla Salete Corrêa // 2013-01-05 17:22:13 // //
  • well said(:

    Cindy Higareda // 2013-01-05 17:20:30 // //
  • @lexi....... Chromesones have nothing to do with why you suffer from anxiety. I am a psych - your body has been conditionec over time and now you are craving synthetic drugs to ovrcome your fears. All anxiety comes from control - fear which when you peel back the onion is about love for the self. Drugs will have side effects eventualy leading to a breakdown in the body system & something new manifesting. Lexi people get over anxiety all the time... Condtioned responses are as if you have coiled string tightly bound round and round - it now needs to be unbound one at a time... No one is born with anxiety you learnt it, and what can be learnt can be unlearnt like a smoker... Good luck this is a journey from fear to love. Deepaks teachings and meditation will only assist you along your journey of empowerment moving you from the efect side of things to to cause so you can make powerful changes...

    David Wright // 2013-01-05 17:19:34 // //
  • Caroline Svennerstedt read this :)

    Ester Kohn // 2013-01-05 17:18:51 // //
  • love amma

    Arae Bridgess // 2013-01-05 17:18:34 // //
  • Thank you, Deepak...

    Beth Rypkema // 2013-01-05 17:17:13 // //
  • So true

    Bharati Bundhoo // 2013-01-05 17:12:57 // //
  • In my case I have had panic attacks and anxiety for 10 years and have gone through much fear and fear of fear. I have also endured much bravery due to my fears. With a lot of effort I find that sometimes my fear it self, starts to ease up. I'm not letting go of my fear my fear is letting go a bit,of me at a time. As of nature of the condition I know it can come back at any time and that is when I let go of the fear. My heart has come to know I still have some control and some one or thing is always present.

    Eric Adam Freeman // 2013-01-05 17:12:26 // //
  • I dont know why that is but sometimes the people that love and respect you the most assume it is understood and does not need to be communicated outwardly as much.

    Linda Kay Johnson JD // 2013-01-05 17:10:02 // //
  • Please answer me ! ..... Do we still have to keep these people close to us and just to try to alter our own way of giving love ?! .... Thank you

    Azita Taghizadeh CaraDonna // 2013-01-05 17:08:51 // //
  • Loves Deepak..

    Ikbal Sen // 2013-01-05 17:07:43 // //
  • i needed that too!!! Thank you for letting me see it from another perspective.

    Ivet Navarro // 2013-01-05 17:07:12 // //
  • Thank you, I needed to hear that xxx

    Caroline O Sullivan // 2013-01-05 17:06:13 // //
  • thanks i needed that!

    Shelley Perez // 2013-01-05 17:02:30 // //
  • People can only love you the way they know how.

    Joyce Clark // 2013-01-05 17:01:58 // //
  • This is beautiful and very true! Thank you for making my heart a little lighter today :-)

    Kim Desroches // 2013-01-05 17:01:54 // //
  • You must feel you deserve love in order to accept it and recognize it.

    Janyss Ward // 2013-01-05 16:59:34 // //
  • So Deepakji, how can one help the loved one in letting go of the fear in their hearts??

    Usha Mehta // 2013-01-05 16:57:12 // //
  • excelente doctor chopra.............el miedo

    Dan Anderson Simon // 2013-01-05 16:53:02 // //
  • the right quote at the right time, thank you <3

    An Ja // 2013-01-05 16:52:13 // //
  • I have also wondered how people who come warm upbringings can only generate love for themselves. Now I know.It is fear that keeps them from loving others.Good question and great answer!

    sstarrynite // 2013-01-05 16:52:06 // //
  • ufff que fuerteeee

    Giannina Tafur // 2013-01-05 16:49:53 // //
  • You hit it on the nail....when my newborn daughter passed away in July. I blamed myself. I felt she died as punishment for all the wrong and selfish decisions I had made throughout my life. Ego was always a big part of how I lived my life. I always felt if I had a big "ego" I would achieve/have great things. After my Sofia passed, it changed me. Ego and selfishness are no longer the first emotions I use at work or my everyday life. I had never felt so much peace and love as I do now. Thank you.

    Mariana Gonzalez De Leon // 2013-01-05 16:48:01 // //
  • Tis the best friendship that asks nothing, and gets it. --e.e.cummings I have tried to live by this rule. I give with love and support, and expect nothing in return. If I receive love back it is the greatest of gifts because it was unexpected and driven purely by them. I have also found that sometimes it takes years for people to realize these things.

    Debra Douville // 2013-01-05 16:46:27 // //
  • To give love is not an act for the other person but for yourself. To expect a return is unnecessary but is welcomed

    Nickolas Rudometkin // 2013-01-05 16:46:27 // //
  • Wise words

    Sayantan Bob Mitra // 2013-01-05 16:46:25 // //
  • Amorcito !!!!!

    Martha Sacoto-Navia // 2013-01-05 16:46:20 // //
  • You could also be repeating the same experience of a relative without you even knowing. Out of loyalty to the family we repeat happy and stories, it is called entanglement in Family Systemic Constellation. Think of family member, in your generation or previous one, dead or alive. If you notice you 'following' someone ask in a meditation for blessings to do things different

    Zureya Queipo Meneghini // 2013-01-05 16:45:23 // //
  • People show love in many different ways; some of which may go unrecognized by the recipient. Have you thought of that possibility?

    Maria Tringali DeSimone // 2013-01-05 16:41:56 // //
  • Many thanks to you. I read to much books olso of you. And today about selfish and ego . Many people think that money is everything. Maybe GOD for them. But not for me.

    Soemintradebie Gajadin // 2013-01-05 16:40:53 // //
  • Once you have allowed yourself to give/love unconditionally-- with no agenda, you will have a sense of peace that you have never known before.

    Audrey Kurlan-Marcy // 2013-01-05 16:40:40 // //
  • Brilliant :D!

    Nicolas David // 2013-01-05 16:38:32 // //
  • I don't think love has anything to do with it .. or ego for that matter; I believe everyone is born with a certain set of chromesones, or what ever you want to call the " chemistry of the brain", and they can't change who, what, when, where or anything they would like to, to be what we (normal), would like for them to be ! That's why we have so many chemicals that alter brain chemistry, and for the good of the majority, because there are so many people out there that are "fucked up" ... I happen to be one of them... if it weren't for my monthly prescription of my "anti-anxiety" medication, I would be a total MESS ! this didn't just happen... it took approx. 44 yrs to manifest itself.. I have a lot of compassion for people with, what we now know as CHEMICAL IMBALANCES... the neurons in the brain just don't behave as we think or need them to... just my opinion... I love you and respect you tremendously... but you are only human as well and don't have ALL the answers either ... take care !

    Lexi Margaret // 2013-01-05 16:38:07 // //
  • Thank you, after years of always showing love and support to certain "friends", lately I've been questioning if I have read too much into our friendship because I've felt it wasn't the same from them. I understand now. Peace.

    Leslee Dinnall // 2013-01-05 16:37:33 // //
  • It is not love to give to another and then keep an account of what comes back. Sorry.

    Jim Perkins // 2013-01-05 16:37:20 // //
  • Y el espiritu?

    Ana Eloisa Corella // 2013-01-05 16:35:25 // //
  • Thank you.

    Elena Morton // 2013-01-05 16:35:06 // //
  • U havent given me any/??? Its cause were human,and people can hurt others anytime they feel like it,even if u gave them the moon.

    Mindy Lynn Rolfe // 2013-01-05 16:34:44 // //
  • Surrendering or letting go most think they are losing something but it is quite the opposit!

    Karen Costello Cionci // 2013-01-05 16:34:27 // //
  • How can i share this???

    Adriane Ragan // 2013-01-05 16:34:04 // //
  • Thank you for bringing this question today of all days... I needed to read this. Namaste

    Gioconda Tillette de Clermont-Tonnerre // 2013-01-05 16:33:53 // //
  • si es realmente cierto!!!.

    Linda Rosas Arellano // 2013-01-05 16:33:53 // //
  • I know what its like to give so much love and that one still doesn't know how to show the same, we are together but his so called love is not as expressive as mine.

    Liliana Maria Pulgarin // 2013-01-05 16:33:27 // //
  • Very Well Put Deepak!! As Always! Thank you for sharing.

    Elizabeth Anne // 2013-01-05 16:32:51 // //
  • I agree I'm going through that right know and telling my self it's not Me but its still hard and hurts and makes me alone but got to pick my head up and go forward ;>) happy days happy days;>)

    René Gonzalez Lopez // 2013-01-05 16:31:47 // //
  • Imagine what we can do and become without the recklessness of the EGO.

    Lloyd D. Mitchell // 2013-01-05 16:30:56 // //
  • Gracias

    E Pilar Campos E // 2013-01-05 16:30:43 // //
  • Very well said Deepak !

    Akber Wali // 2013-01-05 16:30:09 // //
  • Your messages keep me moving forward.....

    Kathleen Tappy // 2013-01-05 16:29:00 // //
  • I love the way you think and reason with things and life!

    Zella Scott Haesche // 2013-01-05 16:28:09 // //
  • So true, thank you..

    Lena Stekol // 2013-01-05 16:28:07 // //
  • Ego is a bitch, the more spiritual, more soul, the less ego.

    Alexander Taylor // 2013-01-05 16:27:22 // //
  • So true.

    Patricia Rojas // 2013-01-05 16:27:02 // //
  • those are ALL emotions and that is what we not are, we are LOVE but still have emotions and have to let them go . . .

    Sandra Weber // 2013-01-05 16:24:49 // //
  • Thank you for your wisdom, namaste.....

    Lisa Quarry- Butson // 2013-01-05 16:23:17 // //
  • Sorry about your loss! :(

    Emma Dammann // 2013-01-05 16:22:06 // //
  • Wow. Well stated.

    Samantha Chene // 2013-01-05 16:21:44 // //
  • Thanks for answering this question. It has helped me enormously today to understand a situation in my life. I did not realise what the question was I needed to get the answer to until I saw this today.

    sherbert blue // 2013-01-05 16:21:27 // //
  • Always for love

    Mira Eliar // 2013-01-05 16:20:22 // //
  • A friend of mine just commited suicide on December 31st regardless of being loved by many many people including me....they say suicide is a completely a selfish act....I do not judge him but I do beleive the EGO somehow is our worst enemy when it comes to living pleantfully

    Roland Farmer // 2013-01-05 16:19:49 // //
  • Thank You D .. The Teachings You Have Expressed Bring Me Closer Every Moment . :-)

    Colin Niloc // 2013-01-05 16:19:15 // //
  • Perfectly said

    Zulaika Davison // 2013-01-05 16:18:28 // //
  • Thank you

    Missy Moran // 2013-01-05 16:17:34 // //
  • Excellent....thank you

    Jochen Knewitz // 2013-01-05 16:15:48 // //
  • So true.

    Tiffany Antionette Kincaid // 2013-01-05 16:15:39 // //
  • What a great response..ego is "edging God out" then there is no love to give

    Euna Mwaura // 2013-01-05 16:15:35 // //
  • Very well said Deepak !

    Danny Mclaughlin // 2013-01-05 16:14:44 // //
  • Also do not expect in return- you gave you gave period...thatis our return in itself the fact we got pleasure out of loving people. Enough

    Indrani Kodali // 2013-01-05 16:14:25 // //
  • explains a great deal.. thanks!

    Veronica Campbell // 2013-01-05 16:14:21 // //
  • Love can not be measured!

    Melindareneta Mel // 2013-01-05 16:13:51 // //
  • Some people are like plants .. you really need to know the species. Knowing the species will make a difference to "take care". But "knowing" yourself, (that old story) "Man know yourself" bla, bla .. can help you "learn" to drop the act of giving. . When you give something, it is no longer yours .. Perhaps, no hesitation "back" to give the act. Not the way we expect ... the act of giving, is like a seed planted, which may in time succeed. But .. you really need to know all about it (epecie) know or learn to care. And then, it will recognize the process and understand the act called give and take. "Giving is the privilege of" being "in the hands of the giver" (Dr.Celso Charuri) I think that's it! Sorry my english Cassia Hatida

    Melindareneta Mel // 2013-01-05 16:13:38 // //
  • Whoa.

    Linda Lucia Valdez // 2013-01-05 16:12:44 // //
  • Like!

    Ana Vivero Megias // 2013-01-05 16:12:29 // //
  • The security of the relationship- kids for example may not reciprocate equally as they know it s a secure relationship and parents will always love them regardless-

    Indrani Kodali // 2013-01-05 16:11:52 // //
  • "Able to let go of in their hearts," individually and collectively. We have hearts attached to our own that live within us, god and anti-god behaviors attached to our own unconscious "selves." If there is god then there are gods energy resouces.energy resources.

    Susan Shepler // 2013-01-05 16:11:44 // //
  • Very, very smart!

    Japji Keating // 2013-01-05 16:10:54 // //
  • Dude? You Rock!

    Timothy Owens // 2013-01-05 16:09:56 // //
  • Great response to a good question <3

    Jen Hoodspith // 2013-01-05 16:09:36 // //
  • "Amen" is what religious morons say when they know that they are on the opposite side of truth.

    Bil Zen // 2013-01-05 16:09:07 // //
  • thank you

    Shery Ahmadi // 2013-01-05 16:08:15 // //
  • So true. Beautiful response. TY ❤

    Anne Marie Perrault // 2013-01-05 16:08:10 // //
  • "Let your heart and mind be open and your soul be present, for your mind may not know what your heart and soul are missing." ♥ ~ Tracey von Ott

    Tracey von Ott // 2013-01-05 16:06:24 // //
  • What a fantastic answer!

    Susana Baptista // 2013-01-05 16:06:02 // //
  • Maktub - so it is written :-)

    Heidy Müller // 2013-01-05 16:05:56 // //
  • Deeppak, We want to thank you, for all you do for us here in the United States...But the woman in your home country of India, need you really bad.. The woman in India, are all alone..The police will not help them and their is a huge problem with men gang raping the woman & beating them to death and treating them like they are worthless... These woman could use some tools on how to cope with the situation they are facing right now as i speak...The woman are having to get together and go out into the night to try & save other woman who are being gang raped & abused by the men in India.. I'm sure we would not mind if you were gone for a while to take care of the woman of your country..You could always bring your computer with you to continue your posts on facebook...The woman need you a clam decent man with words of wisdom & the tools they need to get through what they are dealing with...

    Betty Ann Hancin // 2013-01-05 16:05:23 // //
  • interesting! Thanks!

    Anne Sturgill // 2013-01-05 16:04:19 // //
  • I think I might have wrote that question myself LOL

    Michelle James // 2013-01-05 16:03:58 // //
  • Fear of?

    Barbara Cerda // 2013-01-05 16:03:48 // //
  • woww so true

    Michal Cohen // 2013-01-05 16:03:06 // //
  • Amen!

    Adele Torres // 2013-01-05 16:02:51 // //
  • Bil, "Amen" refers to "truth" rather than the ending of a religious prayer.

    Frank Snopek // 2013-01-05 16:02:27 // //
  • I notice that many people, especially in our United States are unable to process normally because they suffer from pharmacuetical chemical imbalances. I feel so much disconnect because of this and the only way that I am able to continue serving from my whole-heart is to understand this and have compassion ~ I have faith that many leaders ~ healers are listening and are creating more healing centers ~ thank you Sir each and everyday ~ O:) ~

    Lori Nadler-Armstrong // 2013-01-05 16:02:15 // //
  • Ignorance is a Bliss.

    Kami Fereidooni // 2013-01-05 16:00:22 // //
  • I totally love him..he has opened up a dismal existing lifestyle... im sending his info to a dear friend who is lost....

    Kimberly MzReal Jones // 2013-01-05 16:00:20 // //
  • Never stop giving love. You never know...your love may be the only thing keeping some people going, whether you know it or not. The giving is what sets your heart free. :-) <3

    Ellen McLeod // 2013-01-05 16:00:04 // //
  • Brilliant!! There it us in a nut shell...ThankYou xo

    Nancy Graham Jensen // 2013-01-05 16:00:01 // //
  • Sometimes people are just not genuine, be kind anyway. You take care of you and they take care of themselves. Love them anyway unless you feel you are being taken advantage of then ask the person do you like me? Or are you taking advantage of me, cause I ain't wasting my time anymore on this relationship cause it has outgrown itself and I am moving on. Its that easy, I believe people have a hard time telling people the truth and in that over time creates a bridge, cause they do not want to hurt your feelings when the opposite is really the truth people need to hear the sordid truth as not to be enabled to continue thinking for 20 years that your behavior is great to them when the whole time they may have been thinking something totally opposite that freaks you out. THAT IS THEIR PROBLEM FOR NOT BEING HONEST.

    Cyndie Seibel Mathers // 2013-01-05 15:59:29 // //
  • I love to think that LOVE is the cake you can have and eat too! Even when you give it all away -you still have it all to give! Xo

    Susan Montez // 2013-01-05 15:59:06 // //
  • All of you idiots that are saying "Amen" to the things that Deepak says, are stupid.... Deepak doesnt believe in your god.

    Bil Zen // 2013-01-05 15:58:19 // //
  • I believe it has to do with fear and sometimes, jealousy. Some folks simply do not make the effort, or take the chance to give back love freely. It takes courage and can be scary for some folks. You have to be brave to open yourself up so completely. I'm feeling pretty brave right now! Thank you for your honest insight. Tamara J.

    Tamara Hufford-Wong // 2013-01-05 15:58:15 // //
  • Fear is the opposite of love.

    Renda Downey // 2013-01-05 15:57:48 // //
  • MOST people in my life are pure Love and I LOVE the essence of most people in general!! i do have one relative who over the past seven years has deliberately tried to berate, humiliate, demean and minimize my being and stand within our family. I have forgiven, forgotten, turned (all four) cheeks and her malice grows daily!! i am sad for her soul, she lies constantly, and is malicious and evil! this is NOT a child but a woman of almost 70! she doesn't trust anyone, is just downright mean. She has isolated any family or friends and hatred is in her essence. I have shared Many Awakenings messages in an attempt to open her eyes to other things, she just mocks me and tells everyone she doesn't trust me, no one is that nice or understanding (she says) i lost my dad at 10, i learned the value of human life VERY YOUNG!!! i AM that kind and understanding and I've chosen to surround myself with people thay are of like heart. pray for her

    Carol Castaldo Tardibuono // 2013-01-05 15:57:21 // //
  • I've always heard that one shouldn't expect anything in return from the person you have given to, that way there is no disappointment. What you do get in return comes from within. Could it be that people who have yet to overcome their own ego still have much to learn? I know from personal experience that although I understand the need to let go of fear, it is still one of the hardest things to do. For me... love really does conquer a lot of those fears.

    Mark Good // 2013-01-05 15:56:39 // //
  • We love you for all you amazing knowledge you share with us, we are so honored to have people like you!!!

    Ivonne Rojas Rosas // 2013-01-05 15:55:47 // //
  • I know now that my partner of almost 40 years ,whom I just divorced,was never able to let go the fear in his hearrt.How beautifully you can say it.It took me a lifetime to realize this fact!!

    Mieke Van Mulders // 2013-01-05 15:55:31 // //
  • I say dont put your answers on the captions Teacher Deepak, let the public answer.

    Erick D Castillo // 2013-01-05 15:55:15 // //
  • I always wondered this myself..thanks

    Stephanie Nneamaka Obialisi // 2013-01-05 15:55:13 // //
  • Lovely. This applies to every relationship. I used to read books and posts about love and its reciprocation and apply it only to romantic relationships. I've recently had some issues with a family member and have tried to apply these life lessons to our relationship as well. It is so easy to take family love for granted-thinking that just because they are family they have to love and support you ...not always the case. Thank you for this. I needed it

    Janice Slawek // 2013-01-05 15:55:10 // //
  • *This

    Katrina Vargas // 2013-01-05 15:54:17 // //
  • Thank you for thiz.

    Katrina Vargas // 2013-01-05 15:53:49 // //
  • Dont get ur ansewers one suggestion deepak plz join art of livinhg

    Rahul Raj // 2013-01-05 15:52:24 // //
  • Fear to reciprocate love is also transferred to the loving individual wanting to reciprocate that love back and I think when the fearful person is ready to receive it, shall it be so.

    Faenza Aitken // 2013-01-05 15:52:01 // //
  • people likes to be attached to their fear, I think some of them reather be in love with their fear instead with their freedom, due to their low self steem. So they don't actually do it purposely but, because they wouldn't know how to do it without it...otherwise they feel incomplete. The same way freedom set us free completely for us to be happy with fullfilness, they grab and hold onto their fear, because they think they are in company, it's like if that's a reason to live... we come from generations that were bad used to preach some thing bad is going to happens, this way there are people created to be always on the defensive side... we need to be very patient in order to prove the way this people think and live is abnormal... totally with no harmony at all... if, there was any harmony, they would not have to be so dark thoughtfull, would just let go and watch how life flows easilly on it's path...and instead of being depressed, anxious, or sad most of the time, they would be with a smile of gratitude on their faces, because that what happens whenever we are awere...

    Janaina Cavalcanti // 2013-01-05 15:51:50 // //
  • As always I "LOVE" the response Mr. Chopra gave!

    Dee Danzmchine // 2013-01-05 15:51:40 // //
  • Hermoso!!! gracias...

    Elizabeth Montenegro // 2013-01-05 15:51:32 // //
  • Beautifully said!

    Stephanie Lopez // 2013-01-05 15:50:44 // //
  • uncondirionally

    Anne Kitching // 2013-01-05 15:50:29 // //
  • Hello Mr. Chopra,

    Tamara Hufford-Wong // 2013-01-05 15:50:17 // //
  • Well you put yourself in a position of counselling unconditionakky

    Anne Kitching // 2013-01-05 15:50:11 // //
  • Baby, That's correct!

    Wine Oriadeoja // 2013-01-05 15:49:57 // //
  • Learned from one of the religious shows- "Have no expectations in return" and I have never been more happy after that. Try it Deepak ji. I have learned a lot from your site and shows as well ... Thanks a bunch for all u do....

    Aruna Chari Raghavan // 2013-01-05 15:49:51 // //
  • Just wrote about this kinda thing today! Too cool how suddenly Deepak is talking about it!

    Lee Bee // 2013-01-05 15:49:26 // //
  • i love you Deepak you are Amazing.

    Layla Nazar // 2013-01-05 15:49:23 // //
  • This share is perfect for me today ...

    Chantale Renaud // 2013-01-05 15:49:14 // //
  • I have done this with family for 27 years an now i have moved on an let it all go as this is the later years of MY LIFE im really over all of it now xmas did it for me.

    Gwen Christie // 2013-01-05 15:49:07 // //
  • I assume the position that people express as much love as they can in the moment, even if it isn't as much as they know how. Interestingly I never expect love specifically from certain people so much as I am certain of love in general.

    Cherries Jubilee // 2013-01-05 15:48:38 // //
  • I could write a library on this one. You are so right about the letting go part. Once i realized that I also had to let go of the notion that if I stick by them long enough they will change. Aloha...

    Lisa Shozuya // 2013-01-05 15:48:31 // //
  • Gracias máster

    Jorge Luis Calderon Reyes // 2013-01-05 15:48:17 // //
  • Lots of people believe by giving their all they will lose themselves if it were to end its fear based I have learned by giving your all if you are not in an equal relationship you will be able to move on knowing you tried your best there is no room for resentment or regret but you will be missed as your absence will be felt when you decide to take yourself out of an unhealthy relationship and you would have grown more in yourself stronger and wiser that will lead you to a better match that you could only have appreciated because of past experience good or bad Love yourself unconditionally

    Laura Mannino // 2013-01-05 15:47:29 // //
  • Thanks for clearing that up for me:-)

    At Walker // 2013-01-05 15:47:21 // //
  • Well said! I agree!!!

    Patricia Bouyoukas // 2013-01-05 15:47:08 // //
  • Thank you, I was looking for an answer to it !! <3

    Nadia Moulay // 2013-01-05 15:47:07 // //
  • I'm with Kaurina on this one. I do the same. All I know Jeanette Skeeters is someone getting your love is truly blessed. Love and kindness is never a waste of our time and efforts for that person can never say they were not loved ;) and that's a lovely gift to give. Xo. I love you xo

    Kim Skeeters // 2013-01-05 15:46:44 // //
  • So true <3

    Jennifer Stephenson // 2013-01-05 15:46:39 // //
  • I have found that it's easier to love them to understand.. so just love them

    Santi Calvo // 2013-01-05 15:46:19 // //
  • Love ... feeling strong and pure!!

    Marcelo Amaral // 2013-01-05 15:45:36 // //
  • How so very true that is Deepak <3

    Vyxies Moi // 2013-01-05 15:45:35 // //
  • ❤!!!

    Todd Mayes // 2013-01-05 15:45:14 // //
  • deepak, you are a con and a fraud. your words are empty and you offer no greater understanding of age old questions humanity asks and continues to ask. way to profit off it all. For that I respect you a little bit, but only a little bit.

    Jonathan Thunderchunk // 2013-01-05 15:45:13 // //
  • Keep giving love....People who receive love, know that somebody is reaching out. Fear can cripple a person so that each time they attempt to reciprocate, they freeze with fear. Practice reaching out at the right time of day or night, I am optimistic for you.

    Margaret Hamilton // 2013-01-05 15:44:36 // //
  • MAN DID I NEED THAT! THANK YOU GOD! OH MAN, I AM SOOOO HAPPY YOU WROTE THIS DEEPAK. I HAVE BEEN PLAGUED WITH WONDERING WHY that has happened to me. It has hurt me so much I cant even tell you. Thank you over and over for sharing this.

    Mary Haas // 2013-01-05 15:44:11 // //
  • This is a really great explanation. It helps me be at peace with how some relationships have turned out. Thanks!

    Kamala Viakara // 2013-01-05 15:43:50 // //
  • True. When you're confident with who you are and feel peace within its easy to give of yourself with no expectations.

    Ramona Cotto Campanella // 2013-01-05 15:43:45 // //
  • I have always tried to sow love, and those times I was not reciprocated I suffered, but I remain of the view that it is better to give love to the next without losing the hope that one day these people can change for the better in their lives. Thank you Dr. Chopra <3

    Rosy Arlia // 2013-01-05 15:43:30 // //
  • Te felicito por tu buena elección de lecturas, Chopra es una constante.

    Rafael Cabrera Manríquez // 2013-01-05 15:43:12 // //
  • I guess sometimes karma can be about lerning to say no...

    Viden AV Magt // 2013-01-05 15:43:06 // //
  • I think at times when I have given so much to people and it was not reciprocated, it definitely hurts, but then I see I was giving with the expectation that they would in turn make me happy. But only I can make myself happy. Only I am responsible for loving and taking care of myself. If I feel like caring for others, i will do it unconditionally whether or not they return anything.

    Kaurina Danu // 2013-01-05 15:42:42 // //
  • Amen to that!

    Los Zepeda // 2013-01-05 15:42:36 // //
  • Wow...I needed that. :-)

    Ted Kielley II-e // 2013-01-05 15:42:22 // //
  • Mucho Love!

    Isaura Jimenez // 2013-01-05 15:42:12 // //
  • Thank you Deepak :) I needed this.

    Jakhi Ronald // 2013-01-05 15:42:10 // //
  • we work on Deepak ;) love love love

    Elisa Cosmic Mind // 2013-01-05 15:41:23 // //
  • <3

    Darla Barone Haupt // 2013-01-05 15:41:10 // //
  • Purely true. This is the only way to live Ego Free. Not caring about "Looking Good" You can look good when you are dead.

    Neferteri Shepherd // 2013-01-05 15:40:38 // //
  • You right!!!

    Nini's Driftwood Art // 2013-01-05 15:40:22 // //
  • Give this very important issue is much better to wait for nothing to.no. like you, friendship, is not only very love.good. intelligence and light.

    Mariann Boda Toth // 2013-01-05 15:40:07 // //
  • Are you really serious with your answer, how can one who is as intellegent come up with such tripe.

    Phil England // 2013-01-05 15:40:06 // //
  • But arent relationships about clearing Karma? That s teh only way anyway we clear Karma! So our attitude is to be accepting and not judging to how others reciprocate us because somewhere we are clearing Karma and for the least we always need to be the love we can be!

    Genny Ghanimeh // 2013-01-05 15:39:33 // //
  • they still have many lessons to learn

    Liz Rees Le Roux // 2013-01-05 15:39:29 // //
  • Let go of the blood sucking energy draining vampires that may surround you. They are negative, and they are attracted to you because of your beautiful light, but they are blind to all else, because they come to you as you have something they lack and desire. Be happy with yourself, your body, your soul, your mind and your love.. All you have is yourself.

    Mumtaz Sophia Khan // 2013-01-05 15:39:19 // //
  • Has lo bien y veas a quien.

    Jose Castaneda // 2013-01-05 15:38:33 // //
  • Very true. Especially if they are a young incarnated soul then are not ready for love, as it is too much for them, that they become emotional insecure within themselves and self absorbed. Never growing from teenage hood into adulthood!...reality is too much for them to take responsibly for their own actions!

    Anne-Marie Jane // 2013-01-05 15:38:33 // //
  • grt

    Sunatra Mala Goundar // 2013-01-05 15:38:26 // //
  • Help me to understand other.

    Minnie Rose // 2013-01-05 15:38:15 // //
  • I've always believed that how secure a particular individual is with themselves may be directly proportionate to the extension of their outward affection.

    Dawn Papagoda Russell // 2013-01-05 15:37:52 // //
  • Write a comment...

    Leslie Hughes // 2013-01-05 15:37:47 // //
  • Wendy Garritano, I thought you would appreciate this.

    Brandy Butler // 2013-01-05 15:37:28 // //
  • Heather Guay // 2013-01-05 15:36:55 // //
  • beautiful

    Andrea Land // 2013-01-05 15:36:55 // //
  • SO TRUE!!!

    Georgi Georgiev // 2013-01-05 15:36:51 // //
  • Think love and feel love www.healthycrowdfunder.wordpress.com

    Antonio Ariston Arias // 2013-01-05 15:36:46 // //
  • This explains a lot to me. What makes a person so fearful though? Even to kindness?

    Leslie Hughes // 2013-01-05 15:36:32 // //
  • Thank you! Right now I am struggling with this same question. Thank you for the timely answer. I will worry no more!

    Savanna Pietrantonio // 2013-01-05 15:36:29 // //
  • <3 more. No regrets. Let go.

    Gina Salvador // 2013-01-05 15:36:25 // //
  • how true.

    Madaleine Brookes // 2013-01-05 15:36:04 // //
  • Fear is a killer of relationships...and fear itself is hard to comprehend

    Gina Marie // 2013-01-05 15:35:27 // //
  • Let go of the fear of love ??

    Marie Annick Poignonnec // 2013-01-05 15:35:21 // //
  • What makes a person happy with another is truly the question. It is not how much we give sometimes. It is more if the person is interested in an exchange of love wherein the question lies. Gut feelings are just that.

    Janine Wojciechowski Kaczynski // 2013-01-05 15:35:04 // //
  • Sadly, that is sometimes human nature, good sir. There are people who will appreciate your kindness and others who are just takers and never appreciate or give back.

    Nana Sekyi // 2013-01-05 15:34:39 // //
  • Rossanna Wagenaar // 2013-01-05 15:34:31 // //
  • So true....

    Flashgirl Gordon // 2013-01-05 15:34:22 // //
  • 250 likes in 5 mins - your the man Deepak xx

    Danielle Webley-Couch // 2013-01-05 15:34:17 // //
  • i can tell you how i feel about you....me....O.k. breathing in self awareness...who am i...? to give more than i receive....the story of being good...is a curse for some....trying to live a life with out intimacy can make life not worth living...i did not mean to do this...i do not hate the person who lied because..i know i was lost..and he did tell me everything..i was not listening..because of my ego..telling me what to do..not my heart...i should have waited for intimate love..instead i went with the man who seemed to love me..i knew..i could not touch him the way i wanted to..so it made my life a living hell..that i take responseabilty for...no one is to blame..for my self hate..but me. i guess i hated myself....i look at my pictures and i can not understand..how i could treat me so bad...i am beautyful...my family is beautiful..thay have always loved me..i did not love me..thats the big problem..self esteem.

    Shelley Chagnon // 2013-01-05 15:34:16 // //
  • Amen brother!!!

    Rhonda Dove // 2013-01-05 15:34:11 // //
  • love and emotions are fundamentals in our lives without them ...................... our hearts and our minds are like a black hole in space.

    Wahid Reve Zaidi // 2013-01-05 15:33:48 // //
  • Cannot understand how people cannot reach out when they know you need help !!! who cannot thank you, or like something of yours ,or call just call to say how are you !!! alone again and why due i still care ?there has been no real communication /why due i care ?to see the truth i guess ..: (

    Lori Kemper // 2013-01-05 15:33:37 // //
  • Thansk dear Deepak-namaste

    Barbara Tomczak // 2013-01-05 15:33:30 // //
  • Thanks,what can be done if no matter what person has tried, fear is still there?

    Nilüfer Gökmen // 2013-01-05 15:33:07 // //
  • Love to you!

    Rita Middleton Baugh Nunley // 2013-01-05 15:32:54 // //
  • 100% true, Fear the only thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve

    Andrei Vasiliu // 2013-01-05 15:32:53 // //
  • Love is not expected to receive = giving

    Barbara Tomczak // 2013-01-05 15:32:44 // //
  • The ego shades the light of the heart x and as we are all enlightened warriors to love ourselves more than the ego is the answer x wether it be our own or others x

    Vanessa Carter // 2013-01-05 15:32:06 // //
  • Amen!....some people are unable to fully love, because they don't love themselves.

    Georgette Silver // 2013-01-05 15:31:59 // //
  • que ser maravilloso que es Ud Chopra.. ☼ <3 ♫ ♪

    Omar Bentancor // 2013-01-05 15:31:31 // //
  • Pienso que todo esta bien en mi mundo y que todo llega en elorden, lugar y momento adecuado, lo que importa es conocer nuestra capacidad de amar eso ya genera un bienestar

    Dory Farinha // 2013-01-05 15:31:30 // //
  • You have done Beautiful work look ahead not behind;) The beautiful Karma!

    Robin Aiello // 2013-01-05 15:31:30 // //
  • Yes, Wisdom is always simple. Behind fear is pain and behind pain is the truth of why people don't Love themself enough to let of their fear to move to the next level.

    Cassandra Steele // 2013-01-05 15:31:27 // //
  • I think he means the self. The one doing the loving, NOT having let go of fear is his/her own heart, still does not recieve the love he/she puts out there cause of his/her own fear. Not the fear of the one who is not reciprocating. I dont think deepak ever talks about the other. It is about the self. No?

    Christopher Alexander // 2013-01-05 15:31:26 // //
  • thanks for this comment, it makes better understanding

    VitaLiz Pálinka // 2013-01-05 15:30:56 // //
  • wow, dragule cand am tradus ”Perfect Health” te-am considerat genial.. dar ce postezi e.. far away..Cu drag,

    Mirica Anca-Daniela // 2013-01-05 15:30:43 // //
  • As Krishna would tell Arjuna: "Don't be attached to the fruits of action". Love as a verb is its own reward...

    Arthur Minassian // 2013-01-05 15:30:42 // //
  • i can totally agree with this. so true to what everyone is also stating on top

    Walter Marano // 2013-01-05 15:30:26 // //
  • Ooooooooo this is powerful..

    Sophia Domeville // 2013-01-05 15:30:08 // //
  • there are givers and takers, you choose?

    Deb Maylath // 2013-01-05 15:30:08 // //
  • I been struggled from fear of being abandoned

    Willson Tan // 2013-01-05 15:29:58 // //
  • I believe that when I am truly giving love to another, I am doing it for myself so I can be a truly loving person. If I am looking for love to be reciprocated, I am not showing true love for another. I am coming from my fear-based self that believes in lack and does not see the divine love I am always receiving.

    Dawn Heynen Murphy // 2013-01-05 15:29:45 // //
  • some always want handouts, that is how they exist, they dont change. there are other types of people, go to them?

    Deb Maylath // 2013-01-05 15:29:45 // //
  • Thank you :) <3

    Heather Waugh // 2013-01-05 15:29:45 // //
  • Cant be too nice to people who dont understand

    Angie Est // 2013-01-05 15:29:21 // //
  • There is no god, everyone that mentions god, as factual, is an embarassment. the feeling that we call "love" is a chemical illusion... thats why often 2 people dont feel it to the same degree.... REAL love is caring about the welfare of another person... are they warm, are they hungry.. etc...

    Bil Zen // 2013-01-05 15:29:20 // //
  • I agree also. Gratitude Dr Chopra

    Fernanda Munhoz Dos Santos // 2013-01-05 15:29:18 // //
  • This is so true and had made me suffered so much. I have done it and been paid by karma

    Evangeline Merced // 2013-01-05 15:29:10 // //
  • This is it !

    Patrick Villeneuve // 2013-01-05 15:29:08 // //
  • The problem is, if you only had people in your life - to whom you allways gave and never recieved. That can kill the soul..

    Viden AV Magt // 2013-01-05 15:29:08 // //
  • it is a personal issue for some, lack of their own self confidence and security, not thinking better of themselves. dont give more if you dont get back, walk away, to someone who appreciates you, or you are just being used?

    Deb Maylath // 2013-01-05 15:28:42 // //
  • I agree it is the only thing i let go off is my fears n now I LIVE with all tht others still fear

    Margarita Margie Saez // 2013-01-05 15:28:34 // //
  • It doesn't matter - some can't, some won't. Trust yourself and just maybe it will change someone's ability to be loved.

    Gloria Cestero-Hurd // 2013-01-05 15:28:20 // //
  • Tnx

    Garima Bhanwra // 2013-01-05 15:28:12 // //
  • that makes sense. no wonder the ones who need it most are so desperately running away from it.

    Angie Lindenau // 2013-01-05 15:28:01 // //
  • yes we all need to forgive and open our hearts through forgiving others and ourselves....also learn to end relationships too...unhealthy or unreal relationships in our minds can keep us from moving on to receive real love...keep on loving though, it sets us free

    Debra Elaine Milligan // 2013-01-05 15:27:57 // //
  • <3

    Стоянка Божкова // 2013-01-05 15:27:40 // //
  • Thanks, Dr. Chopra.

    Rebecca Ann // 2013-01-05 15:27:30 // //
  • Egocentrism never a wise move x Deepak

    Stephanie Greenaway Rogers // 2013-01-05 15:27:23 // //
  • bem por aí!

    Soraya Amaral // 2013-01-05 15:27:22 // //
  • Peace

    Jamal Hardman // 2013-01-05 15:27:15 // //
  • If you can't understand, you can always just try to accept it. you cannot controll such things.

    Lon Sophie // 2013-01-05 15:27:11 // //
  • I agree. Fear.

    Christine Heimbecker Smialowski // 2013-01-05 15:27:02 // //
  • Everyone loves differently. And when we are in distress, we cannot give heathy love...hence...

    Karen Kianoush Imandel // 2013-01-05 15:26:57 // //
  • Profound and true ~ <3 ~

    Echo Chanel // 2013-01-05 15:26:54 // //
  • Deepak I'm so with you!!!

    Atasi Mukherjee // 2013-01-05 15:26:54 // //
  • Wow. I do't know the person who asked this but... It is a question that is in my heart RIGHT NOW. And it's been there before. The universe brings me this perspective from Deepak RIGHT NOW, as if having a conversation. Truly must pay attention to his advice on this. Thank you for posting this.

    Christopher Alexander // 2013-01-05 15:26:54 // //
  • I love you, Deepak.

    Jeannie Taylor // 2013-01-05 15:26:53 // //
  • indeed..amazing!

    Maria L Rangle // 2013-01-05 15:26:46 // //
  • agree.............thank you Deepak

    Jojo Philip // 2013-01-05 15:26:18 // //
  • <3

    Paula Alexandra Pinto // 2013-01-05 15:26:16 // //
  • Deepak Chopra can you please post your new years video again :) <3 Thank you

    Rachel Asha Ram // 2013-01-05 15:26:12 // //
  • Amazing! Much Love <3 to you, Deepak Chopra!

    Best Of-Cheyenne Wyoming // 2013-01-05 15:26:05 // //
  • Let it be, hari bol

    Moses Singleton // 2013-01-05 15:25:59 // //
  • I don't worry about the response to love. God always answers my needs.

    Kim Yarrell // 2013-01-05 15:25:58 // //
  • muy cierto, vencer el miedo es la felicidad plena

    Alexei Asfaduroff // 2013-01-05 15:25:44 // //
  • fear's the mind killer

    Justin Allen // 2013-01-05 15:25:35 // //
  • Amen to that - we are surrounded by egos - I need to stop taking this all so seriously and realise its about them and not me xx

    Danielle Webley-Couch // 2013-01-05 15:25:16 // //
  • I am a big fan of your writing sir

    Arnob Roy // 2013-01-05 15:25:08 // //
  • What makes people act with lesser love after receiving so much? For many it is fear and past experiences, never dealt with.

    Sharon Thomas Brown // 2013-01-05 15:25:08 // //
  • true...:)

    Diana Krota // 2013-01-05 15:24:55 // //
  • Wow. So wise

    Kim Graham // 2013-01-05 15:24:43 // //