Unfinished Business.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
I fell in love with a 22-year-old girl (for the first time in my life, I’m 32) who was my private teacher in music. At first, I found her just cute but I did not feel attracted to her at all as a women (maybe because she’s young) but I felt an immediate connection with her I’d never felt before. From her body language and many things, signs I felt from the beginning that she was really attracted to me, and as time went by I realised that I had feelings for her. (It seemed her personality was very similar to mine) and I wanted to get to know her better but did not get any real opportunity to meet her apart from our classes (she had a boyfriend) although I tried everything. After 6-7 months I wrote her an e-mail in which I told her to stop lessons since I had feelings for her and how I knew the whole thing was so unrealistic etc… I also met with her but she was very negative and hostile and had nothing nice to say to me. She behaved as if she was a different person. (although by that time she had broken up with his boyfriend).
How do you think I can move on? I feel so UNFINISHED since I never got a real chance to get to know her. During summer we had no lessons but I wanted to meet her so much that we accidentally met on the street. (was that accidental? This kind of thing never happened to me before.) So, I’m still hoping that life gives me a second chance to get to know her but it’s been a month and nothing happened and maybe that was it. What do you suggest? Maybe I should not have stopped our lessons but my feelings hurt me so much and no possibility showed up to get closer to her. It hurts so much and I miss her and don’t understand why this happened.
Response:
If you still feel you are in love with her, call her up and tell her. Don’t wait for Nature to give you a second chance, make the second chance yourself. Explain to her what happened and how you feel. If she is still interested, you can ask if you can meet up with her for lunch or coffee to talk, and take it from there. If she isn’t interested, then at least you have something real now to react to and that can help you find closure and move on.
Love,
Deepak
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Unfinished Business.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
I have felt that my life, since age 14, has been a series of coincidental incidents. I have said many times, “Life gives one glimpses into the future if you pay attention to and acknowledge the signs”! For example, at age 14, I met my future mother-in-law and some how “knew” she would be an important part of my life. Twenty-five years later, I married her son. True story. I have experienced many situations like this in my life but only put a name to it when I read your book about SynchroDestiny. I now believe nothing is coincidence, it’s all part of the grand plan designed for us by G&d. My question for you is this: Is there a concept of “unfinished destiny”? I ask because I have someone in my life who is becoming more important to me and I wonder if we have an unfinished destiny to explore. Do you believe this is possible?
Response:
Yes, there can be unfinished business with people. The karma that we have put into play from the past that has not yet come to fruition all comes under the umbrella of unfinished business. But keep in mind that this karma is not necessarily ironclad destiny. It can be modified and changed through our present choices as well. The cosmic intelligence that orchestrates all actions in the universe is infinitely flexible and responds to individual actions as well.
Love,
Deepak
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Unfinished Business.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
I fell in love with a 22 year girl (for the first time in my life, I'm 32) who was my private teacher in music. At first, I found her just cute but I did not feel attracted to her at all as a women(maybe because she's young) but I felt an immediate connection with her I'd never felt before. From her body language and many things, signs I felt from the beginning that she was really attracted to me, and as time went by I realized that I had feelings for her. (It seemed her personality was very similar to mine) and I wanted to get to know her better but did not get any real opportunity to meet her apart from our classes (she had a boyfriend) although I tried everything.
After 6-7 months I wrote her an e-mail in which I told her to stop lessons since I had feelings for her and how I knew the whole thing was so unrealistic etc… I also met with her but she was very negative and hostile and had nothing nice to say to me. She behaved as if she was a different person. (although by that time she had broken up with his boyfriend).
How do you think I can move on? I feel so UNFINISHED since I never got a real chance to get to know her. During summer we had no lessons but I wanted to meet her so much that we accidentally met on the street. (was that accidental? This kind of thing never happened to me before.) So, I'm still hoping that life gives me a second chance to get to know her but it's been a month and nothing happened and maybe that was it. What do you suggest? Maybe I should not have stopped our lessons but my feelings hurt me so much and no possibility showed up to get closer to her. It hurts so much and I miss her and don't understand why this happened.
Answer:
If you still feel you are in love with her, call her up and tell her. Don’t wait for Nature to give you a second chance, make the second chance yourself. Explain to her what happened and how you feel. If she is still interested, you can ask if you can meet up with her for lunch or coffee to talk, and take it from there. If she isn’t interested, then at least you have something real now to react to and that can help you find closure and move on.
Love,
Deepak
You two are at two different phases in your life. Her primary state is that of the achiever and she may be stuck in her ego. You my friend are at the stage of the seeker. You are seeking really someone of your same desires and love. Buy the book The Way of The Wizard or Go to you tube and watch the hour long video and it will all make sense what I am talking about.
Try. Don`t wait for opportunities, create your own. My husband and I have quite a large age difference (we married when I was 19 and he was 37). I am 28 now, and I truly do not think I could have found someone who better understands me, who was more "made for me" than him.
I think she might have reacted that way because she is too young and doesn`t have enough experience, girls often taught to be hard to get, and sometimes it takes a few good lost oportunities to realize for women that it is a misleading approach. If you felt she liked you(gut feeling rerely lies), I think you should try again.