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Comparing Ages

How can you stop constantly thinking about the process of "aging"? I am 34 years old and an undergraduate student in my senior year; everyday, I compare myself to my 20 years old colleagues and how accomplished they will be by the time they will turn my age; I also compare myself to people my age with 13 years of work experience and I keep telling myself that "I should have started my school 10 years earlier". I tried to use positive affirmations but these thoughts are really loud and are making me feel weak. How can I turn my mind off from thinking that " I am getting TOO OLD for doing this or that" ?


Getting your university degree and starting your career in your thirties is not a big deal. Becoming a mature and well-rounded adult is not a race or a time-sensitive enterprise like being an Olympic gymnast where you have a small age window of time to compete. What matters for you is that have decided that now is the time for you to get your degree. You are living your life consciously and that is what’s important in the long run. There is a high likelihood that most of your fellow classmates are there because they don’t know what else to do, or their parents have pressured them to stay in school. When they turn 34 and discover they are not happy with their life, they may be envious of you. When you compare yourself to others, you are assuming things about their lives that you cannot possibly know, while casting your own life in the worst light. It’s better to simply make life choices that are aligned with your true needs and purpose and not compare it to anyone else’s, because your life isn’t anyone else’s.


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Just started a new business at 65 years old, after retiring from a professional career of 43 years. I think I have half my life ahead! I am looking forward to living to at least 125, seriously. My hair has not even turned gray or white!! I have not ever abused my alcohol, no smoking, no drugs........only whole fresh foods, exercise at YMCA, walking at state and national parks, sailing, meditating, mind games, board games, friends, family, church, community work, working hrs on house and yard!, designing environment, exploring, learning more and more and more each day, singing, piano, drawing and painting, etc. Aging is awesome! I am soooooo fortunate and full of gratitude for the life I have built!. I made a commitment to myself at age 12 to do this and, by golly, I am going to do it. No blame to anyone or even God, if there are mistakes along the way. It is up to ME! And me alone to make this life what I want. Plow ahead! Learn from mistakes. Look at history of world, of our country, of our own life. Assimilate! Process! Each moment is ours to develop in whatever way we choose.
MarcBSKW - February 4, 2013
Eres muy joven para estar pensando que ya no tienes edad para est o para aquello,nunca es tarde para nada,podras tener algunas limitaciones o no ,disfruta de tu sueño y ya.No tengas miedo de envejecer,estmos acostumbrandonos en estos tiempos a desvalorizar a la gente madura ,y a considerar a las personas de mas de 45 anos como viejas e inhutiles,..y no es asi despues de esta edad se logra la plenitud...Vive, corre tras tus sueños sin miedo o restricciones impuestas por tu mente producto de una sociedad que impone modelos erroneos.
bettina - February 2, 2013
im 29 years old and 2nd year of faculty . i started to study again after i graduated first faculty , then i decided to study what i like . when im in good mood i feel good about it , when i get depressed it is very hard cause all my fears come up . i also have problem because my mother is too controllative and by her actions my self confidence gets law and i feel that she prevents me from getting mature independent .\n please contact me anyone who is in similar situation , lets encourage ourselves .
me - February 1, 2013
What does a 66 year married man do with his life who has a PhD without work, an MBA and no work and a BS in Accounting and no one wants to hire him because of his ethnic background? He can`t find a job in accounting after 45 years of accounting work (not a CPA), sales and service. He looks about 46, but his Social Security states a different actual appearance. How does he make a contribution to society and stop getting those Social Security checks which barely pays for the monthly lease. The only neat thing is that this guy has a wife he loves who earns unemployment benefits and Social Security.
Bozo - February 1, 2013
I have a lot of similar feelings. I am 41 finishing my masters and getting ready for a complete career change. I really like the answer. It can be tough sometimes when so many people seem obsessed with age.
Skella - February 1, 2013
@Rgarrett could you please tell me more about how your 65 yo dad started a new career? I`m 51 and I have such a great desire to do the same thing. I have so many ideas too!! However, I just don`t know how to begin. Please help. Thank you. :)
PattyT - February 1, 2013
I started college at 30 and I remember a friend telling me, when I had similar feeling about being to old to go ti school, that in ten years I would be forty year old with a degree or a forty year old without a degree. The choice was mine. Needless to say I was a forty year with a BS in Computer Science. One of the best decisions I ever made.
brucem - February 1, 2013
I am also 34 and in college. Don`t feel bad. I had health problems and took care of my mother who was ill. I went back to community college at 25 and then transferred to university. I got one degree and I am working on another. I love to learn. People ask me why am I in school at my age? It is none of their business. You can go to school at any age!
PJ - February 1, 2013