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Instant Anger Management
Question:

What is the best way to get rid of anger on the spot? After I've been angry I usually go back and ask myself why I was angry, why did that hurt me, etc., to release those reasons. But do you know of ways to prevent on-the-spot anger? (Yes, occasionally I have Pitta tendencies - could you tell?


Response:

First of all you need to recognize the anger response in yourself before you express it in words or behavior to others. Here’s a formula I give in my book Superbrain that you can use over and over again to override that anger-instinctive-reaction. It’s easy to remember and uses the acronym, S.T.O.P.

S. Stands for stop, just stop, hold on, wait a minute.
T. Stands for take three deep breath and then smile. Feel your whole body smile.
O. Stands for observe what’s happening inside of you. The anger probably doesn’t feel very good. But you have to observe it to know that. Acknowledge how it feels.
P. Stands for proceed with awareness and kindness.

Try to make this a habit every time you feel your instinctive anger response trying to get the better of you and make you irritated. It will work wonders. After a while you will have retrained yourself not to react angrily, but with awareness.

Love,
Deepak

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There's a room for everything.. God relieves us from our everyday heartaches and mental stress so box-out all your frustrations!Life is really stressful.
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