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Ten Poems to Change Your Life

Ten Poems to Change Your Life
ABOUT THE BOOK: This is a dangerous book. Great poetry calls into question not less than everything. It dares us to break free from the safe strategies of the cautious mind. It opens us to pain...

GOD: A Story of Revelation (Hardcover)

GOD: A Story of Revelation (Hardcover)
“God is an empty term except through the revelations of all the saints, prophets, and mystics of history. They exist to plant the seeds of spirituality as a direct experience rather than a...

Brotherhood - by Deepak & Sanjiv Chopra (Hardcover)

Brotherhood - by Deepak & Sanjiv Chopra (Hardcover)
BROTHERHOOD Dharma, Destiny, and the American Dream DEEPAK & SANJIV CHOPRA   “BROTHERHOOD is an uplifting account of sibling affection and success, and of the promise and infinite...

Super Brain by Deepak Chopra, MD & Rudy Tanzi, MD (Hardcover)

Super Brain by Deepak Chopra, MD & Rudy Tanzi, MD (Hardcover)
Learn about Deepak Chopra and the Chopra Center's Super Brain dietary supplement - Ayurvedic Brain Support NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER Super Brain by Deepak Chopra, MD & Rudy...

NEW Spiritual Solutions by Deepak Chopra(Hardcover)

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Spiritual Solutions: Answers to Life's Greatest Challenges ( AUDIOBOOK Available )  "Great advice directly from the master on virtually any subject, it just doesn't get any better...

Soul of Leadership (Hardcover)

Soul of Leadership (Hardcover)
ABOUT THIS BOOK Leadership is the most crucial choice one can make—it is the decision to step out of darkness into the light.      Bestselling author and spiritual guide Deepak Chopra invites...

Book Of Secrets

Book Of Secrets
2005 Nautilus Book Award Grand Prize Winner! New York Times Best Seller! Every life is a book of secrets, ready to be opened. The secret of perfect love is found there, along with the secrets...

Joyful Wisdom

Joyful Wisdom
ABOUT THEBOOK: Yongey Mingyur is one of the most celebrated among the new generation of Tibetan meditation masters, whose teachings have touched people of all faiths around the world. His first...

Creating Sacred Space with Feng Shui

Creating Sacred Space with Feng Shui
ABOUT THE BOOK: Feng Shui is the ancient oriental art of enhancing and harmonizing the flow of energy in your surroundings.  Over the last twenty years, Karen Kingston has pioneered the study...

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January 03 2013

Becoming a Loner

Category:  Ask Deepak

Question:

Hello Deepak, I am 23, I left home seeking a new experience. But now I am becoming more of a loner than I have ever been. I feel uncomfortable with who I am, I look around, see all the confident people and I envy them. I am sinking and I am lost. The urge to leave everything behind is so strong that it scares me. I meditate, I pray, I read. nothing helps.

Response:

As one leaves home as a young adult, it is to some extent natural to go through a phase of feeling alone and scared as you face the world on your own for the first time. This is an important period where you begin to assess your areas of strength and areas where you still need to grow. In this stage, it is easy to look around you and assume that the busy people around you are all confident and know what they are doing. They don’t. Quite often they are as scared and lonely as you are, but have learned to mask it with a brave front. That is a mistake that you can still avoid. Instead of comparing yourself to the life you imagine others are living, let this natural introspective lead you to discover the core principles of your Being. Your current low self-esteem may make you feel like leaving everything behind, but if you begin to build a self from the inside out, you will always feel happy and secure wherever you are. If you feel like meditation, reading and prayer aren’t helping, then you are probably thrashing around too much emotionally to allow yourself to fully enter into those processes. Start at a more basic level. Get a journal and write all the good qualities you have. Also write the nice attributes others have noticed about you. Then write about what it is inside you that allowed those good qualities to come forth. List the ways you are uniquely suited to help others in big or small ways. Now think of the actions that bring you a deep sense of satisfaction and meaning. Continue adding and reworking the lists in your journal every day and you will start to distill your understanding of your core strengths to where you will believe in yourself enough to settle down and be able to get deeper insight through meditation and prayer.

The main thing to keep in mind is that this transition you are going through is normal, healthy and even necessary in becoming a mature adult. You’ll get through it and be better off for it.

Love,
Deepak

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  • I feel stuck in all areas of my life and I don`t seem to know what I am capable of. How do I know my worth?

    Giselle2175 // 2013-01-03 20:52:56 // //
  • I have gone through such dark periods before. I use them as opportunities to improve myself in preparation for a better future. try to use the quiet, alone time to work through your weaknesses in a healthy way. as you slowly improve, you begin attracting others. just don`t give up on yourself! xixo

    kathy // 2013-01-05 22:08:21 // //

 

 

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  • Wow. This really helps. I am an international student and I feel the same as this person who is asking from some advice. Deepak`s answer is simple, and yet powerful I believe. I am applying it for my personal life and will love myself more! Thanks Deepak!

    AHMAD ALSUMAIN // 2013-01-05 22:44:37 // //
  • I have gone through such dark periods before. I use them as opportunities to improve myself in preparation for a better future. try to use the quiet, alone time to work through your weaknesses in a healthy way. as you slowly improve, you begin attracting others. just don`t give up on yourself! xixo

    kathy // 2013-01-05 22:08:21 // //
  • Deepak is right; people may look confident on the outside but lack strength and stability on the inside. Many people have low self-esteem including me, but I have learned to slowly build my self confidence. Follow Deepak`s advice and also try going for walks or jogs, exercise, listen to music... Good luck!

    miamore // 2013-01-04 17:55:46 // //
  • Hello Deepak. This answer is very helpful. I feel that following the steps you have outlined will help many Thank you Namaste

    bodhimoments // 2013-01-03 20:58:44 // //
  • I feel stuck in all areas of my life and I don`t seem to know what I am capable of. How do I know my worth?

    Giselle2175 // 2013-01-03 20:52:56 // //