Disturbing Childhood Memories.
When your mind and heart are truly open abundance will flow to you effortlessly and easily.
Question:
Dear Dr. Chopra, Recently I married the woman I truly love. However, in the background two things have been happening in my life. 1. I’m being hit by an onslaught of memories from my childhood. Result: I feel bad about my upbringing. 2. I’m reviewing my relationship with my father which has always been strained and nonexistent. I have a severe degree of hate and loath towards him. He used to physically abuse my mother and never really communicated with me ever. He says he’s there for me, but I know he really doesn’t care. Please help me with these feelings, since my life is stalled and affects my day to day life. Regards,
Response:
These memories are coming up now in your life because you are entering a new phase of your life and you are ready to heal and let go of these past childhood traumas. Don’t let your feelings get stuck in the old pain and injustice. Realize that you are now an adult and have survived those experiences and you are now in a position to draw wisdom from all of your past to make you a wiser, more compassionate and loving person. As you honor your past in this way, you can let its grip on you fade away so you can engage fully in your present life with your wife.
Love,
Deepak
We can actually relieve our minds by unburdening them from painful or unpleasant memories concerning family elders. The fatigued mind rejoices once we, in a flash of understanding, realize that the elders, besides being close family, are, more significantly, mere human beings, such as ourselves, prone to virtues and vices as naturally as ourselves. The halo of elevated expectations of inculpability in character, which we associate with elders and which is at the base of wrenching traumas, might need to be understood as what it actually is-- a misty adolescent wish-fulfilling illusion.
We can actually relieve our minds by unburdening them from painful or unpleasant memories concerning family elders. The fatigued mind rejoices once we, in a flash of understanding, realize that the elders, besides being close family, are, more significantly, mere human beings, such as ourselves, prone to virtues and vices as naturally as ourselves. The halo of elevated expectations of inculpability in character, which we associate with elders and which is at the base of wrenching traumas, might need to be understood as what it actually is-- a misty adolescent wish-fulfilling illusion.
Love the explanation you have given. I so believe in this too.