Leaving Toxic Situations.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
Is it better to remove ourselves from toxic situations (an abusive and dysfunctional family) or to stay and attempt to neutralise the toxicity?
Response:
It makes more sense to leave a toxic situation if it is a situation that is not strongly tied into your own issues, like abusive work situations or negative acquaintances. Family and close friends are a completely different situation. Often, in addition to the love and support, what connects you to them is your own toxic issues. You will not eliminate the toxic relationship without healing your own internal trauma and pain first. If the situation is physically abusive, or you find it too painful to be around them, then you should leave and work on your side of the issue on your own. But if the other person or person is committed to healing the toxic issue between you, then you will gain a much deeper healing if you stick with it and work it out together, even if it is difficult. There is a reason why you are in this toxic relationship with some instead of being alone with your issues. You should try to understand and make use of that relationship before you leave it.
Love,
Deepak
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Leaving Toxic Situations.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
Is it better to remove ourselves from toxic situations (an abusive and dysfunctional family) or to stay and attempt to neutralise the toxicity?
Response:
It makes more sense to leave a toxic situation if it is a situation that is not strongly tied into your own issues, like abusive work situations or negative acquaintances. Family and close friends are a completely different situation. Often, in addition to the love and support, what connects you to them is your own toxic issues. You will not eliminate the toxic relationship without healing your own internal trauma and pain first. If the situation is physically abusive, or you find it too painful to be around them, then you should leave and work on your side of the issue on your own. But if the other person or person is committed to healing the toxic issue between you, then you will gain a much deeper healing if you stick with it and work it out together, even if it is difficult. There is a reason why you are in this toxic relationship with some instead of being alone with your issues. You should try to understand and make use of that relationship before you leave it.
Love,
Deepak
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Mine was a short relationship, around 1 month old, before that we were friends and I have been happy being with him until the second he decided to leave. It was a case of ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ and I was caught totally off guard when that happened. It has been half a year since, I somewhat did the NC and now he does text/chat with me once in a while which is kinda good. However, it seems like I am always the one who initiate contact. I looking for a website with love spells that work fasts. I choose http://magical-rituals.com and I’m very satisfied. Boyfriend back to me and his depression is over.
I have an extremely toxic family. Growing up with a huge superiority complex inherited from my parents, bad sibling rivalry, watching awful family fights unveil among aunts to the point where people don`t talk for years and their kids can`t play together and constant gossip. In my teens and early twenties I had very volatile dating relationships, binge drinking and by my mid twenties a full on Xanax addiction. My parents were poor and were often in need of assistance. My mom always put guilt on me about who I was and despite my set backs I earned two grad degrees with honors. I seemed to always balance my problems with success much to my families disappointment as misery loves company. Now at 15 years --My father has continued a nasty pain pill habit that left my parents essentially homeless living in a hotel at one point, making me feel awful, ashamed, depressed and obligated to save. My parents are very proud and any act of kindness is never appreciated, and I always feel yucky despite buying them cars, payong bills and buying clothes and loaning them money. Eventually I ended up in a serious relationship, not a healthy one. I became pregnant and eloped, this was not taken well and eventually my husband and mother got into a huge fight which my mother instigated seven days after my child was born. Then my mother mandated that every single family member, aunts, uncles, brothers, grandparents and family friends abandon me. As a result, I had terrible postpartum depression which elevated my unhealthy relationship to a new level as my depression grew deeper my husbands alcoholism did also. This then brought about heated physical fights and extreme loneliness and more Xanax. Eventually we divorced, and I was alone with my son who then diagnosed with autism. I reached out during the silence with photo albums, Christmas gifts and no response and acknowledgment of my child- the only grandchild. By the time my son turned three I met a wonderful man who I married and he convinced me to reunite with my family. So I did, they never have apologized still. Now my father is dying so I moved my family near me and bought everything I could to improve their life. My brother had no where to live so I moved him in my home and got him a job. My parents use the car I got them and smoke in it, ( it`s in my name as a lease) throw garbage in it and treat it awful. All in all, I come to find out they all hate me and have just been using me- I am devastated. What do I do?