Worrying
Category: Ask Deepak
Deepak, how can we not worry about the ones we love? This time of year is rich in family and friends gatherings and though there are many happy moments, i cannot help but worrying about health, relationships or financial issues being dealt with by sister, mother, father in law and more. Worrying about it does not resolve anything but i cannot help it. Any suggestions?
When you worry about grown adults that you have already done all you can to help, then even though you love them, you are also assuming that there is something wrong with their life plan. When you worry under these circumstances there is an inherent distrust in the cosmic intelligence of the universe to bring your loved ones exactly what they need at the exact right time. Worry implies that if anything unpleasant or difficult happens to your father-in-law, then that must be bad and a sign that something is wrong. In fact, often the greatest joys, breakthroughs and strengths come from dealing with life’s challenges as they arise.
So the next time you start to worry, look at what you are presuming about their lives—that you know better than their own higher selves what life experiences they need now. That is true for a parent of a young child, but that is not your situation. Even if you can’t trust that their lives are guided by a higher intelligence than yours, at least recognize that you don’t really know what life experiences are best for their spiritual evolution, and so there is no point in worrying that the wrong ones might happen. Know that your love is a guaranteed good in their life, so send them lots of love instead of worry.
Love,
Deepak
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You are right. I have a problem with worrying about my loved ones and your words have helped me a great deal. I will read this over and over again until I can truly practice the words in my life. Thank you.
ac918@aol.com // 2012-01-16 08:31:45 // 0 Like(s) // -
perfect. thank you for saying this exactly as you did.
Susan // 2012-01-12 12:25:07 // 0 Like(s) // -
right on
MamaDIGS // 2012-01-12 11:58:21 // 0 Like(s) // -
Well, that`s easy for Dr Chopra to say; I wonder if he plays the same game as he talks. It`s very easy for someone to say, "don`t worry", "send love" and what not when you talk to others - albeit, in essence, I agree with most of what he said. I just feel I have to say my piece and not just shovel everything I read and hear down the chute of my information repository. We have to learn about criticism of the sources and to post-analyze what we read, and not taking anything for granted; we have to learn to dare to speak out regardless of the authorship. It`s true that we really shouldn`t worry about or loved ones - at least not too much, being that it clouds our love for them and poorly reroutes our focus. But to say that we don`t trust the higher intelligence of the cosmos or the evolution of their souls, and subsequently worry - or vice versa - for them is pushing it a bit too far. I don`t know, I could be wrong. I just wanted to say my piece instead of acceding to everything. Just like Christopher Hitchens, I wish to look thoroughly into stuff and give my comment - but, then again, it`s just my humble opinion...
Robert // 2012-01-12 08:46:52 // 1 Like(s) // -
The best part what I have learnt from Deepak is that, We have to be the witness to all the things happening to us, in that situation there is no worry,anxiety or stress.....and then we can use the same mind for finding the solution......Thank you Deepak for being in our life.
Abhijeet Tiwari // 2012-01-11 22:12:28 // 0 Like(s) // -
So true! When we trust, we have peace and we can bring peace.
Melanie // 2012-01-11 20:06:59 // 1 Like(s) // -
One day at a time, one moment at a time. Plan 15 minutes per day to worry and then forget about it. Hey, I am not from New York, LOL.
Sherry Harris // 2012-01-11 18:41:08 // 0 Like(s) // -
how do we know when we have done all we can to help them? where and who draws that line?
Margarita // 2012-01-11 16:24:10 // 0 Like(s) // -
Excellent council. And thank you to the person who asked this question- I deal with the exact same issue. Trusting in the universe will help guide me through.
citizen light // 2012-01-11 16:23:54 // 0 Like(s) // -
That is perfect. I will remember this before I start worrying. Good advice deepak!
Kat // 2012-01-11 15:56:40 // 0 Like(s) // -
This is exactly what I needed to read today!! You summed things up so eloquently. I feel as if a large portion of my life has been solidified.
Vonyse // 2012-01-11 15:55:01 // 0 Like(s) // -
Letting go of the chatter is the path!! I use a reinforcement in those moments by asking that "only devine energy be welcome". We are all worthy of good things!!! And when I am really overwhelmed I look to gratitude. There is always something to be grateful for in this life..focus on that, and the energy will shift. Oh...and breath, because it is just another wave in your conscientiousness, breaking through, giving you an opportunity to choose how you want to embrase your humanness.
Marilyn Colquhoun // 2012-01-11 15:37:29 // 1 Like(s) // -
Let worrying be. Negative thoughts happen, you can`t get rid of them forever. The trick is not to empower them. Watch them like passing clouds in the sky.
The Emotion Machine // 2012-01-11 15:15:18 // 1 Like(s) // -
Worrying brings on nothing but illness
Elkie Tagle // 2012-01-11 14:11:03 // 0 Like(s) // -
I really like it, sounds very wise, I am going to try to do that all the time.
Jose E. Ortega // 2012-01-11 14:08:46 // 0 Like(s) // -
Do the best you can and know you can only control you. Take it a day at a time and give it over to God....then rest in peace that ALL will be as it should be. Live for today...forget about yesterday and don`t worry about tomorrow because it was never promised. TODAY is the present and IS a present from God. Enjoy..relax and count your blessings. ....XXXXX
DeeDee Carlisle // 2012-01-11 13:18:42 // 0 Like(s) // -
Lovely response. So true.
Laurie Perez // 2012-01-11 13:14:12 // 0 Like(s) // -
You`re so right. I`m going on something similar with my father, I always wish there`s no harm no sorrow for the ones I love. But I cannot know what`s better for their espiritual path...I only can love them moment to moment just as it is.
Mimy // 2012-01-11 10:23:38 // 8 Like(s) // -
oh wow! that is THE perspective .so simple. so true!!
neelakshi // 2012-01-11 01:22:47 // 9 Like(s) //
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oh wow! that is THE perspective .so simple. so true!!
neelakshi // 2012-01-11 01:22:47 // 9 Like(s) // LikeYou`re so right. I`m going on something similar with my father, I always wish there`s no harm no sorrow for the ones I love. But I cannot know what`s better for their espiritual path...I only can love them moment to moment just as it is.
Mimy // 2012-01-11 10:23:38 // 8 Like(s) // Like