Loving Yourself
Category: Ask Deepak
How do I learn to love myself? Where do I start?
Start with meditation. To love yourself you must know your real self, not your relative, conditioned self. Instead of trying to manufacture a sense of emotional self-love through affirmations, it will be more useful to let the direct experience of your inner consciousness reveal itself naturally. That self-knowledge of one’s infinite nature brings a genuine sense of appreciation and gratitude that is the basis of self-love.
Love,
Deepak
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I learnt to love myself by what I gave or did for others. Make me happy, buy myself gifts and give me time out. Create my own personal space and most of all be there for heart,my soul. Everyday I get up ,I am grateful to have another day to choose how I want to live my life.
Faith // 2012-02-26 22:00:58 // 0 Like(s) // -
Love is the most sublime and subtle realm. It is the reign of Heaven within us. we only realize Love if we lay down everything on the sacred ground of the Temple of Love. we can not love ourselves through a human sense. we only can go into the realm of Divine Love. the door of Love is always open . it is never closed. but it demand of us to recognize our pure essence to enter with the innocence of a child. It is Love that refines the gold in us. It is the essence of Loves that makes shines the diamond with glimpse of perfect rainbow. It is Love which heals whatever suffering. You dont need to Love yourself. it is the pure intention of Love in itself to Love. It is the higher goal of Love for you to be One with Love. It is God saying to us "I Am Love, you are my child" It is the Heart of Compassion of Buddha. It is wisdom. It is all. Love is the unic that really exist. but we are blind., still Love is awakening us. It is need you to Love yourself it is you to step out of the way to let the Glory of Love shine in you.
Valery // 2012-02-25 13:03:30 // 0 Like(s) // -
Many are harder on themselves than they are on others. They hold themselves to higher standards and (in their minds) are so unkind and unloving to self ~ often more so than they would be to someone they believed they hated. The first step is to make a decision such as: I will love myself. I am learning how to do this more and more each day. This journey to learning to love myself will be joyful. Then, once the decision is made begin doing many things. Karen suggested meditation and that is a great tool. Other tools are 1) look for a better feeling thought. For example, if you make a `mistake` do you use that incident to paint your whole self? Do you believe things like "I cannot do anything right"? Clearly that is not correct. Repudiate that awful thought with facts. 2) Look for things to appreciate about yourself. Don`t worry if no one else appreciates them or even notices; you appreciate things about yourself. Everyone has things about themselves to appreciate such as eyes that can see or ears that can listen to beautiful music or fingers that can caress or a mouth that can offer comforting words to a friend or a smile to a stranger, legs that transport your body, arms that can hug. You get the idea. We ALL have much we can appreciate about ourselves. There are many more tools and techniques. I like to recommend a CD Louise Hay did, "How to Love Yourself".
Happiness 1st // 2012-02-08 10:40:16 // 0 Like(s) // -
I don`t agree with what dr Chopra wrote. He said, "To love yourself you must know your real self, not your relative, conditioned self. Instead of trying to manufacture a sense of emotional self-love through affirmations". Am I then to understand that someone who`s overweight or whatever, should not try to love herself anyway she looks? Is all self-love bad - I mean the superficial aspects. And what are these superficial aspects, really? Is it so bad to love your face or your body, no matter what you look like. Should you tell someone who perceives her/himself as ugly no to try and love her/himself. I know what your`re gonna say - that Chopra is talking about the soul aspect. Well, so am I to a degree. Of course you should not limit yourself to your looks but really try and find out who you really are - I`m all for that! I`m just saying that as long as it`s not taken to it`s extreme, there`s nothing wrong with loving your bodily self.
Robbiezen // 2012-02-08 08:23:31 // 2 Like(s) // -
Empiezo por amar a Dios sobre todas las cosas y al prójimo como a mí mismo!
Cecilia Guerrero Calderon // 2012-02-07 19:55:28 // 1 Like(s) // -
now with all my faults and misgivings ...
Stella Songhee Kim // 2012-02-07 14:22:11 // 0 Like(s) // -
I totally agree that meditation can help one reach a genuine knowledge of self and self-love. I`ve found that forgiveness is also necessary for many people, which can open the heart chakra to love and compassion for oneself and others. To reach forgiveness for ourselves, we need to forgive others and to practice kindness and compassion - then self-love is almost automatic. To open your heart chakra, download my free Chakra Meditations at www.thechakras.org. Namaste, Becca Chopra
Becca Chopra // 2012-02-07 13:46:44 // 1 Like(s) // -
So many people have asked me this, especial people with issues..my answer: Every morning look in the mirror and say out loud (as you point to yourself) I love you (meaning yourself) do this everyday for at least a week, tell yourself you are beautiful, etc Learn to talk positive to yourself! Works!!
dianebelair@live.ca // 2012-02-07 11:39:45 // 2 Like(s) // -
Love yourself first. Meditation is the key.
Karen Whynott // 2012-02-07 11:17:50 // 0 Like(s) // -
I would like to thank the person who asked this question. And Dear Deepak.. thank you so much for your answer. I have been searching an answer to this myself.
ANITA // 2012-02-07 11:00:13 // 0 Like(s) // -
I think the "how to" of loving oneself is similar to loving others. As one detaches from the sense of self or ego, and has lesser expectation and lesser self aggrandizement, we will be less harsh on ourselves, and learn to love who we are the way we are. The article on how to cope with hatred @ http://spritualitynmanagement.blogspot.in/2012/02/how-to-cope-with-person-you-hate.html might be relevant here
Sai Dattathrani // 2012-02-07 10:59:38 // 9 Like(s) // -
My way of meditation is writing my own thoughts. It deletes the clutter in my head. It tells me positives and negatives.
Sunny Sodday // 2012-02-07 10:58:07 // 5 Like(s) // -
TY. Self love is the greatest love of all.
David Monconduit // 2012-02-07 10:39:08 // 0 Like(s) //
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I think the "how to" of loving oneself is similar to loving others. As one detaches from the sense of self or ego, and has lesser expectation and lesser self aggrandizement, we will be less harsh on ourselves, and learn to love who we are the way we are. The article on how to cope with hatred @ http://spritualitynmanagement.blogspot.in/2012/02/how-to-cope-with-person-you-hate.html might be relevant here
Sai Dattathrani // 2012-02-07 10:59:38 // 9 Like(s) // LikeMy way of meditation is writing my own thoughts. It deletes the clutter in my head. It tells me positives and negatives.
Sunny Sodday // 2012-02-07 10:58:07 // 5 Like(s) // Like