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Honoring Others Positions
Question:

Dear Deepak: Based on your prior posts, your interpretation of how to deal with things you can't control in life was : "Once you are able to honor others choices without taking it personally, you will be at peace". What if other's choices is against your beliefs? How would you define "boundaries" in a relationships and how can we "stand up" for our rights if we should honor other's choices? Thanks.

Response:
Honoring others choices will often mean that they are in conflict with your own choices and beliefs. If their views agree with yours, then there is nothing that challenges you to broaden your perspective. To honor another’s choices that you disagree with means that even though they have come to a different position from yours, you can understand and respect the different experiences and backgrounds that have led to their choices. This is the cornerstone of all successful conflict resolution.

Standing up for your rights and boundaries will vary from one person to the other depending upon how they interpret what are their rights and the boundaries of their self. For adults in the process of healing a past of childhood abuse, they will feel many typical human interactions violate of their rights and boundaries that others without that background wouldn’t necessarily feel. But as we heal our past, the sense of rights and boundaries tends to shift away from a defensive stance toward more of a simple knowingness of what is important to your growth and joy and life and maintaining a focus on that and not worrying about conflicting opinions. Everyone is entitled to their own views, their own path of growth, their own life choices, just as you are. When you can honor that, in spite of it being different than your own path, then it makes life more peaceful and enjoyable, and the boundary issues take care of themselves.

Love,
Deepak
 

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well said!
Sarah Revels - February 28, 2013
nice ppix sirji
Suri Ko Yaad Rakhana - February 26, 2013
parece la portada
Miguel Henry Morales Vega - February 25, 2013
(y)
Adam Pitts - February 25, 2013
Brilliantly placed words to describe exactly how I feel about this subject
Joe Figliano - February 24, 2013
beautiful
Laina Calliope - February 24, 2013
Thank you Deepak! Looking forward to your next M. Challenge!
Karin Weidemann - February 24, 2013
I really needed this one today thank you!!
Candyce Hosterman - February 23, 2013
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