How do I let go of the love I feel for someone who is unavailable? How do I stop hoping for something more from this person when they aren't able to give it?
You don’t expect a co-worker to be able to give you a yacht, or sing an aria from a Verdi opera. When you aren’t blinded by your emotional needs, you match your hopes and expectations realistically from the people around you. You love someone who is not available, and the real difficulty is that you cannot let go of your hope that he will, or could be available perhaps if he loved you more or if fate weren’t set against you.
The path to healing this situation is understanding the emotions and beliefs you are holding about yourself that are make you hold on to this unrealistic and painful expectation. Once you have healed the mistaken belief, you can let go of the hurtful hoping but keep the love.