Helping Others
Category: Ask Deepak
Dear Deepak, I liked very much your article about worrying. I just have one question that may turn to be a whole new topic, but considering what you wrote there, I'd like to ask you - how do we know when we have done all we can to help the people we're worrying about?
Response:
Helping other people is an expression of the fullness we feel inside, and in that sense when we give to others we are giving of ourselves back to ourselves. That feeling of giving freely and joyfully should be the real basis of knowing where to draw the line. If you let your sense of guilt or obligation drive your decision, then you will be trying to fix the past in the present, and that never works.
Love,
Deepak
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In the realm of duality we cannot help nobody. you will each time be confronted with the same feeling of opposite in this case your Joy opposite to others suffering. when you turn on the light in a room where others are in the darkness. you dont take away your light to turn it on. you simple turn on the light and the darkness disappear in the room. and the light is there for everybody. you are not the creator of light. light is there and is there for everybody. compassion and wisdom always compass together as a pair.
Valery // 2012-02-19 19:06:57 // 3 Like(s) // -
For me I know I have helped another as much as I can within my humaness..when I`ve laid the beautiful universal spiritual kit of principles before them coupled with the physical resources available to them.. That`s when I pray and ask the Universe for acceptance and practice the serenity prayer.."accept the things I cannot change..others..change the things I can..me... and have the wisdom to know the difference"
drdsharesakey // 2012-02-19 13:37:33 // 1 Like(s) // -
I dont no when we have done enough, what i no, is that some things are a part of your live, like your children ore your vriends, and you dont want any harm for them. Maybe I am just scarred for what wil happen if i go for my self! Living with people whom do not have a normal social live is some times hard for me! Lets say, this evening i had a visit from my brother and his new girlfriend. My son flips out because of the differents of the day my vriend veld asleep on the cauche and my daughter stays upstairs because she now`s this routine.Wel now i am hooked on facebook and fine in the morning nowing i can always get insperation from the books of two different people, Deepak Chopa and Paulo Coelho, THANK YOU!
Monique Franke // 2012-02-18 17:36:04 // 1 Like(s) // -
The Law Of Least Effort This Law says that if you can learn to be in the harmony with the nature, you can do less and accomplish more in your life. The nature’s intelligence functions with effortless ease to create all the things that you see, touch and listen in this world. You can do the same. You can create whatever you want with effortless ease. To use this law in your life, you need to recognize these three components. The first component is – Acceptance. You need to accept people, situations and circumstances as they are. The second component is – Responsibility. You should take full responsibility of your life. You should not blame others for your mistakes. The third component is – defenselessness. You should not try to convince or persuade others on your point of view. You should not waste your energy to seek power and to control other people.
Readtoawake // 2012-02-18 16:52:18 // 3 Like(s) // -
You are not helping them by helping them. When they are miserable enough they will go within and change. You are not responsible for them. The only one you can change is you. You have and they don`t. What exactly do you mean by that. When you are a thing you need things. Do you feel sorry for them because they don`t have things. I have a friend who is `financially bad` according to her. Whenever we get together she complains that she doesn`t have money. We left a restaurant because she told me it was too expensive. The prices were within the normal range in that small town, yet, she didn`t complain about her daughters hair salon visit that morning, dying her long hair 2 different colors. She complaint that she doesn`t have money for food for Christmas while I watched her buying gift cards at a cosmetic place for her daughters, sending them to Hawaii for 3 weeks, getting them $300 spa treatments for their birthdays. I can go on and on. She has no gratitude. Don`t listen to people`s whining. Their perceptions of their life`s circustances are wharped. I used to want to help people because I used to belief them when they griped about their circumstances. No more. They need to pull themselves out of their own ditches that they dug for themselves. If you help them you weaken them. You always have to clean up your own mess, that`s the law of attraction.
Christine // 2012-02-18 11:36:43 // 0 Like(s) // -
sometimes i wonder myself the same question as you are. It happens with my mum specially, because she says she is depress, i`m tired to give her a lot of advises for been better and she says a lot of excuses for not to do it. i think that we have to do what is within our reach and then respect the decision of that person. we can help others with money, words, actions, contacts, etc there are a lot of ways of helping people but always with things we can help. I think we always can improve others lives with our actions.-
laura Argentina // 2012-02-18 09:02:14 // 0 Like(s) // -
:)
Sal Bra // 2012-02-17 20:29:16 // 0 Like(s) // -
Since you feel guilty for having wealth then go ahead and share all of it with the people you so worry about. That should end the guilt once and for all. Bear in mind that after you do you may reconsider the premise that it`s your job to help these people.
Mark // 2012-02-17 18:43:06 // 2 Like(s) // -
wounds can pull you back in the "past" ..so i belive they can be healed in the present with forgiveness ,love and moving on to present so my point of view is like this is fixing the "past" in the present
whatever // 2012-02-17 17:01:38 // 0 Like(s) // -
Begin by exhanging the word concern for the word worry. It is nice to express concern, lighter, easier. Thanks so much. I love your presence in my facebook thread.
Christina Kook // 2012-02-17 16:40:25 // 0 Like(s) // -
i guess it is never enough if you can and feel like helping:)
Constantinescu I. Valentin // 2012-02-17 16:39:51 // 0 Like(s) // -
good advice Deepak
Kathy Sadler Mead // 2012-02-17 16:38:52 // 0 Like(s) // -
sometimes u can let it go too far and allow urself to become someone who calls themselves a victim,, that is hard to over come,,,,,, but slowly u can do that ,, but that is just my opinion,,,
Sarah Mclaughlin // 2012-02-17 16:33:46 // 0 Like(s) // -
When it starts to effect our peace of mind, when it goes beyond the boundriea,,,,
Sarah Mclaughlin // 2012-02-17 16:30:31 // 0 Like(s) // -
Exactly! Especially,when you are your own God :D
Alex Chamberlain // 2012-02-17 16:29:46 // 0 Like(s) // -
Pray, and let God worry :D
Rosie Palm // 2012-02-17 16:26:59 // 0 Like(s) //
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The Law Of Least Effort This Law says that if you can learn to be in the harmony with the nature, you can do less and accomplish more in your life. The nature’s intelligence functions with effortless ease to create all the things that you see, touch and listen in this world. You can do the same. You can create whatever you want with effortless ease. To use this law in your life, you need to recognize these three components. The first component is – Acceptance. You need to accept people, situations and circumstances as they are. The second component is – Responsibility. You should take full responsibility of your life. You should not blame others for your mistakes. The third component is – defenselessness. You should not try to convince or persuade others on your point of view. You should not waste your energy to seek power and to control other people.
Readtoawake // 2012-02-18 16:52:18 // 3 Like(s) // LikeIn the realm of duality we cannot help nobody. you will each time be confronted with the same feeling of opposite in this case your Joy opposite to others suffering. when you turn on the light in a room where others are in the darkness. you dont take away your light to turn it on. you simple turn on the light and the darkness disappear in the room. and the light is there for everybody. you are not the creator of light. light is there and is there for everybody. compassion and wisdom always compass together as a pair.
Valery // 2012-02-19 19:06:57 // 3 Like(s) // Like